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Fortunately, I can sew really well so if the dress needs alterations, I can handle it. But I can't believe the shop made you pay for alterations after they measured you. That's clearly their fault! What nerve!
I'm hoping to lose more weight in my arms so I can get something with spaghetti straps... We'll see.
I don't know where everyone went. It's been really quiet around here lately though.
If you ever want to find me, I am usually posting over on the SparkPlugs Group Forum. Feel free to check it out and join if you like...
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| Kali, Hi, How are you holding up. I think Jackie's daughters wedding is soon. I can't remember the others, were has everybody gone? I don't blame you for not rushing in to get your dress. I was told that I had to oder 6 weeks ahead. I did and it came the week before. I cut things pretty short, especially when "they" measured me and said that I needed a 16 W Well when the dress came it was huge I only lost another 3 lbs. The accused me of losing more My reply was " don't you think that I would like to have lost more, I didn't" So I had to pay for alterations!!!!! I am still steamed about it, If I would have had more time I would have altered it, it still was so big the skirt kept falling down, they took at least 3 inches off all seems darts, etc... I look at the pictures and I think wow that dress was way to big. If they would have ordered a straight 14 it would have need only minor ajustments. Make sure that you go and try on some dresses Kali, that is the only way you will know if the sizes are true to form. And don't let them think that you need to look like an old granny. I wish that I could do this part of our wedding over. It can be alot of fun going to look for your dress. Does your daughter have anything particular in mind for you to wear? What are her colors? See I am getting excited for you. Talk to you later Kali. Diana
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So, how are all the beautiful mothers of the brides doing? Did you all manage to stay on track over the holiday weekend? Anyone with news to report? Any wedding updates?
I'm doing fine, hanging in there exercise and diet-wise. I still don't feel like I can buy a dress since the wedding's not 'til September but I still look online.
It's gotten hot here in Southern California so we're walking even earlier in the mornings to try to avoid the heat. Whew!
How are things in YOUR part of the world?
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My honey and I are stopping by one of our local wineries to taste a few glasses and buy a bottle of vino, packing a picnic, and heading to one of the local National forests for Memorial Day.
I hope each of you has a lovely peaceful holiday -- and for those who aren't in the US, have a great day even if it is a Monday!
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| Dear Kali, This weekend is very warm and nice in Michigan. I think that the lakes and beaches are probably full to the max around here. Diana have fun, enjoy talk to you later. Diana
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| Jackie, You are not ignorant, I think that you are extremely versed in US culture. I don't know anything about Isreals holidays nor what they stand for except what you've told us. Diana Talk to everyone later.
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That's exactly what it's for, Jackie. In many places it's also the unofficial start of summer. Here in So Cal, the beaches will be packed and our highways are full of people taking full advantage of the three day weekend!
kali
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/27/06 1:58 P
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Hi everyone! What exactly does Memorial Day stand for? Is it especially for remembering people from the armed forces who have been killed in action? In Israel we have a Memorial Day the day before Independance Day for all the soldiers who have been killed and also everyone by terrorists. In England there is a Rembrance Sunday, but its not a holiday.
I'm sorry that I'm so ignorant!!
But anyway, have a good weekend.
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KALINDRIA
5/27/06 12:46 A
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Diana and everyone else -- have a great Memorial Day holiday. I don't live close enough to put flowers on anyone's graves -- or the family crypt in New Orleans... But they will be in our thoughts and in our hearts. We will also be hosting a small family and friends BBQ on Sunday. Yes, I'll be good. I have a lovely fruit salad and veggie snacks planned and the rest of the food will be healthy also.
Have fun with your granddaughters, Diana. I would love to one day have a granddaughter... maybe one day soon.
Have a great weekend, everyone!!
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| Dear Kali, Thanks for telling me Jackies name change it is quite clever!!! I will probably be speratic or nonexistant the next couple of days as my husband is home and we will be watching our grandaughters tommorrow, my husband took me out to a movie tonight RV it was funny, I don't think you can every go wrong with Robin Williams. Have a great Memorial Day weekend everyone!!! I will go and put flowers on our family graves tommorrow. Better let you go. Diana
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| Dear Jackie, I didn't see your post about the name change I like it!!!! Very clever. It is a holiday weekend so I may or may not get to touch base with everyone, starting tommorrow morning we will have our 2 wonderful grandaughters. I don't know what is next. I do have to get my recital programs printed and certificate completed. I also need to spend time with my husband. Talk to you all later. Diana p.s. Happy Memorial Day.
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KALINDRIA
5/26/06 11:57 P
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Diana,
Jackie said Razayotair is the Hebrew word for "thinner."
She's renamed herself thinner. It's a good idea!
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KALINDRIA
5/26/06 11:56 P
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Welcome back, Kiki. Good to hear from you again. We missed you!!
Have a wonderful Memorial Day everyone!
kali
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KALINDRIA
5/26/06 11:52 P
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Hi Debbie. Welcome to the site. I'll be 51 next month but don't tell anyone, OK? I've been part of SparkPeople for two months now and lost 23 lbs. It really works if you stick with it.
I am a mother of a March 2006 bride - thankfully that wedding managed to happen and is OVER -- and another bride whose wedding is set for September 23rd. I want to look a lot better at the next wedding than I did at the first one.
Are you a mother of the bride also? We're glad to have you here and help in any way we can.
Welcome, welcome!!
kali
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| Jackie, What is Razayotair? Thanks for being there for me I guess sometimes I just need to get it out, even if I don't like doing it to friends or anybody. Talk to you later. Your Sparks pal. Diana
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/26/06 2:56 P
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Diana - like we have all said before - that's what we are here for!
