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There is No Magic Potion, for Real?

By: , SparkPeople Blogger
7/8/2009 6:56 PM   :  194 comments   :  13,882 Views

I recently had lunch with a friend whom I havenít seen in years. While we have kept in contact via the annual Christmas card, our lives were just too busy to get together before last week. When we met at the restaurant she was shocked to see how much weight I had lost, even though she knew I was running and working for SparkPeople. She immediately asked what I did to lose the weight, as if I had lost it overnight. Keep in mind it had been a good four years since we last saw one another, so I could understand her curiosity. She wanted to know what supplement, food replacement drink, commercial food or program I used.

When I told her about SparkPeople.com and all the hard work and sheer determination I had spent the better part of 4 Ĺ years doing, it was as if I had burst her bubble. She told me how she had tried Slim-fast, other commercial programs, and even the diet pill Meridia, none of which she actively pursued for more than a few months. She did lose weight, but she did not keep it off. She proceeded to say she was so tired of wasting money and time dieting and was feeling hopeless that being overweight was her destiny.

Oh boy could I relate. That was precisely the position I was in when I decided to give up dieting in February 2005. I had reached the point that I just didnít want to keep dieting for the rest of my life.

But how do you convince others that there is no quick fix? I am not too sure if I was convincing enough, though. I really donít think she wanted to know or hear how to do itóyou know, the old fashioned way of tracking nutrition, getting in some good olí cardio and strength training exercise, and most importantly ridding oneself of the diet mentality that can hold many of us hostage to the scale or jean size.

I truly believe she was hoping I was going to say take this special pill or drink this special potion every night and voilŗ she would be transformed into a skinnier version of her current self. She was so deflated that she just didnít want to hear another word. That is when I knew it was not my place to convince her otherwise.

What saddened me was her quick dismissal of everything I had to offer, but I also know that I have walked in those same shoes myself. You know, when you know in your heart what you must do to lose the weight and get fit, but the journey just seems so overwhelming. She did visit the SparkPeople site and I hope one day when she is ready she will take that all important leap of faith to reclaim her health and when she does, I will be there ready with open arms to guide her along the way.

Have you had an experience like this with a friend? How did you handle this? Do you feel frustrated or sad that you cannot convince your friend to see that there is no quick fix?



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  • 194
    Like so many others, I too am constantly asked by others how I lost 60+lbs in the past year. And like everyone else, I too get the same uninterested responses when I tell everyone that my "secret" is eating smaller portions and exercising regularly.

    I alwalys let everyone know that I still eat the same things I've always eaten (and I actually do eat the same foods as I've always eaten - I don't do diet food) but that I now just eat smaller portions. But most people don't want to hear that because they do want to continue eating these humungous portions and still lose weight. ROTFLMAO!!!

    My family is the worst though because they see me all the time getting leaner and leaner and every time they see me, they just refuse to believe that I'm not doing something else because they still see me eating the same food as everyone else. Once again, I just try and point out that having smaller portions (which I do) is a must to losing weight - that and regularly exercising is all I did to lose the weight. Yes, it took me a year to lose 60+lbs but so what! When I remind them that it took me nearly 10yrs to gain the weight, losing it in one year is pretty !@#$%^& fast!

    Anyway, while I lost my weight the old fashioned way, I most certainly don't negatively judge people who choose surgery to jump start their weight loss program. Some people have some pretty serious health problems that require that they have more immediate results and for those folks, surgery is a life or death decision. So don't be too quick to judge those folks because after surgery, they have just as much hard work to do as anyone else. There is nothing wrong with someone who is more than a 100lbs overweight getting surgery.

