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You Didn't Reach the Goal, But You're Still a Success

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6/21/2013 12:00 PM   :  81 comments   :  20,337 Views

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Instead of being thankful for the things I can do, it’s much easier for me to get frustrated about the things I can’t.  I’d love to be able to run an 8 (or even 9!) minute pace comfortably.  I’d love to be naturally flexible without having to work at it, and it would be great if I had endless energy for my early morning workouts.  I demand a lot from my body, and honestly, it gives me a lot in return.  I think I need to take a more positive attitude towards my body and my accomplishments.  How about you?
 
It makes me tired just thinking about all of the things I do on a daily basis.  I take care of three wonderful (but exhausting) children.  Most days I’m up at 5 a.m., either working out or getting work done before the kids get up.  I try to make the most of my days, whether it’s getting things done at home, having fun with the kids, or working on something for SparkPeople.  I know there are thousands of women out there just like me, and many with even more responsibilities on their plates.  Yet, I still find reasons to criticize my lack of progress or the fact that my body doesn’t look like it did before I had three kids. 
 
Every day I see posts on the site from members who are frustrated.  Perhaps they aren’t losing weight as quickly as they’d like (“I’ve only lost 10 pounds instead of 15 like I’d hoped”), or their 5K training is progressing slower than expected (“I should be walking 20 minutes by now but I can only walk for 10”).  I understand what it’s like when your body isn’t doing exactly what you’d like it to do.  But I also think it’s important not to overlook what you have accomplished.  As long as you’re continuing down the path to a healthier lifestyle, is it okay if it takes you a little longer to get there?  I think so. 
 
If you can’t Be Your Own Cheerleader or your Own Best Motivator, who else will?  Maybe it’s time to start celebrating all of the wonderful things you can do, instead of being so hard on yourself when you fall short.  Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to challenge your body and keep working toward bigger life goals.  But if you didn’t reach the time goal you set for your last race, or you still don’t have the body of a supermodel despite reaching your weight loss goal, did you fail?  Not at all.  I’d still consider you to be a success.
 
What do you think? 


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  • 31
    Yep I am my own worse enemy. Beating myself up for running a XX minute 5k instead of a WW minute one. ...... When I should really celebrate that I am running at all! - 9/12/2012   11:05:51 AM
  • 30
    Good read Jen!! and my take is this. I meet my goal everyday I get up and work-in my work-outs along with all the other "stuff" life throws at me.
    Somedays I can't keep all the balls up in the air and some fall to the wayside!
    You go girl!! - 9/12/2012   10:05:50 AM
  • HEY_ITS_LISA
    29
    Fantastic blog. It's so easy to short-change the small things that make us successful. I'll try to be more cognizant of the other successes beyond the numbers on the scale during my weight loss journey. - 9/12/2012   9:36:59 AM
  • 28
    All I can say is "here - here"
    Thank you for putting it so well - we could all accept and appreciate ourselves a little more, right? - 9/12/2012   9:29:18 AM
  • MCMINDY6
    27
    Thank you for sharing these thoughts. They are so very true. I need to make sure that I am seeing all the things that are working instead of only seeing those things that aren't. - 9/12/2012   9:17:09 AM
  • 26
    Wow, does this hit home. I really never ever give myself any credit.....maybe that is why I have such a hard time staying motivated. Time to get out of my head! Thanks for this! - 9/12/2012   8:45:55 AM
  • 25
    Agreed. This is a wonderful post - thank you! - 9/12/2012   7:31:27 AM
  • 24
    I totally agree. We can be our worst enemy at times. When things don't go as I would like them to go, I accept that as a challenge and I work to achieve where I want to be. - 9/12/2012   7:09:29 AM
  • 23
    Awesome thank you ! - 9/12/2012   6:28:51 AM
  • 22
    You are so right. If only this was as easy to do as it is to read! - 9/12/2012   1:53:08 AM
  • 21
    Hi. Up at 5:00 am? 3 kids? Runner? OMG? I think the best thing we can do for ourselves is be solution-focused rather than Problem-focused. That's what Coach Dean Anderson taught me and he wrote a great article on it, but I don't know the link. In any case, keep on Sparking, you're amazing, just like all the other Spark moms out there! - 9/11/2012   11:35:08 PM
  • 20
    This is one of the best lessons we can ever learn. - 9/11/2012   11:12:43 PM
  • 19
    Thank you for the great reminder. It helps to remember that every small action is a victory. It's a journey, not a race, to good health. - 9/11/2012   10:33:28 PM
  • 18
    I think you are so RIGHT. It's all about the things we can do and not the ones we can't. We should celebrate the little victories. Without them then the BIG ones would not happen. - 9/11/2012   10:27:26 PM
  • 17
    Thank you very much for this blog, after reading this it is truly a lesson learnt. We always look at the things we are not able to accomplished, hence we forget all the necessary steps it takes us to get there. I have a different out look on life now I will be very thankful for all I achieve, even if I didnotmeet my goal. - 9/11/2012   8:11:16 PM
  • 16
    Thank you for this. You are so right. We do need to be our own cheerleaders. It is so hard for me to look at what I am doing good or right or what I have done so far. It just seems like I focus on what I have yet to do or making myself better or faster at something or how much weight I haven't lost. You have inspired me to "change" my way of thinking. Thank You 8) - 9/11/2012   8:10:25 PM
  • 15
    I like this - take credit for how far you actually have come and if you don't meet your goal, look at where you've been, pick yourself up and keep pushing ahead. If you just beat your self up for missing your goal you won't get anywhere. - 9/11/2012   8:09:21 PM
  • STEPFANIER
    14
    Jen, I needed to hear this today. Thank you for sharing. I have taken this to heart. - 9/11/2012   7:50:39 PM
  • 13
    Its good to celebrate the good things and also to stand in the truth of what we are, an honest self assessment can be the open door to our dreams. - 9/11/2012   6:54:48 PM
  • FISHSQUEEZER
    12
    While it can be very frustrating to reset my goals on a regular basis, I have to remind myself that I am a long way from where I started. Just a few years ago I couldn't run 100 yards and now I have run a 5 K and am planning on doing another. It certainly takes work to look at how far you have come rather than what you haven't done yet. Keep working on the plus and the negative will disappear. - 9/11/2012   6:09:52 PM
  • 11
    Love this! Enjoy the journey! - 9/11/2012   5:16:44 PM
  • 10
    Yes, for sure we need to celebrate where we are, and focus on the positive.