Jackie
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| Dear Jackie, I always get so disgusted with myself for dumping on all of you. You are my friends and I really hate when I do this again I apologize. Sometimes I keep thinking that things will get better. I am sure if God has this in mind for me I will but if he has another plan then I must fullfill it. He will only give me what I can handle. I am just sorry that I make all of you handle my problems too!!! This isn't fair to all of you. I am so sorry again everyone. I REALLY AM EXCITED FOR ALL OF YOU MOTHERS IT IS A WONDERFUL LIFETIME EXPERIENCE ENJOY!!! Diana
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5/26/06 12:19 P
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Diana - whenever you tell us about your illness, I feel so full of admiration for you, because it seems that you still find the strength to be busy and do other people's weddings.
Thank you both for sharing your emails. I will email you both!
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| Jackie, I am so excited for you and your dauther hope you will all have the time of your life!!!! Yes you will have a waterfall so waterproof mascara is a must. later Diana
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| Dear KIKI HELLO!!!!!! I am so glad that you are OK we have been worried about you. I do know how busy it gets sometimes, the only way I probably can post as much as I do is that my husband dosen't live with me only on weekends. I do find comfort in chatting with all my spark pals. I hope that you will always think of yourself as Mother-of-the-bride!!!! Because you always will thank you for sharing your E-mail mine is diana_lyn_kidder@peoplepc.com I too always check my E-mail. Our holiday is this weekend, I see on the calander it was Victoria Day last weekend for all of you from Canada. Ours is memorial Day, to remember all who have passed before us, especially our Veterans. I have been so busy also, I haven't been checked for Hiatal Hernia, but I did have a CT scan last week with berium and injected dye, I do believe that would have shown up. What it did show was that my stomac is so enlarged from the gastroparesis that it covers almost the entire abdomin horizotally and that I have adhesions from previous surgeries and when my stomac is full which who knows when this occurs, as I eat small meals 4 or 5 times per day, but my stomac is parylized and so I do not digest my food in my stomac, this is why my stomac is so enlarged. Sometimes I eat say a small cup of melon and 1 hour later it comes out the other end in the same form as it went in. Then I become very sick. So food has become just something that I have to do. I also have IBS, colitis, posibly crohns. Yesterday at both my doctors visits my bloodsugars bottomed out, at the second appointment I was given a bottle of orange juice and some Peanut Butter crackers, and had to wait until 6:30 p.m. before I could leave. It was a rough day to say the least. The idea is to try and make my stomac contract so they are talking about putting in a pacemaker in my stomac, also talking about an insulin pump. I have mixed feelings about both. I have always had problems with abdominal surgeries, and with the insulin pump one dr. says all his patients that have had them used them for 3 months and then didn't. I do however have to do something as I cannot function on this rollercoaster ride. The funny thing is my bloodwork was stellar the last time, I have never in 24 years had colesterol and triglycerydes, good cholesterol, Hb1c readings better than non diabetics!!!!!!!!! considering that 3 years ago my cholesterol was 554!!! with 2 meds,now are 132, and tri. were 1554!!!!!! now 145!!!! good cholesterol was 23 and now is 46!!!! hb1c was 7.8 now is 4.5 they are happy when a non diabetic's hb1c is 7. or under mine is 2 1/2 points lower than that. So why am I having all these complications from diabetes? Probably because of the lupus, which there is no cure. I am doing everything right, well I guess this keeps me doing the right things. I do have to wonder if I could still have the hernia though and maybe it is undetectible because of the enlarged stomac and liver. Oh well if you have caught up with my posts to everyone else you will see that I haven't had much time to feel sorry for myself, with everyone else to worry about my friend found out that she hasn't got melenoma, that was a relief. I am worried about my hubby and my dad though, my mom is right there also. My daughter and hubby are in the Dominican Republic for her graduation presant that he gave her. Don't you think there is something wrong with that picture since mom hasn't even went to only 4 states in her life!!! Everyone else in my family has gone to Florida, Walt Disney World but me. I have seen Mayo Clinic in Minnisota, of course we had to see Indiana Illinois, and Wisconsin to get there, I guess I lied I went to Sea World when it was in Ohio. Oh well I guess this is what God has planned for me, I did get to know Michigan quite well in my College Michigan History class. It is kind of like a vertual tour. My daughter starts her job this coming Tuesday. I am happy for her [them] My husband of course has done so much traveling for his job I think that he would have enjoyed it more if I could have gone, but he also had to work 7 days 6-7 days per week when gone, so he had very little time to sight see except when in E Germany, and Italy, and Mexico. I guess he may be going to Japan sometime. I am happy for him. I am also worried about him, he has a couple of things going on health wise. He tries to not worry me but I have to he is my soul mate, my love, and has been for 32 years as of next Thursday. Well enough of my selfishness, and thinking about me and my problems besides it is to depressing. I will try to be more upbeat everyone. Jackie, haven't heard from you in a while OH, one of the wonderful things about our post friends is I kind of get to virtually travel by talking to all of my friends here in Sparksville. I go to Isreal, California, Canada and many more places. That is SO COOL!!!!!! Better close. Your Sparks Pal Diana p.s Hi everyone else Kali, it is always great to hear from you too, the bride that I am doing her wedding on June 24, is getting so excited!!!! I am getting excited for Jackie and Kali and all the other mothers on the site.
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/26/06 12:06 P
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Hi everyone, this is Jackie!