    We all have the right to work our programs in the way that best suits our needs and we all have different needs. What works for you may not work for someone else and vice versa. Becoming healthier is the goal that I think we all share and it's ok if we all have our own journeys. It's all good. :) - 2/7/2013   5:28:12 PM
  • 193
    So true. There is no magic pill to losing the fat! - 10/5/2011   11:18:00 AM
  • RICKYDEE55
    192
    "They would rather take a pill or get gastric bypass surgery and still "pigout." I am small now, but it came through hard work, discipline, measuring portions, exercising, keeping a food log, etc. to shed the unwanted weight. I still have to work at maintaining my weight, maybe not as hard as I used to but it must be done consistently in order to not gain my weight back. I still measure portions, keep a food log and exercise every chance I get, not only to look better but to stay as healthy as I possibly can."

    So sad that you cannot respect thse of us who have struggled with every task you list-- hard work, discipline, measuring portions, exercising, keeping a food log-- because we chose to use weight loss surgery as a tool to reach a goal. That view is so incorrect as we WLSers must put in every ounce of effort as anyone else. The statistics show that WLS is effective. All the internal changes must accompany the procedure to maintain the weight loss! - 7/19/2011   12:47:00 PM
  • 191
    So many people tried to help me and encourage me to lose weight, but I had to come to that place where I myself was ready to do what it takes. No one else can exercise for me. People still encourage me (I'm on SP!), but I am the one who has to make the healthy choices. - 6/7/2011   7:16:22 AM
  • 190
    Sounds very much like my husband. He knows what to do and he sees me making changes but isn't really ready to commit yet, so I keep my mouth shut and know that he is where I was a few months ago... - 3/14/2010   9:02:19 AM
  • NEED_TO_TRY
    189
    Everyone must do things in their own time, they must be ready to begin the first step. I knew I had to do something months ago, but something clicked in February, so that is when my new journey began. - 3/13/2010   9:23:39 PM
  • 188
    The things worth having take work and dedication. - 3/13/2010   2:31:21 PM
  • 187
    I have had a few people ask how i lost weigh, when i tell them about SP they say well i don't have time for that. Others say OH its just like weigh watchers except you count calories instead of points. - 2/6/2010   3:25:56 PM
  • 186
    Not with a friend but with myself. I used to do Slimfast and lost about 28 lbs in 2 years but then I gained it all back and more. Before I started SP I was also looking for the wonder pill that would make me skinny overnight. Haven't found it. But I found SP and I am doing the the right way this time. - 1/3/2010   11:13:26 PM
  • 185
    I had a very similar experience with a relative. She remarked about how good I looked and questioned how much I had lost. Then the all important "How did you do it". I started telling them about SparkPeople. I didn't get a chance to say too much when she interrupted to ask how long it took. When I said that I had lost that amount of weight in 4 months, she said - Oh that is too long! I think at the time, I had lost 25 lbs so I responded that I didn't think that was too long for that amount of weight loss. She then sort of waved me off and the conversation was over. I was disappointed by her response but still very pleased with my own progress. I realized that she was not ready to tackle the task and I know myself that your mind has to be ready to start the journey and be successful at it. She did join SP but she has never mentioned anything more about it. Maybe some day she will really be ready and like you, I will be more than happy to support her. - 9/6/2009   11:49:29 AM
  • 184
    It seems to be more than true, that even-though ALL of my friends are astonished to see me way leaner and healthier than before, when I try to explain them about the Miraculous SPARKPEOPLE Heaven, and only if they ask, they try to avoid the responsibility of getting into action and face their own problems and eventually themselves. I've stopped worrying about not being capable of helping other helping themselves, it's not their "right moment" apparently...
    http://www.sparkpeople.com/mypage.a
    sp?ID=DRAGONFLY1972
    put it perfectly: "I think it's fear, fear that they might actually have to face themselves and their emotions and their bodies. I might not have the best track record and may back slide. But I am growing secure in who I am, what I want and where I am going."
    And YES, the magic pill exists...
    It's sparkpeople.com
    Trust me on this girls and guys
    :-D - 8/10/2009   12:45:56 PM
  • HAPPYTEX
    183
    I have a grown son who must be at least 100 pounds overweight. I've tried for years to get him to lose weight, to no avail. He continues to eat the same way he did when he was an athlete in school.

