Trust the Process: Learning to Accept Change
Last January I attended a two day seminar led by one of the country's premier sports dietitians, Nancy Clark. During her lecture on weight loss and exercise she made the following comment that struck a chord with me. She said, "If what you are doing isn't giving you the results you expect, what is the harm with trying something else?"
This was such a powerful message to me because so many times in the past I was so reluctant to try anything different in fear that it would take me in the wrong direction. This was especially true when I was advised to up my caloric intake when I started increasing my running mileage last spring. I had become so accustomed to eating between 1,200-1,550 calories per day that to increase my calories to 1,500-1,800 seemed so overwhelming. Almost to the point where fear took hold of me each time I logged my food into my food tracker.
Thankfully, I do not own a scale. Trust me, had I owned one when I started this process last March I probably would have found myself weighing on a daily basis. Even though I know one's weight can vary by as much as 5-7 pounds in a single day, I am not too sure how I would have dealt with that scenario had I seen that number fluctuate. Funny how intelligence and knowledge fly out the window when it comes to changes in our own body.
However, in my 4 1/2 year journey, I have come to learn to TRUST THE PROCESS. I really concentrated on making sure I was getting in good quality food choices and did whatever I could to steer clear of the scale at the gym (the only place I weigh). I promised myself I would not weigh for the first 6 weeks after I started this new aspect to my journey. I was going to go by the way my clothes were fitting and if I noticed they were getting snug before then, I would re-evaluate my situation.
Six weeks went by and I was shocked to see that I actually lost 2 pounds. Huh? Well being the skeptic that I am, I decided that I would weigh the following week just to see if this was a fluke. Lo and behold I was still 2 pounds down. I have remained the same weight for 5 months now and yet I have lost another 1% body fat (via skin calipers done by the trainer at my gym) and I am still eating 1,500-1,800 calories a day.
So to make a long story short, while it is fearful embarking in a new direction, I have learned to let go and TRUST THE PROCESS. And if what you are doing isn't giving you the results you expect, be willing to try something new, what's the harm.
Have you found yourself fearful to change even though what you are currently doing isn't giving you the results you expect? How long would you be willing to try something new before deciding you need to re-evaluate your situation?
This was such a powerful message to me because so many times in the past I was so reluctant to try anything different in fear that it would take me in the wrong direction. This was especially true when I was advised to up my caloric intake when I started increasing my running mileage last spring. I had become so accustomed to eating between 1,200-1,550 calories per day that to increase my calories to 1,500-1,800 seemed so overwhelming. Almost to the point where fear took hold of me each time I logged my food into my food tracker.
Thankfully, I do not own a scale. Trust me, had I owned one when I started this process last March I probably would have found myself weighing on a daily basis. Even though I know one's weight can vary by as much as 5-7 pounds in a single day, I am not too sure how I would have dealt with that scenario had I seen that number fluctuate. Funny how intelligence and knowledge fly out the window when it comes to changes in our own body.
However, in my 4 1/2 year journey, I have come to learn to TRUST THE PROCESS. I really concentrated on making sure I was getting in good quality food choices and did whatever I could to steer clear of the scale at the gym (the only place I weigh). I promised myself I would not weigh for the first 6 weeks after I started this new aspect to my journey. I was going to go by the way my clothes were fitting and if I noticed they were getting snug before then, I would re-evaluate my situation.
Six weeks went by and I was shocked to see that I actually lost 2 pounds. Huh? Well being the skeptic that I am, I decided that I would weigh the following week just to see if this was a fluke. Lo and behold I was still 2 pounds down. I have remained the same weight for 5 months now and yet I have lost another 1% body fat (via skin calipers done by the trainer at my gym) and I am still eating 1,500-1,800 calories a day.
So to make a long story short, while it is fearful embarking in a new direction, I have learned to let go and TRUST THE PROCESS. And if what you are doing isn't giving you the results you expect, be willing to try something new, what's the harm.
Have you found yourself fearful to change even though what you are currently doing isn't giving you the results you expect? How long would you be willing to try something new before deciding you need to re-evaluate your situation?