I've changed my username - its acually Hebrew for thinner!!
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/26/06 11:42 A
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Kiki - Welcome back!!! We missed you!
As I had expected, you've been very busy. Happy birthday for last Tuesday.
I, too, have been busy the last few days. Wednesday was a lovely day! First, I went to a professional make up lady, for a trial, and she did a far better job on my make-up than the other girl, plus she is going to do my nails for me (I have always had bad nails and she is going to make them look nice within 2 weeks - her promise!!). It just means spending yet more money!!
Then I took my outfit for the hem to be done & afterwards I went to the bridal salon where my daughter had her "trial" day. They played around with her hair, made up one eye (!) and finally - the dress. She is going to be so beautiful, I get tears in my eyes everytime I think about it!! I promise to post photos as soon as I can after the wedding. This time in 2 weeks its all going to be over.
And, I think that I have even lost those 2 pounds and am finally at more or less the weight I was when I went to England. I doubt if I will loose any more before the wedding as there is yet another Jewish holiday next weekend - its a time when cheese cakes and quiches etc are made. Its all about food!
Have a good weekend everyone.
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| Let me just say welcome to REDDIRTGIRL and SLIMMERBYFALL. Sorry it took me so long to acknowledge you. I will try to post more often, now that things around here seem to be slowing down a bit.
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| Kali, how wonderful for you with your weight loss. I am not neglecting anyone, just been so busy lately. My experience as Mother of the Bride will be something I will never forget. Spending so much time with my daughter was so exciting. I enjoyed every minute of it - I can only imagine how much more it would have been had I been able to attend the service on the beach.
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Hi Jackie and Diana. I haven't forgotten you - thanks for the messages on my sparkpage. This past week or so has been super busy for me. I feel like I have been in a whirlwind since Mother's Day. I have a good friend that is having chemotherapy sessions, so I have been trying to support her; last weekend was a holiday weekend here in Canada and I had company coming and going; spent a couple of days getting a new flower bed ready for planting; last Tuesday was my birthday and more company.
Yesterday I went into town with hubby and while he was at therapy I went to visit with my mother. Today I was all ready to have a relaxing day when I remembered that I have to go to the breast exam clinic for my mammogram at 2:00 PM. Woke up this morning with signs of a migraine coming on - took some meds for that.
I'm sorry for not staying in touch but you can see why. I do, however, check my email everyday, so if you would like - clink42@hotmail.com
Diana, my mother was having problems with pain in her stomach area and tests revealed that she has hiatal hernia - have you been checked for that?
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| Dear Jackie, How is everything going? I hope OK we haven't heard from you in a while. Talk to you later. Diana
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| DEar Kali, I totally agree with you, I will always be the mother of the bride, I think that some are leaving this site when their daughters get married, I miss them. I have built friendships here that I try to treat meaningfully. I hope that nobody is upset because I haven't left. Talk to you later, Kali Diana
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| Dear Slimmerbyfall, Welcome!!! we are all in the same boat on this site and everyone supports everyone else. Glad that your joining the group. Flo I believe started this thread, she has been recouperating from surgery, but she has done a great job with the site, we all have a good time sharing and caring for each other. Diana K.
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5/25/06 2:25 P
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| Hi I just turned 50 so I guess I qualify to be in the over 50 crowd. I want to get fit. I want to feel wanted and needed. I want/need support/motivation. Can anyone help?
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I don't know about everyone else here, but I will always be the Mother of the Bride....
Besides, I'd hate to leave my friends here on this board behind.
Good news, I saw my orthopedic surgeon this morning and he's very happy with my weight loss progress, 23 lbs so far, especially because it means my knee is in a lot less pain. No drugs, no shots, he said. Just keep exercising (swimming and biking) but no pounding exercises. Yay!!
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| Dear Kali, It must be the day to eat leftovers. I am also eating leftovers. I wish that kiki would tell us all that she is alright. I sure hope that after your daughter gets married you no longer can be apart of this site. I do know that several others haven't posted in awhile also. Talk to you all later. Diana
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Tonight is leftovers for me, but that's hours and hours away.
I miss Kiki too. I hope she's doing well, but she should at least come back and tell us she's OK.
Hope you all are having a great day too!
kali
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/23/06 1:02 P
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Hi Diana - Depending on where you live - we're 7 hrs ahead of New York for example and 10 hrs aheard of Los Angeles. I'm just going to make supper - chinese stir fry!
Speak to y ou later!
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| Dear Jackie, I always wonder what time it is in Isreal, when you write, I know that there is a large time difference. Painting, that sounds like something else I should do. I've had some more bad news today everyone. My hubby had his annual physical last Friday, the office called today to say that he had blood in his stool, his mother has had colon cancer, then my sister called and said that she had taken me dad to the doctor today and he is in very bad shape, he has emphysema and it is much worse. I also had a call from a dear friend of mine and she goes to a dermitologist surgeon on Wed with suspisious melenoma. This runs in her family on both sides. Well at least I don't have time to think about my own problems. I'll talk to you later. What did you fix for supper??? Diana
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/22/06 12:16 P
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Hi - I also wondered what has happened to Kiki.
Anyway, thanks for all your imput about the make-up. My eyes are green & I always feel that I look best with green eye-shadow. Anyway, I have a trial with a proper make up women on Wednesday - she takes about $10 for the trial and another $35 if I'm happy and will use her on the day. I was hoping to spare that expense, but its not worth it if I'm not happy with the results.
My husband has just walked in after painting the outside of the house (!) and is hungrey! So, I'll be back later!