    I recently tried the same approach he used on me years ago to get me to quit smoking. He asked me to do it for him--at the time he was about ten years old. I promised him I would quit for a year. It was one of the hardest things I ever did, but I quit. I asked him to consider his two young daughters, and make sure he will have every chance to see them grow up.

    Whether this will work or not, time will tell. I'm also going to tell him about SparkPeople. - 7/21/2009   5:10:06 PM
  • 182
    Yes, I have tried to get so many of my friends that need to lose weight the proper encouragement and offered to help them in any way that I can. But, people do not want to work at it or expect the weight to fall off overnight. They would rather take a pill or get gastric bypass surgery and still "pigout." I am small now, but it came through hard work, discipline, measuring portions, exercising, keeping a food log, etc. to shed the unwanted weight. I still have to work at maintaining my weight, maybe not as hard as I used to but it must be done consistently in order to not gain my weight back. I still measure portions, keep a food log and exercise every chance I get, not only to look better but to stay as healthy as I possibly can. - 7/21/2009   1:10:06 PM
  • DRAGONFLY1972
    181
    Oh boy, reading these comments are like going to group therapy!

    EVERYONE I tell about Sparkpeople and my gym membership, are just like: look bored, say um yeah, I'll check it out, or I don't have time. Yet they have a myspace and a facebook page! I consider Sparkpeople my second social networking site, but it's the main one I'm on. My myspace is just to keep in touch with family from out of the area. NONE of them want to join Sparkpeople. I talk about how great Sparkpeople is and what it can offer you and they say oh yeah, (in the same breath) wanna join Weight Watchers (or any other plan) with me? Um, no, I don't want to pay someone to weigh me every week, when I can step on the scale at the gym for free. My gym membership is $22 a month and I'm not crazy about that except I don't have the room or budget for the items I would need at home, besides there is a point of motivation that you better use what you're paying for!