    Usually no matter how bad things might seem, we are still better off than a lot of other possible alternatives! - 9/11/2012   4:57:48 PM
  • 9
    Definitely on target. More positive praise for myself is a good thing! - 9/11/2012   4:55:02 PM
  • 8
    You're right. Instead of beating myself up about how much I've been eating lately I should be congratulating myself that although I've been eating like a horse my weekly workouts have enabled me to limit my weight gain to a pound or two. And once I have forgiven myself maybe I'll feel more like eating sensibly! - 9/11/2012   4:36:47 PM
  • 7
    Definitely taking this to heart. You could have been writing this to me personally. Thanks! - 9/11/2012   4:21:49 PM
  • MOTOMOM1234
    6
    Thanks LMCBUD! - 9/11/2012   4:10:56 PM
  • 5
    I have always been "it's all good, Life's Good!" on the outside, while on the inside I was always punishing myself for letting my health and my wieght get out of hand. I think learning to be my own cheerleader will be a big help! - 9/11/2012   3:10:13 PM
  • JCD1127
    4
    You are right-we have to be our own cheerleader! - 9/11/2012   2:54:15 PM
  • 3
    I've started and stopped so many times over the years. The one thing I have learned is to give myself credit for "doing" each day rather than getting upset when I mess up or neglect myself. So you have a bad day, what are you going to do "right now" to make it better???? Keep positive and appreciate all you CAN do. - 9/11/2012   2:48:58 PM
  • 2
    I try to evaluate the situation based upon the truth of my effort and the end result. If I really didn't give the effort my all and I missed the goal, that is a failure. However, when I've really applyied the action plan thoroughly, then the effort was a success but the measure of the end result was a failure and an opportunity to use a different action plan next time. - 9/11/2012   2:41:56 PM
  • 1
    This certainly hit me. (I'm kind of the glass 1/2 empty type.) -- So I think I will start a list of the things that I've improved, changed, learned AND applied, friends made, etc. that have occurred over the past couple of years of this journey. Those are all really good, healthy things that I've intentionally added into my life.

    And probably the most important of all: It IS a LIFESTYLE! - 9/11/2012   2:23:51 PM

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