Jackie
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| Hey Jackie and Kali, Have you guys missed Kiki as much as I have, I am sure that she is busy with her hubby and exhausted from the wedding but I hope that she dosen't give up on all of us just because her daughter is already married as its been almost 10 months since my daughters wedding and I feel that all of you are my friends anyway. Talk to you later. Diana
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| Dear Kali, Your daughter sounds like a lovely young woman, not at all selfish about things, as you said maybe their lives will change, who knows. But it sounds like she loves children, so a terrific aunt she will be. I have to respect what my children's choices are and I think that I have done a pretty good job not interfering I sometimes have to bite my tongue but I make it ok, I just tell them if it were me I would do ?? this?? And ONLY IF I am asked. This is hard sometimes but I am proud that I have been able to do this. We had to make choices and they have to , and we have to trust that we've done the best job possible in raising them, I am pretty proud of my kids. My daughters inlaws have been really pushing them into kids since they have been married, my daughter is only 24 and she has just graduated college and after returning from Dominican Republic she will be starting her career with her new job. She asked me and I told her "if it were me, I would get established in my job and get my insurance and maternity leave established first"] but I also added that if things happened sooner that I would be thrilled of course. Talk to you all later. Diana
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Diana,
It was me whose daughter says no babies. I'm fine with that. She and her groom are not living a life that would be good for a family. He's away too much and she has trouble coping with that when there are no children and no crises. Maybe someday they will change their minds, but honestly, I don't care. It's their choice. And it's a huge responsibility that everyone should be ready for when they become parents.
She'll be the world's best and most doting aunt (she's a terrific cousin and niece) and we have a huge family so she has lots of children around. I have no fears that she's making the best choicxe for her life right now. And things may change. Who knows?
kali
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| Dear Jackie, I am sorry that the trial make-up thing did not work. You really need to feel terrific on that day. You deserve to feel terrific. Maybe you could have a heart to heart with your daughter and share what you are feeling. Also you could share with her that several of your spark pals, which I am a Mary Kay person. I sold it so I could buy the products more affordably. I was trained buy the company and always they told me to look at the iris for eye make-up. I am not saying that only Mary Kay Co. knows how to do these things, but maybe you could go to a makeup store[ is there such a thing in Isreal?] they ususally will do a "make over on you" you can check it out, and go from there. Maybe she was just nervous, at any rate you need to be feeling the best that you possibly can that day after all your the next most important woman there. Tell us what you have come up with Jackie. I know that my sister a cosmotogist did my makeup for both my son's and my daughters weddings and I felt terrific at both, one I weighed a lot less than the other. Talk to you later, your sparks pal Diana
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| Dear Kali, I also believe in getting rid of the big clothes except the one pair of kakhi's. I also agree that the color of the iris of the eye are the best to go by. I don't know if it was you or who it was that stated one daughter says no grandbabies. Well I will share something with you,[this dosen't mean this will be your daughter] Several of my friends and couples I know made those statements and ended up starting their families close to the age of 40 or over. Some think about those statements and realize that they will not have family to go on from them as well as people to be there for them in old age. A friend of my mom's wishes that she could talk to any couple that makes those statements as they did and at mid seventies they are verrrry sorrry for that choice, but everyone has to make those choices for themselves. Well your other daughter says she will make you a grandma so it will happen before you know it. This is how things have happened for me. My son made boustful statements 5 1/2 years ago, he wasn't ever going to have kids or get married, needless to say I have a wonderful daughter-in-law and 2 grandaughters!!!!! exactly one month after his statement he was IN LOVE it was an immediate change in him so I knew it was the one. She come with a daughter that was just 2 mom had been married for 3 months, when hubby found out she was pregnant he left not to return until my son married her and was trying to adopt Aneesa, well at least her dad is seeing her everyother weekend. He seems to have grown up. My son is more her father the he is but we all get along with her biological dad for her sake. Well 2 years later we had no.2 this from a guy who made such boustful statements. So anyone can change there mind if they chose to. Of course they have to do what is best for them. Well anyway you have sooooo much to look forward to. I bet your starting to get very excited. I am for you. Diana
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| Dear Kali, I just got home and started reading the posts, I am trying to catch up. I just wrote a friend of mine telling about a pair of pants that I couldn't through away. I keep them around and pick them up about 1 time each month. I could easily put 2 of me in them. It is a very good feeling when I keep buying x-large tops, and always have to return them because they are much to big. I always have a smile on my face when I return, with the explanation that nothing wrong they are TOO BIG! I haven't dug out my box of old clothes [high quality] that are small and see if they fit. I need to do that. I agree about the quantity of make-up, and the must have blue shadow because my dress is blue. I guess I haven't read all the posts yet talk to you later. Diana
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Jackie-- I got rid of all the things that are too big. I won't ever need them again. Might as well make sure they're not there for me to 'slip' into.
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You're very very welcome, Jackie.
One thing Rita (my daughter) says about makeup is that if you look in the mirror, really closely at the iris of you eye, you'll see little flecks of color. Those are always good colors to use in your eye makeup.
kali
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/21/06 3:19 P
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I know that feeling about the shorts!! I'm also now wearing clothes that I don't know how I ever bought them 'cos only now do they fit me! And I've put away quite a lot of things that are just too big!
Well done to us both!!
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5/21/06 3:17 P
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Kali - Thanks so much for that. Do you think that your daughter would do my make up for me?!!! The trouble is that I'm not sure that I could afford the ticket at the moment!!
