You Always Have A New Chance At Life


By: , SparkPeople Blogger
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No matter where you are or what condition you are in, you have a chance to make healthy changes to better your situation. I say that because I used to weigh 460 pounds, was bed-ridden with disabilities and chronic pain.  I now weigh 200 pounds less with no weight-loss surgery and can walk with a walker and on my own at times. The pain is still difficult to deal with, but not as difficult as when I was lying in bed and concentrating on the pain.  You see, I wasn't looking for a way out: I was accepting a fate.

I've discovered that staying on my SparkPeople plan gives me a sense of control that I wouldn't otherwise have in my dizzying world. Without SparkPeople, I would have nothing to ground me. It is my security blanket and passion. It is always there for me. Food used to be that security blanket, but now it stands between me and my new passion for health.

How the change came about, I'm not exactly sure. It was years in the making. I think I just began to want to live and do more than I wanted to eat. Then I wanted to prove to people who said it couldn't be done, that it could and anyone could have a second chance at life. For example, I did a 5K at the mall with my walker, named Freedom.  I had to rest on each side of the mall, but I did it!

Now I finally feel like I am in control. There are no more off-limit foods, just foods I choose to eat less often. People can't tell me what to eat or whether to exercise, because I won't let them anymore. Only my tracker and I deal with my food issues. I feel proud logging minutes of exercise- EVERY ONE COUNTS. I don't subscribe to the ''no pain, no gain'' theory.  I believe that if you move, you are better off.  Each move helps you reach a higher level of mobility.

What I'm really saying is that learning to eat healthfully and move is freeing. It puts the control ball back in your court. Never look at it again as ''I have to go on a diet.'' It isn't a diet. SparkPeople promotes healthy choices and portion sizes, and moving for the sheer joy of what you like.  Saying ''I'll never eat ________again'' is unrealistic.  Also, jumping up from a bedridden state and walking is unrealistic, as there are steps to be taken.
Think of what small goals you want to do RIGHT NOW--and do them.  Start slow--maybe walk to your mailbox, or eat one less bite.  If that feels good, try leaving 2 bites and maybe lifting some small dumbbells for 3 minutes to music.  The changes don't have to be big.  They have to be in proportion to what you are already doing.  Already running a mile?  Try 1.10 miles. 
I've lost 200 pounds now and I can finally live again.  If I can do this, you can, too! I'm just a housewife from Indiana, not a celebrity or fitness guru. We can do this!
What will I do with my second chance at life?  I will spread the news as much as I can that life gives second chances.  Right now, I host SparkPeople Member Rallies and am beginning to give talks about my story with I also have an idea of when I'll be starting coaching school, if I can save the money.  I feel like my destiny lies in helping others overcome obesity.  At 47, it is an odd age to figure out what to do with my life. But it's never too late.
Whether you are disabled, well, positive or negative, remember ''What I can do is my choice. What I can't do is not my choice.'' Work like nothing else to expand your choices.
What will you do with your second chance at life?

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    This was written almost six years ago, but I really needed this today. Thank you, Beth. - 1/28/2018   6:51:54 AM
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    Very inspiring! - 10/19/2017   10:41:27 AM
    Thank you for taking the time to write this. I needed it this morning. - 10/16/2017   9:02:43 AM
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    So happy I came upon this site back in 2007...... - 10/6/2017   11:50:01 AM
    Your blog is very inspiring! Congratulations on changing your mindset and losing those pounds! You are correct - any small step is better than no steps...and patience is hard, but when you plant the seed, you have to place it in the sunshine, water it, take care of it and in time (hard to wait)...but eventually, it buds, and then a beautiful flower blooms! We are seeds in different stages, getting to the bud, or the bloom stage does take time...but we are on our way!!! Keep up the great progress! - 4/23/2012   11:37:05 AM
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    Thank you so much for sharing. You have been an inspiration. - 4/22/2012   4:28:44 PM
  • 55
    God bless you and SparkPeople!! - 4/16/2012   3:11:42 PM
  • 54
    God bless you and SparkPeople - 4/16/2012   3:11:09 PM
  • 53
    Thank you! Your blogs are always so inspiring. I'm so glad you share and I agree you have found your destiny. Lucky us! - 4/16/2012   9:18:50 AM
  • 52
    A good read and from a fellow Hoosier none the less. Rock on. - 4/15/2012   11:23:36 PM
  • 51
    You might enjoy this great article about late bloomers :) Thanks for a great message! Keep it up!
    - 4/15/2012   4:19:27 PM
  • 50
    You go! You are doing great! And you really are an inspiration..... - 4/15/2012   2:04:13 PM
  • 49
    You are a true inspiration. Management and drive are key to making change and progress. - 4/15/2012   10:39:10 AM
  • 48
    What an inspiring story! Wishing you much success as you continue your journey. - 4/15/2012   9:38:35 AM
  • 47
    Thank you for Sharing your truly inspirational story. I really needed to hear this message this morning. Keep up the good work !!! - 4/15/2012   9:05:41 AM
  • 123ELAINE456
    Great Blog. You are an INSPIRATION TO ALL OF US. Keep doing what you are doing. You will reach your other goals in life. Age 47 is Young at heart. God Bless you and Have a Wonderful Week. HUGS!!!! - 4/15/2012   5:11:32 AM
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    You are amazing for what you have overcome and what you continue to do. Thank you for your blog, its great! Thank you for sharing and being an inspiration. - 4/15/2012   12:57:20 AM
    I just had to save this! Thank you for motivating me today (: - 4/15/2012   12:53:20 AM
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    You are very inspirational. Thanks so much for sharing your story!!! - 4/14/2012   11:37:39 PM
  • JR111222
    i really enjoyed your story i deal with the same problems and i am starting to see that light as well..... thanks so much for sharing - 4/14/2012   8:49:34 PM
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    Another GREAT inspiring blog from you, Beth !