    I think it's fear, fear that they might actually have to face themselves and their emotions and their bodies. I might not have the best track record and may back slide. But I am growing secure in who I am, what I want and where I am going. - 7/19/2009   11:52:32 AM
  • 180
    THAT SEEMS TO BE THE NORTH AMERICAN WAY, WE WANT IT ALL, WE WANT IT NOW, WE WANT TO JUST TAKE A MAGIC PILL AND BE DONE WITH IT, THE LAST THING WE WANT IS THE RESPONSIBILITY TO DO IT RIGHT ! I HAVE A DAUGHTER LIKE YOUR FRIEND. ALL I CAN DO IS CONTINUE ON MY JOURNEY AND HOPE SHE LETS SOME OF THE SEEDS I PLANTED SPROUT... IN THE END IT IS UP TO EACH OF US TO BE RESPONSIBLE ONLY FOR OURSELVES. OH YES ONE MORE POINT THAT I HAVE SAID FROM THE BEGINNING, THERE AINT NO FAIRY GOD MOTHER EITHER ... !! - 7/15/2009   9:18:06 AM
  • 179
    I too have had many people ask me about my weight loss and when I say I did it through diet and exercise using Sparkpeople they always say "oh". A sad, tired, "oh". That's right, no magic diet pills to gobble up...just a lot of hard work and perserverence on my part....I don't say it, but I sometimes think it. I've had numerous people sign up for the site, but they typically don't last a week. It is no different than someone who says they want to quit smoking, until they are really ready, they can't do it. Dieters are the same...they can try this or that fad, but until they are really ready, it won't happen. - 7/15/2009   8:16:14 AM
  • 178
    I actually got my daughter and brother to join....now how much they are on the site is another story! But I have told a lot of friends about it, and you know how they are, lets wait and see how you do! - 7/14/2009   5:32:04 PM
  • 177
    Fortunately, most of my friends and family are excited for me. But my friend's daughter doesn't get it yet. She's been on WW or Jenny Craig forever and can't seem to lose 2 lbs. so she can be under 200 lbs. But at the 4th of July party, I saw that she filled her plate with fried chicken, pizza, kielbasa and the like. "It's my day off from dieting" she said. A few days later I told her about SP. She said, "yeah, I know about it but I just don't have the time to do it". She is a nurse and works 12 hour days. But if I were her, I would buy myself an iTouch/iPhone or Blackberry which would give her the freedom to do it anywhere. It's all about desire. For me, it was an epiphany or Divine intervention - I just want to do it. - 7/14/2009   8:11:00 AM
  • 176
    It's a relief to hear someone else say this. I thought I was just not a very good salesperson because I can't seem to convince others of the greatness of this site. After all, I have been "dieting" for 60 years and finally, I am successful - because I found SP. But very few others really want to listen. On the other hand, there are several million of us who do realize the value of SP and we keep each other encouraged. - 7/13/2009   10:10:12 PM
  • GRACED24/7
    175
    Pure and simple. It takes determination and the willingless to do something that you haven't been willing to do before in order to reach any goal!! If is was easy and quick , the US population wouldn't be so overweight and disease laden. - 7/13/2009   6:31:55 PM
  • JCH955
    174
    That's what it's about - going back to the basics. Track what you eat. Weigh & measure your food. Eat whole foods and stay away from the drive-throughs. Find something you like to do and exercise. My husband is a good example. He was diagnosed with type-2 diabetes some years back, well before we ever met and never really controlled it. In January, just shortly after we were married, he came down with pneumonia which progressed due in large part to his immune system being compromised and went into respiratory arrest, had sepsis, renal failure, CHF, etc. It was shocking how sick he became and how rapidly. Now, after 5 months in the hospital, he's finally walking and has begun taking stairs and is back at work. My task is to try to help him with his diet, but I already know he's starting to hit the fast food and the catering truck...even though he's on an even more strict diet due to the combination of diabetes AND renal disease! I've decided that I will need to pack his breakfast and lunch, make dinner and try to help that way to keep him on track. Oh, and get him to the gym.

    There are too many people that think that there's still some magic bullet out there or on the horizon, whether it's a pill or surgery and that's very sad. The only way to do this is to change lifestyle. - 7/13/2009   3:15:45 PM
  • 173
    I've learned that when 99.9% of the people say "What have you done to lose the weight?!" what they really mean is, "Please tell me something quick and easy so I don't really have to change my way of life."

    It's the rare person who _really_ wants to know the "right" way to do it (aka slow and steady, changing habits, changing attitudes, sometimes changing associations). - 7/13/2009   12:32:09 PM
  • 172
    My mother in law is one of those people. I swear she has been on every diet plan, diet pill and everything else imaginable since I married her son and I can't tell a bit of difference in her weight. It makes her really mad when someone who is actually dieting and exercising the right way loosing weight. I just can't seem to get it through to her that nothing is magical and weight loss is not the same for everyone. - 7/13/2009   9:15:50 AM
  • 171
    We live in a pill oriented "fix it" society. We are brought up to believe that a pill can cure everything. I get angry with the way the companies and the media are allowed to continue this kind of brainwashing of the public that allows us to think we don't have any real responsibility in making the changes in our own health.

    Thanks so much for sharing this article. It's good to know that we are doing what we have to do and we are surrounded with exactly the right support and help - as it should be done. - 7/13/2009   8:20:31 AM
  • 170
    I really appreciate you posting this blog. I have been where you friend is now and at times I still am looking for the "magic pill or potion". I know what I need to do to lose weight and be healthier and most of the time I follow through on this advice, but then there are times when I am feeling down-hearted and sabotage myself by overeating and snacking late at night. That being said...when your friend is ready she will remember your conversation and most likely step through the open door and join you. Right now I am struggling myself, but decided today that I will begin again and use SparkPeople the way it was intended to help me reach my goals, motivate me along the way, and support me when I have fallen off track.