My best friend also said that I need to go to someone who knows what they're doing. It is important for me to look as good as I can. I know that I've got this fantasy that I'm going to look 20 lbs lighter and 20 years younger - but as I hate being photographed I want that "professional" touch to give more confidence.
I will keep in mind all your tips - especially about the make up being darker than normal - that's something that I didn't know. Plus, I do actually often match my eyemake up to what I'm wearing normally - but that's greens, blues or browns. So you've given me some good advice.
Thanks again,
Jackie
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OK, a small silly brag... yesterday I wore some Hawaiian shorts that were tight even when I first bought them and yesterday they were pretty loose and comfortable. I have no idea why I saved them but it was fun wearing them yesterday!
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Jackie,
The snowstorm bride and groom are not having kids so no grandkids there to tell the story to... the other daughter will make me a grandma one day though. As long as her health holds out.
About the makeup: my daughter the bride does makeup for a lot of weddings (she's really good) and if you're honestly not comfortable with the gal who did the first trial run and don't think she can do it to your satisfaction, go with your other makeup person.
Keep in mind that your makeup SHOULD be a bit darker than you would normally wear it so it is visible under the flash of the photographs. My March bride is a former model and sometimes they did outrageous makeup on her which looked so much lighter and more natural on the photos. The pictures are forever so you want them to look good!
One final comment: your makeup SHOULD NEVER match your outfit. That's a VERY dated idea and anyone who did that to my makeup would never touch my face again...
If you opt out of the group makeup date, I would just be honest and say you have someone you prefer. This girl has taken one class and you're supposed to be her guinea pigs? I don't think so. You want to look your best so go with your gut!
kali
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/21/06 2:44 P
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Kali - when I read about your wedding, I think that our's can't possibly be as bad at that!!!!!! Its also an outside wedding. I think that I would have had a nervous breakdown if that had happened to us!!! I admire how you seemed to have kept your cool. It'll definitely be a good story for the grandkids!!!
I need some advice ...... yesterday I went to the groom's mother, where we had a trial makeup run with the groom's brother's girlfriend, who has done a professional make up course. The groom's mother was delighted with what she did - I wasn't! She is a really lovely sweet girl and I wouldn't want to offend her - but I really wasn't happy with what she did. She just put on a thin layer of make-up (which I could have done) & the eye make up didn't suit me - although everyone thought that it looked nice. I don't normally wear heavy eye make up but it can be seen! I felt like I looked like there was no make up and that it was the wrong colour (pink - because I have pink in my outfit). There's the natual look & there's the natural look!!!Anyway, I have found a professional experienced make up person & on Wednesday I'm going for a trial makeup session with her. Groom's mother says that I should just tell her what I would like and she'll do it, but I don't feel that she is experienced enough. What do you all think I should do? Help!
Thanks,
Jackie
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Thanks, Diana, I wasn't too upset. But I had spent a long time -- over a year -- planning and paying for everything. The bride is quite the emotional sort so if I'd been upset, she would have fallen apart and we might not have had a wedding. The groom and I put up a united front and just kept telling her we would all roll with the punches and whatever was meant to happen would...
This location in Southern California sometimes gets snow, but only once or twice a year on average. I had checked the weather for the wedding date back over 15 years and there hadn't been ANY precipitation (rain, snow, mist, ANYthing) during that whole time.
The newspapers were calling it the storm of the century. It took us three hours on Sunday to dig my car out of the snow and clear the side road so we could leave... this is four grown men with shovels. Tourists were sledding down main street, oblivious to the traffic... All the townspeople knew about the wedding and the local B&B owner brought my daughter and I in out of the snow while the guys dug the car out and made us tea. My dog even played with hers. It could have been so much worse. And at least most of the people we really wanted to attend made it up the mountain.
I hope to laugh about it someday...
kali
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| Dear Kali, years from now you can look back and laugh, I know right now it seems devistating. I would have been horrified. I guess only God all mighty knows what the weather is going to be. In thought ourdoor weddings seem so romantic. It is such an unknown. I'm glad the couple got married and that you survived. I would never think that much snow in southern Cal. ever. Someday I will have to tell you all about my sons birth. Its quite funny now but not at the time. Diana
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KALINDRIA
5/20/06 12:00 A
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Yes, SNOW in Southern California... we had a BLIZZARD on March 11th (well, it started a few days earlier). Five feet... FIVE WHOLE FEET... of snow fell in 24 hours in the Cuyamaca Mountains which are directly east of San Diego. The elevation is 4200 feet above sea level. We had gale force winds, five feet of snow, freezing rains, road closures, people running off the road into the ditch, chains that didn't fit, a DJ who couldn't get his equipment up the hill, the CA Highway Patrol turning people back, a photographer who slipped and broke one of his cameras, half our guests couldn't make it -- the father of the bride almost didn't make it.... Some day I'll laugh about it.
I'm focusing too much on the numbers on the scale. I know this. But my clothes are looser and the last two days, when I walk at work, men driving by are whistling and smiling at me. That's kinda obnoxious but it's certainly something that hasn't happened in a long time. I guess I'll just keep plugging along and go wherever this journey takes me.
