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Hello everyone!
I am a single mother and I am overweight and depressed. It has taken me years to gain and I know that it will not come off overnight.
I was in an abusive relationship for nine years and I use to eat to ease the pain.Now I am twice my normal weight scientifically speaking"morbidly obesed".
My cousin introduced me to this wonderful website and I really thank her for this.
I've been out of the abusive relationship for two years now and I am now involved with the most precious, loving man I have ever met in my life. He is so wonderful. My weight is keeping me from doing alot of things with him. He wants to go out to dinner , dancing, and he wants him and I to take pictures together and I am hesistant because of my weight.
Please anyone and everyone who reads this pray for me, I know I can do it. I am on my way.
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ANNAMARIA7
4/23/06 2:30 P
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((( to all )))
Huggs to you all. Permanent change, thank you for the prayers..always appreciated and needed. SamsDad welcome. Today is a better day. yesterday was a mess! I stayed away from a baby shower as I was feeling "icky" and then had my hubby drive me by there at the end of the shower to speak to the mom to be and to leave our gift...then off to the grocery for a quick stop. Came outside all dead on the suburban...nothing..no lights...door locks...NOTHING worked. Lucky walmart w/i walking distance, changed out batteries an on our merry way. Off to boat show and then home to the stair stepper. Today was good, church, out for a healthy lunch and home for a nap (after this email) :-)
Thanks to all...it's so great to have a place to vent and let vent and help each other through the rough patches. I appreciate you all.
Maria
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PERMANENTCHANGE
4/23/06 9:38 A
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| Anna Maria you are in my prayers. Hope you feel better real soon! Welcome SamsDad and all the best on your journey.
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| It's hard to lose something as precious as the presence of family. Remember you will be seeing them again, maybe soon, and think about how impressed they could be if your doing more to be active and to feel good about your self. The advice to take little steps is good. Add a little exercise, nothing ambitious, just enough to up your energy level a little. It can be a big help with depression.
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ANNAMARIA7
4/22/06 10:18 A
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(((shineypenny)))
First of all thank you for the hug. I know it's easier when another person shares the burden. I appreciate your kind words. My main struggle right now is the up and down feeling that comes with the hormones for me. I KNOW that some feelings are irrationaly, but they are there none the less, you know.
Congratulations on how all your hard work has paid off!! Great advise on making yourself your "baby" to be cared for...
Have a wonderful day...and thanks again for the hugs.
Maria
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SHINEYPENNY
4/22/06 9:59 A
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First a hug for you (((Maria))) I am sorry to hear you are feeling down today. I go in waves that way too and feel it is good to talk about it vs. medicate ourselves with food.
AFBMAMA45
.. when our youngest left home four years ago I thought my heart would break in two (seriously I am not exagerating here) it was a huge transition for us. There are 11 years between our daughters and having had the younger one later in life, we were so much more relaxed about raising her and enjoyed every second of it!!
I did a lot of boo hoo's, but I also finally got to a point where I thought, wow this is my time now ,my time to finally take care of me. I started an exercise program ... eventually building up more and more and that became my baby!!! One I have no intention of ever seeing ship out either.
My heart is with you... I know so many times people would say to me I was over reacting; well believe me I would never say that to anyone. Share your feelings with others who understand and truly care.
One of the neatest things that happened to me was when she came home for summer break. She saw me and said MOM WOW...have you ever lost weight!!! Few others noticed but she did!!
That was a great day in more ways than one, adn the next time she left it wasn't quite so hard.
HUGS
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ANNAMARIA7
4/22/06 9:32 A
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Hello Diana,
Nice to hear from you. I'm really struggling. It just seems I have so much right now, physically. Asthma, hormones, hot flashes, a bad foot, it's really hindering my efforts with the exercise. I've stayed busy in the yard (we have 3 acres of oaks) and it's a strenuous workout, but it's just been a tough week. I can't seem to get on track with the eating. I'm not at all gluttonous..It's that I eat my last meal so late at night. I can't seem to break that cycle of late breakfast...etc...if I could learn to somehow get my body readjusted to a new cycle...early breakfast, it's that late night eating...HELP!!! Feeling really down today...
Maria
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Good Morning AMaria and Everyone!
So nice to hear what you all have to say. Yes, it is truly hard when your Children leave the House. We have to learn to take good care of ourselves by Losing Weight and Feeling Better about Ourselves. I will try to enjoy the nice weather and go for a Walk they say it is Good for Our Body and Our Minds. So bye for now. Do well on your Diet, A Spark Friend, named Diana. Enjoy your day everyone!