    Wishing you much success on your journey. - 7/12/2009   7:41:49 PM
  • 169
    I really get tired of people assuming that I've had gastric bypass to lose weight. I've lost a considerable amount of weight; 270 pounds, but I've done it over 4+ years.

    Slow and steady wins the race! - 7/12/2009   5:54:35 PM
  • 168
    I have a friend who knows all the ins and outs of loosing weight but just doesnt care. She is a beautiful woman and wants to loose the weight but doesnt want to do the work. I go and walk with her sometimes and she doesnt have the desire to keep going, she will go the once around but then wants to be done. I say lets add some more and she wont. so I work out with my other friend who is willing to get out and go and doesnt complain about doing it. Sorry she is being left behind but she knows what to do. I think most of her problem is that her husband naggs her all the time and tells her to go, she resists because she doenst want to be told what to do. - 7/12/2009   12:33:25 PM
  • 167
    Indeed, been there. I just try to remember the steps I had to take to get to a point where I was ready to do the work of tracking food intake, starting to actually exercise, and becoming interested in caring for myself... in that order! - 7/11/2009   7:27:40 PM
  • 166
    I've told people about SP. Some outright talk about 'another gimmick', others say "Cool, I'll have to check it out" and others look bored. One can present information, but individual willpower and true desire will determine which people run with a solid idea when it's handed to them on a platter. Frankly, most of the people to whom I've talked want the quick-fix... but don't want it badly enough to even stick with it.

    So. I give the information and encouragement; am available to share, to help. But in the end, only a person who really wants his/her goal will truly make full use of what is offered. And I'll gladly help anyone I can. - 7/11/2009   6:37:32 PM
  • BLHARRIS53
    165
    Thank you for all of the honest responses to their weight loss because, after many years of trying everything out there in hopes of a quick fix and then finally having an educated revelation one day....there is nothing but me, food, and exercise that can fix this and when I realized that it made it easier to focus on each day's goals. I also had to stop trying to see too much of the big picture and focus on right now and what I am doing right now and this day only. Sometimes if I try to look too far ahead it overwhelms me and I am sure this happens to others who have 100, 200 or more to lose, and it does take time to get it off. - 7/11/2009   1:57:28 PM
  • 164
    I recently met with people I hadn't seen in a while, some of which have struggled with their weight as long or longer than I and they asked me with the same expectation - wanting to know the 'magic secret'. They didn't want to hear there wasn't one and dismissed all that I told them. It was very disappointing. I know it's hard work, but it's worth it! - 7/11/2009   11:29:06 AM
  • 163
    I understand perfectly not wanting to do a lot of hard work for something I don't really want. I think that's the difference. When you really want something, all of you wants it, and you're ready, then it won't feel overwhelming. It will still be hard, you may still struggle and have set-backs, but when you want something badly enough, you work through those.

    I've learned to really listen and be choosy about whom I share my energy/ideas with. I've accomplished a lot of really difficult goals in my life, and overcome a lot, so people are always asking for advice/ideas. If someone is actively working, but struggling, then I'll go out of my way to help. To those who seem mostly to want to complain, whine or only talk about things without acting on their desires, well I respect where they are; it's a waste of both our times to try to 'help' because I can't give the help they want.

    Most people need to talk about their desires for a time before they are ready to ACT on those desires. A friend who likes to listen, be supportive by just hearing them out, is what they need at those times. I aspire to be a better listener, but by my nature I'm a fixer, a do-er. I much prefer to dig in, get my hands dirty and fix things, brainstorm and start on the changes. So I try to evaluate where that person is, what kind of support they need now, and then decide if it's anything I can offer. If not, I respect both of us by finding other things to talk about.