Good night, ladies!
kali
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| Dear Jackie, Hi, I am excited that my bloodwork was better than most extremely healthy people, it took a lot of very hard work to get there, of course this was back in Feb. so maybe it isn't as good now. I hope that it is, but all the stomac stuff has gotten so much worse since then. But I am extatic at those numbers. My weight has been stuck at 162 for 7 weeks now, I am so upset, I have been so good and I have worked out even when I do not feel like it, I know that my gain was probably from the meds, but it won't go away!!!! I will still keep plugging along though, as I can't do it any differently, so if I have to be good with my life all of you have to also!!!! I hope that you all heard me, you won't be sorry for it in the long run, Jackie you will make your goal if you are persistant, if you don't then you have come a long way and be happy with what you have accomplished. I am proud of you. You will be at your best. I hope that you will have a great time this weekend!! I will be thinking about how beautiful your going to be, so enjoy. Diana
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| Dear Red dirt girl, It's Diana again, I was the mother of the groom before I was the mother of the bride, I kinda agree with the picture thing but I get the same feeling if I look in the mirror, who is that, were did the young looking good figured woman go, even though I have lost a lot of weight the same woman is gone, that is scary. But if I keep track of who I am and tell myself that I am losing for the healthiest me, hoping to get some of what I used to be back, that would be great. I feel that we all need to think of the health side of things, because if you are just losing for an event, you are losing for the wrong reason, we need to think of this is a lifestyle, along the way the weight comes off very slowly, at this point and time, but if it is a lifestyle change the change is permanent, and we are healthier, look sexier, and feel the best we can. So I know that you can do this, just like I know all of us can , but it sure helps with everyone helping everyone, so again welcome!!!! Diana
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REDDIRTGIRL
5/19/06 3:13 P
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Thank you for the warm welcome Kali. Its funny before I found Sparkpeople I felt like the only Mother of a Bride that felt she must lose weight. (yes I suffer from terminal specialness lol). It is wonderful to find like minds here.
Kali you mentioned pictures..well, in a little different way a picture was the defining moment in deciding something just has to change. My daughter was showing me her digital pictures on Flickr and all of a sudden I saw an old fat crazy looking lady-before I had a chance to ask who she was, I realized that was/is me. I honestly did not recognize myself. There is just something about pictures more so than mirrors that seem to give the real image. The good news is this picture is now burned into my brain and each time I feel a little weak I call it up. I would just die if i looked like that in the wedding photos!!
I started a group called Mother of the Bride(groom) if you are interested. I realize it may be redundant but started it before finding this thread.
Now I need to talk myself into walking....
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/19/06 12:47 P
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Diana - it sounds as you are heading in the right direction , at least as far as your blood tests are concerned - that must make you feel better!
Reddirtgirl - you're very welcome here - I saw that you had started a Mother of the Bride group and joined it! I don't quite know what that gives us all, but still - it's all fun!! Actually, I am also pleased that you have joined us, as I am the only "virgin" mother of the bride here - everyone else has been thru at least one wedding!!
I am now getting very excited! Tomorrow we are going to the groom's mother's house for our make-up trial with groom's brother's girlfriend!!! Today, we went shopping & hubby bought his clothes.
Kali - I so understand about the weight. I, too, am stuck at the same weight. And, I have been sooo good really! I still have a couple of pounds to loose to reach the weight that I was before going to England in April - there's only 3 weeks to the wedding & not only am I not going to make my target weight, I'm not going to make my "make-do" target weight! Very depressing! I haven't lost as much weight as I wanted to for this wedding & it hasn't been for the lack of trying. Its just so hard, after menapause to loose those pounds. I am still hoping though that I will see a difference between the two weddings. We just have to carry on. I keep telling myself that if I give up, then I certainly wont loose weight!
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| Kali, I guess I had forgotten about your stories, or I hadn't gotten to the site until after the first wedding, how horrible snowing in southern california? That was to bad. I know what you mean about looking at pictures of yourself to help motivate you into supercharging your weightloss. I also know the frustration of trying your best and that scale dosen't move, its like it has superglue on it. You must keep in mind all of the positive things that have happened all ready with your 20lb loss, pick up a 20lb bag of flour, then put it down, just that can tell you how thankful your knees and body are, so keep up the good work, if you are working out you will see other differences besides the scale. muscle weighs more than fat. Your muscle burns more fat, and at our age, we all need that.lol Even though things are as bad as they are for me, I need to share one positive thing that happened yesterday. I recieved the results of my bloodwork from Feb. [a little late and thats another story] But 3 years ago, which these readings were down from the previous year. My cholesterol was 355, with 2 meds. my tryglycerides were 1545!!![no exageration] These readings I remind you were down from the previous year, my readings have been very high since I was in my late 20's, at the time I weighed 130 lbs. My grandfather died at age 52 with hardening of the arteries. I told the doc of my consern at the time his response was your a woman, no need to worry. Well this did consern me. Well anyway yesterday for the first time. My cholesterol was 142!!!!! and my tryglycerides were 122!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my hb1c, this is a test that diabetics take to give a reading on what bloodsugars average over the past 32 months, mine have been very consistant over the past 7 years, a normal person without diabetes is supposed to be 6. or under a person with sugars under control is good if under 7. mine was again 4.5!!!!!! This is not easy to do. So but the lab work I should be in terrrrrific shape, this is such a joke, but I am doing everything in my power to be as healthy as I can. I just wished it would work that way. Talk to you later, tell me if you lift the weight!! Diana
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KALINDRIA
5/19/06 11:58 A
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Hi Red Dirt Girl,
I tried to get to your post but the link wasn't found. Maybe you would just share a little more here instead.
I have two daughters and two weddings this year. The first was in March. It was quite an interesting wedding and you can find the stories in this thread... let me just say blizzard in Southern California at an "outdoor" wedding. Sounds like fun, right? I had worked for a year to organize everything and in the end, Mother Nature had other ideas...