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Thank you for the compliment.
I do go up and down some. I have ulcers, so when they act up, I eat. There's that old addage in my head, "eat you'll feel better!"
Losing, I work the SP plan!! Logging on here, helps me a whole bunch. Keeps motivated and accountable.
I started using portion control, chewing slowly, and
I find chewing slowly makes it almost yukky, and small bites.
My biggest downfall is sweets at night. And sometimes self and I have a slapping around battle about it. LOL!
Good luck, and thanks again. We all need a compliment now and then.
Betty
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BLOU - you look great for 60! How are you losing? Are you sticking to a diet plan or just tracking and being careful?
I'm having trouble getting started.....
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Yes, I think we are all in the same boat. i'm 60--ooo--so hard to say that. I don't feel it, but truth is, I am 60.
I lived in Arkansas for awhile and missed my babies (grown children, but still babies). then we moved back here to Texas, and I missed my new found friends.
So, my daughter tells me if I lose 50 lbs by Christmas, she would treat me to a trip.
Then I got my eyebrows, and eyeliner tatooed. Started dieting and excersing.
Bought a new blouse the other day. When I wore it for the first time, I found myself strutting. Even felt a little sexy for the first time in a long time.
I've only lost 18 lbs. But, I think what you do for yourself, can make a lot of difference.
Stay with us! We can all help each other.
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ANNAMARIA7
4/12/06 7:35 A
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Hello all,
Oh, How I know what you mean about the children leaving home, right at the time I'm going throught his hormonal change! I have one left at home. She's 20 and pt college student. I never thought I'd say this but I'd be thrilled if she never left! she's a good daughter, no problems. My husband is my best friend and is very understanding of all my emotions.
It's difficult for sure. I've been a stay at home mom for most of the kids lives, involved in their lives, school, activities. I'm actually thinking of going to the old folks home (my heart is with them) and volunteering as a PINK lady! lol. I love the Pink ladies! And lets face it, I'd be PINK from my hot flashes so I already have a uniform! LOL Hang in there..this too shall pass.
AMaria
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Good Morning AFBMAMA45!
My name is Diana and I am 50 years old. I turned 50 on January. My two Sons moved out and I am so, so depress and I feel a Hole in My Heart that is only filled with Sadness, so I know how you feel. I Eat when I am Not Hungry I know I am Eating because of the Hole in my heart. Here is my home email diana12356@webtv.net I will be happy to listen and be there for you.
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Know where you are coming from. Been there!!!
The one thing that has helped me is that I started to volunteer at a retirement home and it made a big difference to me.
They two are alone-go when I feel like it-they replace grandparents of mine that have passed.
Most of my life I defined myself through raising my four children and when they moved out it was very hard but by the time the last went I actually enjoyed having my house to myself and husband.
Every time one moved back in for awhile-although glad to help them out -glad to see them gone again.
Let sparkpeople fill in the loneliness.
  
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| I hear you, AFBMAMA! My 2 boys are almost on their own and it makes me feel like eating! I think we need to redefine our purpose! It has been so long that we were focused solely on kids, I don't know who I am!
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MTNKID1952
1/6/06 10:33 P
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| I suggested this to a member once before and got pretty much blown off, I think, but I think it is a step in the right direction and has been known to get ladies inspired and motivated enough to take the first step toward fitness and weight loss. Go get yourself a brand new hairstyle! I am not a stylist, but I know how something new, something that sparks my interest, something that makes me feel pretty and good about myself makes me start feeling like maybe I want to do something positive for myself. Getting a makeover might help too. I wouldn't suggest a new outfit or massage at this point or anything that will remind you of a body you're most likely not real happy with right now. But the things I suggested often make a woman feel beautiful for the first time in a long time--maybe for the first time in her life.
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Why don't you try small goals? Like, drinking one less coke a day. Or instead of having an extra helping, drink a glass of water. Instead of taking the parking space closest to the store, park on the other side of the parking lot. Small victories add up.
Good luck!!
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| I'm 48 , My two sons moved away from home last year, and I just can't seem to rid this feeling of loss . I'm overweight and I feel unattactive. I want to feel better about myself and look better . I know that losing the weight will make a big difference but I just can't seem to get motivated enough. I need help.
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