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Comments
Audri - 10/3/2009 10:02:11 PM
I believe that Coach Nancy said that in her talk to participants at the Spark Convention in San Diego...trust the plan and if it doesn't work for you, change it so that it will work! The best advice ever!... and I am living, walking, running proof that "change" is good. Thank you, Coach Nancy! - 9/17/2009 8:07:54 PM
great blog - thanks! - 9/16/2009 4:38:03 PM
I'm still evaluating what I need to change to make Maintenance a little smoother, a little easier. I am prolly going to make a change to my exercise routine, which was getting to be too much. I was eating 3500-4000 calories a day, and exercising like I was a drowning woman! I'm supposed to eat between 1500 and 1800 a day (according to Spark), but as a post-op gastric bypass patient, I can tell you that I can easily eat 2600-2800 a day and still lose weight. But the 3500-calorie-a-day habit was really killing me.
It's hard to admit that I'm struggling, but Nancy this article really hits home and is a good reminder that I'm doing what I need to do to help myself. And that's the first step in the right direction. - 9/14/2009 1:33:37 PM
(forgive my english! I am trying to improve them! you see...I am still trying :)) - 9/13/2009 3:49:45 PM
:) - 9/13/2009 2:59:15 PM
I had a couple good weight loss weeks in a row (1.8 lbs, 2.0 lbs, 2.2 lbs), but this week I lost a mere .4 lbs. (After lots of strenuous exercise). The challenge for me is when I see a few weeks where I exercise less and seem to lose more weight, and then I add exercise (and eating an average of about 100 calories more/day than the week when I exercised less) and see results like this.
I guess for me the challenge would be to be to see if I'm okay with decreasing the intensity of my exercise. If stressing my body and pushing myself doesn't pay off in weight loss, why torture myself? If a small amount of daily activity (30-45 minutes, not 2 hrs) ends up causing a weight loss, why keep spending 2 hrs at the gym and eating more because the strenuous exercise makes me ravenously hungry?
It's hard to trust the process when you act in similar ways most weeks and don't see the same result every week. And it's challenging to know which direction to go when what you're doing doesn't seem to be working. Eat less, eat more? Exercise less, exercise more?
And for me the biggest challenge, when I've decided that it's eating less I should try, is that it's hard to imagine how I will eat less and still feel satisfied. - 9/13/2009 2:07:07 PM
I firmly believe in the importance of changing up my routine. No, I am not afraid of change. Every time I make a change, it does improve my health and workouts. While it is important to exercise regularly, you don't want to end up in a rutt. That has happened to me in past. So, these days, I try to look for new things I can do that will make my workouts more of a challenge as well as interesting.
the thing about exercise is that it's not just good for your body. it's good for your mind. So, if you challenge your body, challenge your mind too. I love trying new things. Maybe I'll like it. Maybe I won't, but I always learn something and that counts.
Thanks for a great article, Nancy ! Gosh, I wish I'd been at that lecture. Nancy Clark rocks !
- 9/13/2009 1:57:58 PM
So true for me as I was used to eating very low calories when dieting. Started that with Spark People and wasn't losing. After reading and finding I needed at least 1200 calories daily, I felt guilty, but did it and started losing. Lost steadily for one year for a total of 48 lbs. After another 4 1/2 mos., the next two came off. Thanks to all the Spark People and Spark Friends. - 9/13/2009 12:48:11 PM
I don't know how many times I've read about increasing calories to break a plateau and start losing weight. I know what I read and the information was given by experts, but I just couldn't get the logic of it to settle.
Finally, three weeks ago I added 200 calories to my upper limit. At the end of the first week I had lost half a pound - that really wasn't enough proof for me, but I continued with the increase, but a couple of days I would find myself back in my old range and I'd have to concentrate getting my calories back up. When I weighed last week, I was down another pound.
I weigh in tomorrow, but it doesn't really matter what I weigh because my jeans are looser.
I know it's because I don't understand the science, but going against logic has started the way back down again. 17 more pounds to target number one. Then 15 more pounds to goal.
Follow the program, even if it feels contrary to what you 'think' you know. - 9/13/2009 11:39:12 AM
Once again, I am at a plateau, where I believe another change is needed. I experiment with mixing up my exercise by adding some new activities and also shift my caloric intake.
I see this process as a dance. It never ends, I just need to stay present with where I am in each moment and enjoy the steps I'm taking. - 9/13/2009 7:32:58 AM
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