Anyway, it was the photos from that wedding that spurred my weight loss plans. That and the orthopedic surgeon telling me I *had* to lose weight or I was in big trouble with my bad knee.
The other daughter is getting married in September and I want to look a whole lot different by then. So far, 20 lbs. are gone but recently the scale has been stuck. I don't want to up my cardio too much more (I'm already doing more than three times what the ortho suggested) until I see the Dr. next week. It's tough because I'm an impatient person and most of all, I'm impatient with myself.
So, bottom line: welcome to our little group. I think you'll like it here. We're spread all over the globe and have a lot of good ideas and suggestions for one another.
(Man, I CANNOT type this morning - please forgive any typos that slip through!)
Good to have you with us, RedDirtGirl! Love the name too!
kali
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| Dear Reddirtgirl, Hi, welcome we have a great time at this site, everyone helps everyone else. We can all help you go though the tough times ahead, Right ladies. It is so much fun I now have friends all over ther world. It's almost like visiting the world. I know they have been a god send to me, and I am very thankful for their support. Your life will change for the better, so join us and enjoy. Talk to you later Diana
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| Dear Kiki, I only have one daughter also, but I did put the wedding together for my daughter-in-law, and son also. The mexican tradition is the grooms family pays for everything, I only wish we would have known this tradition before the wedding. When I say the brides side does nothing I mean nothing, no help cleaning up or nothing. Oh and then they think that all the left over food is theirs also. This one was hard to swallow, we payed 2,000.oo for food and they keep the leftovers, well I had a lot of holes in my tongue. We did fine, but this was a rude awakening. I guess that I can lol now but it was hard then, I really didn't feel like cooking the next day, and we were tapped out money wise to go out to eat. My daughter-in-law, dosen't look as though she is Mexican she is fair complected and has green eyes, and light brown hair. My youngest grandaughter is blonde and blue eyed blonde like my son and blue eyed like my husband. Kind of funny. I didn't go see the doctor as I know that there is nothing that they will do. I don't think there is anything that can be done. I am feeling better this evening though. Not great but better. Its difficult as I bottomed out 3 times again today and only injected my long term insulin, as my bloodsugar was only 100. I guess I need to get the small cans of coke [regular] I don't even like colas but my internist says another patient with gastroparesis drinks one everytime he bottoms out. I guess it works faster than OJ. I've been carrying diabetic sugar tabs with me also. I can tell soemthings is wrong when I lose my train of thought. It was kind of scarey though when knowone knew what to do yesterday, when I bottomed out at PT I was kind of comatos. I finally new enough to take a sugar tab. Well I am still here, and God is good, I know that he probably chose me for something special, maybe to have a pacemaker. I am in his hands. Talk to you all later. Diana
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REDDIRTGIRL
5/18/06 7:53 P
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I just posted to the introduction board...I should have looked a little further to find this. I was encouraged to find other "mother of the brides".
Here is my introduction post.
http://www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/messageboard.asp?imboard=14&imparent=2400720
I had decided some time ago that I no longer cared how I looked. I did add the caveat that the only thing that might motivate me to lose weight would be if my daughter got married. Yes, it happened-She called and the joyous occasion is Thanksgiving weekend.
Self Discipline is not my strong suit. After living an embarassingly sedentary life - my goal is to put my iPod shuffle on and walk everyday and to maintain a low fat diet. (and of course the darn water we should drink). I have given up sugar and I miss it like a lover. I drank 2-4 Cokes a day and I do not like diet drinks.
I was happy to find the Sparks website-made me feel less alone with all this fat counting and deprivation.
I would love some music suggestions for my walking.
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Diana, I hope you went to see your doctor.
Jackie - only one daughter. I would have liked to enjoy more excitement, but with hubby the way he is, I had him more on my mind than the bride. She is such a wonderful daughter and she understood where my mind was even when I was trying to make her the center of attention. I feel kinda cheated because I only have one daughter and I feel like I missed so much. But what can you do besides the best you can.
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| Dear Kali, My sister did my makeup for my daughters wedding and she is a cosmetologists and it looked as good at the end of the night as when it was applied. Yes the water works come when you least expect them. Diana
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| Dear Jackie, Yes I know what you mean. You are left with the memories that you make. It seem like my daughter and I have more time to at least talk when my son-in-law works 3 shift. When he dosen't I miss that. Just make the most of the time you have with your girls, and live with the memories that you make it keeps you going, I also dream back about the weddings and enjoy my dreams. Didn't go to the Doc. I relaxed in the tub and felt a little better. I need to get ready to go to a 4-h meeting. I know I know. But I missed last month as I was ill, I haven't made many meetings this year and I have to figure out when I can get some of the kids started with their projects for fair. Talk to you later. Diana
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/18/06 2:07 P
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Diana - I'll ask her!!!
You said something that has actually been on my mind a lot lately! I have been so busy planning things & looking at clothes for the weddings in shops for almost a year now, and thinking about what I may wear, & what needs to be done, that now that I have everything ready for the wedding - I don't need to look in the shops anymore, & that's quite sad! After this wedding, I have the 2nd one to look forward to ........but what about after that? What an anticlimax it must be. Ever since our babies are born, we all think about their wedding day - right? Kiki - are you just pleased its all over or do you miss all the excitement etc? Is there going to be a big nothing afterwards? I know that there are grandchildren to look forward to in the future - but that is not quite what I mean. Do any of you understand me ?(I'm not sure I understand myself -but still ...!) What do you think?
Oh & Diana, if your husband wants to take you to the doctor - I would go if I was you, for his peace of mind as much as yours.
