Watch: Blogger Takes on the Haters Who Called Her Fat

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By: , SparkPeople Blogger
7/26/2012 6:00 AM   :  196 comments   :  25,666 Views

Posting anything on the internet can bring a lot of comments and feedback -- some positive and some negative. I wonder though, if it weren't for the anonymity of the internet would the same people that leave negative comments and feedback say the same thing in person? I doubt that they would, so when you get brave people to post blogs and videos, they open themselves up to a lot of scrutiny. Our very own Coach Nicole experienced this several years ago with comments made about her on her YouTube workout videos. I don't know if I could've taken those negative comments as well as Coach Nicole, but I didn't believe one word of the negative comments that were posted.

For Coach Nicole, she chose to just delete those types of comments, but I recently came upon a Youtube video by Meghan Tonjes that addresses negative and rude comments made on her Youtube videos. In Meghan's video, she specifically addresses what I call the Negative Nelly's out there in the land of the internet that called her fat. Meghan says she is fat and is actually technically obese and not trying to hide it, but what others may not know is that last year she was morbidly obese and 60 pounds heavier.
 
I think Meghan's message is inspirational and a great reminder that we are all on our own journey and we never know what part of the journey someone else may be in at the moment. Health and fitness come in all shapes and sizes and just because someone is overweight or obese, it doesn't mean they are not healthy, fit or awesome. So let's learn from Meghan's message and remind ourselves just how far we have come in our own journey and how awesome we really are!
 
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Please be advised: there is some foul language used in the video.
 

 
 


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  • 196
    I love this girl! You are inspiring, honest and real! Good for you and the positive attitude you have!!!!!! - 10/26/2014   8:20:37 PM
  • SARCASTICALLYME
    195
    Awesome vlog! I can honestly relate to it as well! I am still fat but I have also managed to start a change for the better and I am two later and 56 lbs. lighter, still big but majorly awesome just as the vlogger is! - 9/11/2014   8:13:29 PM
  • 194
    ROTFLMAO! ! ! THANK YOU SO MUCH for being the strong personality that you are and for helping us all out the way that you have over the years. You are a good friend to have. :- ) - 6/28/2014   2:10:49 PM
  • 193
    82719541, you don't sound heavy enough to have knee problems from your weight. That person was ignorant. There are thin people with knee problems and fat people without them. - 4/17/2014   1:33:21 PM
  • 192
    A couple of weeks ago I posted on line for help with a knee injury. I gave my weight of 127 pounds at 5'1" tall and then gave my problem with my knee. One man wrote back to me and said if I was not so fat I wouldn't have a problem and then proceeded to tell me how I should lose my weight. I guess I learned my lesson, there are allot of mean people out there. - 12/30/2013   5:17:56 PM
  • 191
    LOVE IT!!!! You go girl!!!!! Remember fat can be spelled many ways!! PHAT: Pretty Hot And Thick :-) - 12/30/2013   2:52:34 PM
  • 190
    Awesome! I feel that when people have only negative things to say about others that they themselves are insecure or unhappy or just plain jealous. You go girl!!!! - 12/30/2013   9:44:00 AM
  • 189
    She is FABULOUS! When I was obese, I had a private language teacher who told me every week that I was fat. Then I got home and every week my SIL told me I was fat. I gave up the lessons and DH told SIL to shut up, but I wish I'd had the spunk to use that "foul" language to my language teacher. She needed it. - 12/30/2013   7:08:18 AM
  • 188
    I love love love this video! You've got a lot of charisma, so pretty and should be on a TV show, you are delight to watch. So empowering how you called out those haters! Yes you are awesome! And yes I do thing you deserve more exclamation points. - 8/30/2012   9:01:37 PM
  • CROW8045
    187
    Know what I'd like to call you? Brave...and beautiful. - 8/20/2012   6:47:08 PM
  • 186
    You are so cool. I wish I had a friend like you when I was your age...hell I wish you were my friend now.... :) keep on keepin on.... - 8/7/2012   5:04:48 PM
  • 185
    Awesome ! I love people who say it like it is ! Bravo ! - 8/5/2012   3:24:17 PM
  • GINGERD03
    184
    Love it! - 8/1/2012   11:14:02 PM
  • MINAHH
    183
    Well, I don't care what stupid and hateful people say; I think you are a beautiful woman and very courageous. Keep up the good work. 60 pounds off is a big deal and keeping it off a still bigger deal. I have been dealing with weight issues since I was about 11 and I had a period of time when I did not. Got older and a lot heavier and it is very hard to drop weight when one loses a lot of muscle mass and has health issues, however, although it is not easy, it is possible. I say get to a size that is comfortable for you and keep active so that you don't face major muscle loss and you will be fine, if not great. Have a great journey and continue to be who you are ... which seems like a very smart and lovely woman. - 8/1/2012   10:30:18 PM
  • 182
    Well done! You look great! Congrats on your weight loss thus far, keep up the good work. Thanks for inspiring me today :-) - 8/1/2012   3:27:47 PM
  • 181
    I love love love your video!!! AWESOME ... slap them w/ the truth and ya know what... there's a LOT of us out there just like you! ME ... I'm old and fat! I'm a BIG girl ... always have been and always will be .... and I finally have a man (for the past 9 yrs!) who is totally OK w/ it!! And he is SKINNY!! LOL No One is perfect ... and we have to put to good use with what we were born with! Count me in rooting for you should you ever try to do MORE in the world of VIDEO!! - 7/31/2012   1:29:04 PM
  • SHUTTLEGIRL1
    180
    Great blog entry! Your words moved me to tears - and it demonstrates an attitude that I wish I could embody as stunningly as you did! - 7/30/2012   11:53:09 PM
  • MIRANDA2112
    179
    Congratulations!! You are so positive and happy in yourself that it shows in your demeanour........ you are admirable. - 7/30/2012   7:14:46 PM
  • 178
    'Somebodies and Nobodies'.
    Few months ago I read the above named article about 'Rankism', a term coined by R. Fuller, PhD.
    "Rankism is an assertion of superiority. It typically takes the form of putting others down.... Or, more precisely, it is what people who think they're Somebodies do to people they take for nobodies".
    People rank in order to claim superior importance as a person.