    - 7/11/2009   2:48:33 AM
  • TIFFWHIT16
    162
    I have experienced this alot since I started sparkpeople. A few co workers asked me what I was doing to lose weight. When I told them sparkpeople and just eating right they completely lost interest. My mom keeps using the excuse that she just doesn't have time to get on the computer once she gets home from work. I know how they all feel though. I was there myself not so long ago. - 7/10/2009   11:24:51 PM
  • 161
    I recently lost 20 lbs. in 8 weeks during a weight loss challenge at work. People thought I had "cheated" and taken some pill to lose weight. It was frustrating to have to explain over and over that I ate better, counted my calories and went to the gym 5-6 times a week for 45-60 mins. No magic pill, just hard work and a large desire to fit bck into my Spring/Summer clothes. Couldn't afford new ones, knew what to do to lose weight, finally got off my fanny and did it. My best friend is like the long lost aquaintance. She just isn't ready to do the work it takes to lose the extra 60 lbs she carries around. I have just done my best to support her efforts and offer much encouragement when I can get her to go to the gym. She is slowly seeing that the work I put in paid off. - 7/10/2009   10:37:38 PM
  • 160
    I struggle with the same thing as your friend daily.. I"m not very big to start with but I'm carrying extra weight that I just don't want. I find when I look at how long of a journey its gonna be and how much hard work I have ahead of me, I find it daunting and overwelming... when I take one day at a time I find it much easier to stay on track and to make healthy choices.. when I talk to my friends and tell them about SP usually they can see and hear my exitement about it and a few have come to check it out.. the rewards are worth all the hard work.. thats what I tell them!! - 7/10/2009   3:55:28 PM
  • 159
    It is hard to convince anyone that it's a slow proccess it took a long time to get where we were when we decided it was time to do something about the wt and it will take awhile to get it off and restructure. I have some friends that are in awe of my accomplishments so far but resist the ideas, and a few that have joined SP but still don't seem to get it. Yet. I guess its something they have to discover on their own. - 7/10/2009   2:37:13 PM
  • 158
    I sometimes feel like I'm surrounded by people looking for the quick fix, or simply not putting the full effort into their goal-working out, but then refusing to give up fast food/soda. It's tough, because to get where you want to be, ALL areas must be addressed (nutrition, fitness) and it takes sooooo long, and requires constant vigilance. I've come to the conclusion that weight loss is just like any other addiction situation: the person has to WANT it to succeed. You can tell people about Spark, you can SHOW them the results of your own hard work, but unless that desire "sparks" somewhere within them, they just won't get it.

    I also tried Slimfast, Dexatrim, Quickslim, phentermine, Atkins, losing weight with all of them which of course came back, and NOTHING feels so good as seeing the progress I've made naturally through hard work, a lot of sweat, and determination. I got down to 174 (from 208) when I took phentermine, but getting down to 183 from 212 on Spark feels soooooooo much better. - 7/10/2009   1:49:18 PM
  • 157
    I lost over 100 lbs. People ask me how I did it, I tell them: Good Diet and Exercise. I tell them about Sparkepeople. Rarely do they check out the site, and if they do and sign up they are active maybe a week tops. But I know when I found the site (on my own) I was pretty inactive on it at first. And I hope, like me, they get a spark email and it catches their eye and it leads them back here again. As for people saying "I have to do it my own way," Have you ever watched intervention?? Almost every addict says that. Obesity IS a disease, but its more like an addiction disease. Its mental health, not just physical. Something changes in the minds of someone with obesity making it so much harder to commit to a healthy lifestyle. When it comes to be a disability-- BS, when it comes to needing to be insured, that needs to happen - - but not for stomach stapling and gastric bypass, for MENTAL health, for a situation where someone can be taught how to live; like the anorexics and bulimics have treatment centers I'm sure are covered by insurance, same needs to happen for people on the opposite end of the spectrum.