Jackie
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| Dear Jackie, Does the groom's friends girlfriend make housecalls??????? I need someone like her right now. [I don't know if make-up will do the trick] It sound like you are having a wonderful girl time with your daughter, thats great, enjoy every minute. I am getting excited for all of you. KIki you and I can sit back and be excited for all of them, sometimes it makes you feel sad that it is all over, but then you think about all the work and it makes you change your mind. I think that if you could just have the times that are shared with our daughters and family at these times that would be something that I would like to bottle up. Talk to you all later. My husband thinks that I should go and see the doctor if they can get me in, instead of waiting until next week. I just son't know what to do. Diana
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/18/06 1:26 P
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Sorry to hear that you are having such a hard day today Diana, maybe you shouldn't worry about working out when you are feeling so poorly.
Kiki - you are so right , this is a great time, going out with my daughter - having lunch together, etc. I'm going to try my hardest not to cry lol
Kali - Tell me about those scales!! I haven't been able to get down to the weight I was before I went to England - I had hoped to have lost another 4 lbs by now - but I can't get there! This is not the time for a plateau! You are lucky to have a daughter who works for Lancome!!! I wouldn't mind that! However, for this wedding, the groom's brother's girlfriend (!) does professional make-up & on Saturday we are going over to the groom's mother's house & she will do our faces for us (groom's mum & I) as a trial run for the wedding - if she's good maybe I'll ask her to do me for the 2nd wedding too.
Jackie
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| Dear Kali, LOL LOL LOL I would like to know the same thing. I've been home today and in bed for most of it. Just talked to my husband, he wants me to see the doctor, I said what for? There is nothing that seems to work. I called and cancelled my pt today, and I keep hopeing that I will feel better so I am laying low , I do need to get my workout in sometime today. Talk to you later. Diana
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KALINDRIA
5/18/06 12:25 P
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Diana -- No need for thanks. That's what we're here for - to support and help one another.
Now, can anyone tell me how to get my scale to move lower? I think it's stuck!!
k.
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KALINDRIA
5/18/06 12:24 P
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I didn't get to spend a lot of time shopping, lunching, laughing, with my daughter who got married in March -- altho we've always talked on the phone for hours and hours. She and her fiance came down south just three days before the ceremony. They did spend a few days with me after their honeymoon though. That was nice.
I did my crying over the phone and picking out songs and tasting cake and sending invitations and when the big day finally came, I was so busy, I didn't tear up at all. Plus with the blizzard, there were a lot of decisions to make and it wasn't the relaxed, calm day we'd planned. Oh well. It pays to be flexible, I guess.
The other daughter gets married in September and maybe I'll cry then. I AM a crier so I'm a little surprised there were no tears last time. I just love my girls so much -- I want everything to be perfect for them.
The daughter that married in March did my makeup (she works for Lancome) and used waterproof mascara AND this shellack that seals your eye makeup so you don't have to worry about smudges or runs or anything. It's fabulous. My eye makeup looked as good at the end of that long day as at the beginning. It's well worth looking into. Especially if you think the waterworks might start.
You know, weddings are wonderful, but I'm glad they don't come around any more often or I'd be completely exhausted!
Have a wonderful day, ladies!
kali
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| Dear Kali, Thanks for your thoughts and notes they mean alot, if you read the other posts you know that I am having a hard time today so I need to keep it short. Thanks Diana
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| Dear Kiki, Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, I hope everything will be ok for your hubby, if you read my post to Jackie, you will get the scope of the day. I really am not feeling well and I need to go to bed. Thanks again Diana
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| Dear Jackie, How exciting for you. This is the fun stuff. Like kiki says enjoy. I spent some time with my daughter tonight, it didn't seem long enough though, her husband is wisking her off to the Dominican Republic. She starts her new job on the 30th of the month. Today has been a bad day for me, a lot of pain in the stomac, and 3 bottom out of my bloodsugars, it makes me feel horrible. Head ache etc... The first bottomout was during physical therapy. Oh, well Thanks for the thoughts and kind words. Diana
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Diana, thank God it is not a tumor. Hopefully it is something that is easily fixed. My hubby's appt with the vascular surgeon is also on June 19th. I pray that you both have good news.
Jackie, isn't it wonderful to spend time with your daughter? I loved that part the best. We shopped, laughed, had lunch together - like we were friends instead of mother and daughter. Enjoy it - it goes by so fast. Her dress is going to look beautiful with the added lace - now don't you cry when you see her in it. LOL I'm one to talk - I cried like a baby.
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RAZAYOTAIR
5/17/06 2:05 P
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Diana - pleased to hear that its not a tumor - let's hope that the pain doesn't get too bad before your next doctor's appointment.
Today I went with my daughter for another dress fitting. She decided that her dress was too plain and we spent a long time trying to find something that she liked until the lady there came up with an idea and cut up some lace flowers and pinned them onto the dress - finally Lee was happy!
One of the lovely things about this wedding, is that it gives me time together with my daughter, something that in our usual, busy, working lives, there isn't really time for.
Next Wednesday is the dress rehearsal - the dress should be ready and she will have a trial run - they will do her hair and make up, trying different things until she's happy. Its getting close - 3 weeks to go. I had a facial done today too - that was great.
Jackie
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KALINDRIA
5/17/06 12:45 P
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Diana,
Your home sounds wonderful... close to family and your horse and with your grand piano. I'm lucky I play violin -- it's easier to haul around with me.
I certainly wasn't questioning your choices, just trying to commiserate. Be strong. At least you know it's not a permanent situation.
kali
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