    Enough said.

    Wishing you the best of luck

    - 7/30/2012   5:29:21 PM
  • 177
    This video is awesome and so valuable for all of us to see no matter where we are on the journey. - 7/30/2012   3:52:34 PM
  • 176
    Megan, I hope you get to see these comments.
    What a powerful person you are. You made me smile. Your Vblog lightened my day. Have a wonderful day!
    - 7/30/2012   12:27:45 PM
  • 175
    Thank you so much for putting together this video to stand up to all the haters! Not too long ago I put in a comment at another health website trying to help a girl out, somebody made a rude comment about my advice! All I was trying to do was help the girl out! Again, thank you so much for the video and congrats on losing 60 lbs! - 7/30/2012   12:08:58 PM
  • 174
    GREAT message! Although my favorite part is the very end when she does some flashy thing with her hands and sings, "I don't even know what this is but I'm doing it". LOL GREAT personality. :) - 7/30/2012   12:00:39 PM
  • OVERWEIGHTRD
    173
    As a currently obese dietitian who was often harassed as a kid because of my weight I totally applaud and agree with you. It is absolutely true that the people who are doing this are people that hate themselves, but it makes them no less hurtful. My remedy for this is to surround myself with positive people who love me. I interviewed my wife last week about her thoughts about my weight and she was a wonderful mixture of loving and honest.
    Keep up the great work! Bill Bradley, R.D. Confessions of an Overweight Dietitian - 7/30/2012   10:52:41 AM
  • 172
    I love it!! I think it's a message and a general issue of judgement that we all need to remember AND be aware of from time to time. Thank you so much for sharing this! She is a breath of fresh air and has gained a new, *appreciative*, follower. :) - 7/30/2012   12:47:58 AM
  • GREENFAIRY390
    171
    This video is FABU! - 7/29/2012   11:34:37 PM
  • 170
    I'm so loving you right now!! This brought tears to my eyes I wish I could this happy about myself i'm working on getting there!! Thank you for sharing with all of us! YOU ROCK!!!!! - 7/29/2012   3:46:56 PM
  • WOLF648
    169
    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - 7/29/2012   4:44:08 AM
  • 168
    you are gorgeous! what an inspirational video! Always remember, haters are spiritually ugly and that is the worst kind of ugly!! Congrats on all you've accomplished and blessings on your journey to fitness! - 7/29/2012   2:10:11 AM
  • 167
    I've become increasingly at odds with social networking and have, more often recently, seen/heard/read some really hurtful replies. Sometimes its about issues you mentioned, sometimes about politics, sometimes the attacks are just plain personal. So to have you 'fight back' is very refreshing. Thank you for standing up for yourself and the rest of us who are not as brave. - 7/28/2012   4:15:05 PM
  • 166
    Wow!!! Your beauty shines through you...inside & out...The confidence you show is a wonderful demonstration of how our opinion of ourselves is most important!!! Thank you for showing us what we all need to know!!! - 7/28/2012   3:54:21 PM
  • LDEANIE
    165
    Wow!! You are awesome! I love your attitude. You are so right. We can't give those "haters" any power over us. You rock!! :) - 7/28/2012   10:15:08 AM
  • 164
    I don't blog or vlog - I SPLOG! (SP Blog!) I am fortunate to have had nothing but support from this wonderful community. I think if I were faced with negativity or attacks it would be very easy to let it seriously bother me. After viewing this, and reading about Coach Nicole's experience, I think if it ever happens to me I'll just hit "delete" and go on with my day. :) - 7/28/2012   1:22:11 AM
  • 163
    You go girl!! You are more that what you weigh. Your weight is not going to make you beautiful or ugly, smart or dumb. You are beautiful regardless of what you weigh. - 7/28/2012   12:29:39 AM
  • 162
    Thanks, Meghan!
    - 7/27/2012   10:29:16 PM
  • 161
    Hmmmm. Can I take some of that spunk with me to face my ex? You ain't getting me down! - 7/27/2012   10:22:08 PM
  • 160
    WOOHOOO !