    THANKS - 4/14/2012   6:19:57 PM
    thank u so much for ur story, u just gave me a little more hope that i can do it. - 4/14/2012   3:09:57 PM
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    Thank you for this wonderful blog and for sharing the treasures of your story. I am glad you are making changes everyday to your life and to others. For my second chance I will think about myself more and take care of me more. I will try to meet my needs as well as others' needs. Thanks for the inspiration!!! Hugs - 4/14/2012   1:10:41 PM
  • 38
    What a wonderful, inspiring blog. Thank you for sharing. I hope I can start doing as well, though it be my 3rd or 4th chance. - 4/14/2012   12:30:46 PM
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    what a wonderful inspiration! Thank you, it is something i needed to read today! i am going to my new gym today so i am beginning a new chapter of my life. - 4/14/2012   11:06:52 AM
    You continue to inspire me! Great Blog!!!!! - 4/14/2012   10:44:25 AM
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    Thanks for shearing are good luck. - 4/14/2012   10:20:59 AM
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    Your story is an inspiration. I'm nearing 60 and I need to re-read your story to drill it into my head that it's not too late. - 4/14/2012   8:27:06 AM
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    So happy for you that you are down 200# and still working on getting to a normal BMI. I read Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of NOW" and realize that is all the time we ever have. - 4/14/2012   7:00:24 AM
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    No odd ages here took me til I was 54 to get serious about my health and now there is no going back....I don't ever want to be there again! - 4/14/2012   12:58:35 AM
  • KATHYJ727
    Thank you so much for your inspiring story and best of luck spreading this message. Just this week I lost a young friend of mine who weighed over 400 pounds and had diabetes. He didn't believe he could do what you've done and he gave up. On Tuesday, so did his heart. He was 27. I wish he had heard your story. - 4/13/2012   11:20:53 PM
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    Way to go. That's the right attitude! - 4/13/2012   11:16:29 PM
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    What a wonderful attitude you have, and you are so right. Congrats on your weight loss. - 4/13/2012   11:08:00 PM
    Wow! This is a great life story. You have worked hard to make a big difference in your life and that is something that some people never do. Your life decisions are very impressive. - 4/13/2012   10:28:21 PM
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    what an amazing example you are, Beth!! I believe in 2nd chances and you are proof!! - 4/13/2012   9:34:05 PM
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    Your blog made me baby brother told be that I needed to find "my one thing" as an incentive to me as I was dealing with changes of my daughters growing and leaving home and becoming independent!! When you talk about how your life has changed I can so see your need for my baby brothers advise. You have come so far on the get your health back road and now you to can find your "one thing" that thing that will lead you on to life below 200 lbs and life being active and healthy! Thanks for sharing your journey and your dreams!! You go girl!!
    Smiles Barb - 4/13/2012   5:00:55 PM
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    Thanks for this! I feel like I needed to hear this. And yay Indiana!!! - 4/13/2012   4:54:35 PM
  • 24
    2nd chances are few and far between....and 47 isn't too old for have plenty of time left for lots of things.....congrats on the journey you've begun!! - 4/13/2012   4:08:24 PM
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    What an awesome journey you are on. I am 47 as well, and I have also decided this is the year for a second chance. I cheer you from the sidelines! - 4/13/2012   4:02:50 PM
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    Your journey is truly inspiring. I appreciate you putting yourself out there and telling your story so that the rest of us can take your experiences and wisdom and use it towards our own goals. Second chances don't come along too often so we need to grab onto them and not look back . Thank You. - 4/13/2012   3:52:00 PM
    A wonderful inspiration. A testimony to the power of a determined mind. - 4/13/2012   3:26:23 PM
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    Wonderful blog... Thanks for sharing your inspiration with me! - 4/13/2012   2:48:55 PM
    Thanks for the great blog, it is really inspiraing. A second chance doesn't come all the time, some of us are so lucky when we get the second chance. So all we have to do is grab it and move along with the life. Good luck, and I hope we will have more blog like this in future too. - 4/13/2012   2:43:06 PM
    Every time I read one of your blogs I get re-inspired! Thank you! - 4/13/2012   2:27:35 PM
  • CHULETA1981
    Congrats for taking the second chance at life, for sharing it, for all your hard work. thanks for the reminder that our choices are the result of our life. God bless you - 4/13/2012   2:20:04 PM
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    That was PRECISELY the motivation I needed today. I have been stuck losing and gaining the same 3 lbs for a few months now (medical issues) and I just said to DH yesterday I guess this is all the farther I get to go in this journey. Thank you so much for the timely "pep talk." Good luck to you in your future endeavors and along your journey. :) - 4/13/2012   2:18:29 PM
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    I am my 50's, and our children as of this past year, are all in school or on their own, so my wife and I decided it was time to take care of ourselves. Since September we have both lost over 40 pounds, My weight is now the lowest it has ever been in the time that we have been married, 25 years in August. I am in my 10th year of my second profession and love every day of it. You can change anything you want at any time, you need to put a date on a dream in order to make it a goal that you will work toward. - 4/13/2012   1:35:37 PM
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    Wonderful. Your blogs are so uplifting. - 4/13/2012   1:35:22 PM
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    Thanks for the reminder that it's the little things that count.
    Thanks for paying it forward, as you share what you've learned with others. - 4/13/2012   1:28:58 PM
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    A truly wonderful story! Thanks. - 4/13/2012   1:04:44 PM

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