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COACH_TANYA
6/5/08 11:17 A
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Control was a big focus of my disordered eating habits and patterns earlier in my life and I too thought I would be happy when I got to a certain number on the scale regardless of how unhealthily I went about getting there. How disappointed I was when I got there and realized that I was more unhappy then I ever dreamed and that I had created problems in relationships because of my journey.
Those were the basis of my comments. Our site is about health and wellness and being the best you that you can be and not about restrictive eating to reach a certain number. If you are about healthy eating at 2000 calories plus and exercising serveral times a week and getting all your key nutrients then we are glad to have you join in our adventure.
Coach Tanya
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hi,
i am not trying to get anybody's attention, it's to make me happy with who i am. i thought that was a bit harsh. I wont want to be 95..i want to 100lbs i want the control over mylife and i will get it.
What do you mean by disordered thoughts ? Are you trying to call me mad? and i dont have a disorder either.
Wb Dancer1990 xx
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COACH_TANYA
5/28/08 5:27 P
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The idea that a number on the scale will make you happy is a very misleading one. As you go to get to that goal weight you break down muscle so you are all bony and that is not attractive to many people compared to a well defined and fit body.
What do you think being 100 pounds is going to accomplish or change in your life? What are you seeking to control or gain by reaching a set number on a scale at all cost? What will keep you from saying, "I will be happy if I just get to 95" next?
Looking at the cause of your disordered thoughts and actions is key. Happiness does not come from a number or by not eating. I have been there and I know. What are you trying to accomplish - getting attention, gaining control, what. Once you figure that out you may find that there are other more productive ways to go about it. If not, then you need to be in the care of a professional to help you through this and our site is not the place for you and others that are active in your disorder. We are a site for people who want to be healthy and fit to reach all their goals and aspirations in life to live their best life now.
We want that to be you but if disorder and starvation are what you are about, please seek help and come back to us when you can meet your nutrient needs of 2000 plus and see yourself for the wonderful person you are regardless of the number on the scale because that is what you are - a wonderful person with wonderful potential that will never be realized if you starve yourself.
Coach Tanya
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| My doctor told me I was killing myself today to. It's like there is a rational me, and the ed me! I want to get better, but I'm soooo scared!
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AJSGONNALOSEIT
5/28/08 11:32 A
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God that's sad... and it is more sad when you have to watch someone die in front of you.
Ok I just didn't know what a scone was, I know alot of people talk about eating them but I never knew what they were haha.
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DANCER1990
5/28/08 10:34 A
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a scone is like, a bun just bread really :)
I just want to get to my GW of 100lbs and then i will be happy i think.
Sorry to hear about your friend too. its sad how many people die because of ED related. She was in hospital trying to get better but her body gave up :(
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AJSGONNALOSEIT
5/28/08 10:25 A
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Hey I completely understand, no problem. When I first started this whole deal I had the same problem. I started to become nervous with food, until I learned that food is not the enemy, it's just my matter of control in eating the right amounts of it.
What's a scone? I am sorry but I haven't heard of those before...
You could try to eat 5-6 small meals throughout the day that way it's manageable and you can get used to eating food in smaller portions more often.
I am sorry about your best friend. I lost a good friend due to an eating disorder as well. She wouldn't stop and when I told her that she needed to get help she simply said she would someday, and she kept putting it off. She became so ill, and there was really nothing anyone could do anymore.
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DANCER1990
5/28/08 9:58 A
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Hi,
Thanks for that little message :) today i had a scone i mean how many calories is that?? I seem to not be able to get through the day without counting them.
i dont want a ed because my best friend died because of it but its just so hard to connect my mouth with food and not feel guilty about it. I know its a mess im just sooo stressed out atm its unbelieveable.
Thanks tho xx
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AJSGONNALOSEIT
5/28/08 9:19 A
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Hon, you're really going to have to eat something.
You're starving your body of proper nutrition not to mention energy to even function properly for the day, and many other things that are vital to your health.
If your not careful you could end up developing an eating disorder which can really have a unhealthy inpact upon your life in the long run.
Think, we all need food in order to survive. It is important for our bodies just to do simple tasks throughout the day. It is fuel and energy for our brain and other organs. Don't look at it as an enemy but think of it as a necessisty to living.
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DANCER1990
5/28/08 5:47 A
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| I'm sure there must be someone somewhere, who is the same as me. Yday i didn't eat all day then went dancing (morris) i just drank lots of water. When i got home my friend told me i had to eat something but just looking at makes me feel sick. I am scared to eat it. But i still look like a beach whale at 113lb it's stupiid!! Help someone
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