    You Rock, Girl !

    99.9999% of people have room for improvement.
    There is nothing wrong with not being perfect.
    The problem is when we stop trying to improve.

    I hope some of those imperfect meanies read this

    BLESSINGS !

    - 7/27/2012   10:20:45 PM
  • 159
    Love your attitude! You look marvelous and congrats on the 60 lb weight loss! - 7/27/2012   9:59:56 PM
  • 158
    Way to go with the great attitude! My 7 yo daughter said you were pretty and she like your glasses. - 7/27/2012   9:20:47 PM
  • 157
    That beautiful woman is the epitome of AWESOMENESS!!!
    We need to pass this on to anyone who needs some true, down to earth uplifting for their self confidence. We need to take a page out of her book and try to incorporate it into our lives. - 7/27/2012   8:43:12 PM
  • 156
    Very cool. - 7/27/2012   8:36:06 PM
  • PTOUCHET63
    155
    One thing comes to my mind, it is a quote that I have heard for years. I do not know who started it but it says, Beauty is skin deep but ugliness goes to the bone. People who say negative things to hurt another person are the ugliness. - 7/27/2012   8:06:52 PM
  • JALYNW
    154
    Good for you! Keep doing what you do! - 7/27/2012   6:43:24 PM
  • 153
    Good for YOU! Keep on claiming who you are, and finding the beauty and goodness in that. - 7/27/2012   5:00:32 PM
  • 152
    OMG I love her. - 7/27/2012   4:53:48 PM
  • 151
    Thank you!!! - 7/27/2012   3:55:05 PM
  • 150
    Awesome vlog! Congrats on losing the 60 pounds so far! Keep up the great work! You are an inspiration to many people! - 7/27/2012   3:45:15 PM
  • 149
    Good for you - love yourself and you can love others! I feel sorry for all the narrow-minded, mean-spirited people who call names and label people because they show their complete ignorance. Remember this first and foremost: GOD DOESN'T MAKE JUNK! So, be careful whose work you criticize. Meghan, you are a beautiful girl and you will reach all your goals! - 7/27/2012   3:40:25 PM
  • LISABERNADETTE1
    148
    That was great, good for you...
    We are all a work in progress...Jesus made us all beautiful. - 7/27/2012   3:30:58 PM
  • 147
    I love it!!! Good for Meghan! - 7/27/2012   3:10:09 PM

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