    And I honestly thing a lot of foods should be outlawed, and all you can eat buffets should all be torn down. - 7/10/2009   1:26:52 PM
  • 156
    I can definitely relate, as many of my friends have noticed that I'm steadily losing weight and have kept it off. The ironic thing is they TEASE me about being so health conscious, as if eating fatty foods and avoiding exercise should be the norm. A few friends have asked me for advice, but they don't take it seriously or try to stick to a plan for any extended period. When/if they finally decide they're fed up and are serious about healthy living, I'll be here for them - but in the meantime, I'm okay with their jokes because I know deep down they truly wish they had the determination that I do (finally)! - 7/10/2009   12:46:44 PM
  • 155
    I know exactly what you mean - people ask how I've lost 45 lbs when they see me - I say I've learned to eat less and exercise more - and they rarely ask about that, but turn away with a disappointed look. I truly don't understand. - 7/10/2009   12:41:25 PM
  • 154
    With diet, nutrition & exercize information changing daily, the bottom line is: eat less calories than you burn. Everyone is different. Some people swear by high protein/low carb diets, other people love low fat diets or Nothing white (ie flour or sugar). I just have learned to eat healthful foods & have lost 15lbs. Though I would love to believe my glass of red wine helps, I just think that healthful foods have less calories & more fiber to fill you up. - 7/10/2009   11:55:48 AM
  • 153
    Trying to convince anyone is hard: trying to get through to a media-addict is impossible. If someone has bought the hype about 'miracle' weight-loss junk, they have a step BEFORE Spark--they have to grow up about media lying.
    And now, with the various proposals to make being overweight a 'disability' or 'uninsurable' or grounds for dismissal, everyone who is heavy adds societal guilt to their other burdens. It really angers me a lot to see how easily people can be swayed by media garbage (it's why I don't own a tv, and probably why I get so irked by the ads when I do see one--I'm not callused in that area).

    I remember the days before prescription drugs could be advertised; boy, was life easier then, too! - 7/10/2009   10:57:32 AM
  • 152
    You have described EVERYONE'S reaction in the very same situation I find myself in when I see friends who haven't seen me for awhile. They are first astounded at my weight loss, then they ask "how" and then I watch their face fall with oodles of disappointment at my answer which is usually, "Well, I stopped eating so darn much and started moving a bit more." And yes, everything I have to offer, like hooking them up with Spark or little tidbits of info seems to fall on deaf ears. They are all still looking for the miracle pill. It's sad, really, because this losing weight thing isn't rocket science. - 7/10/2009   10:14:05 AM
  • 151
    A friend just told me this week (email) that she doesn't care anymore - even tho she has a daughter's wedding coming in the fall. We've had the 'you wanna be around for your grandkids' conversation, etc., but she has given up and that makes me VERY VERY sad. (she has 6 kids and 5 grandkids already) I just planted seeds and told her if she ever changed her mind, I'm here to help her succeed in this area. - 7/10/2009   10:07:17 AM
  • 150
    I can relate. When I told a dear friend about Sparkpeople.com, her reaction was that she wasn't like me (analytical? geeky? number-oriented?) and that she had to do it her way. I think that meant no food logs, and possibly no exercise. She's got enough on her plate (figuratively speaking), so I don't push it, but I just continue to show by example. Sometimes I get frustrated that it takes so much time, but I know that I am making progress, and that I am a lot happier than I would be if I weren't doing this. And I am also incredibly grateful to the physical medicine and rehabilitation specialist who made it possible for me to engage again in all the activities that I currently enjoy. I recently wrote to him and offered to wear a publicity t-shirt for his practice to all of my races, if he has one. - 7/10/2009   10:06:37 AM
  • 149
    I just tell people exactly what I did - I say, "I LITERALLY ran my a$$ off!" - that and portion control! And I too get the same reaction from most..."What?!? No pills? No diet book or meal replacement shakes?" - 7/10/2009   9:57:20 AM
  • 148
    Anytime someone asks me about my weight loss (28 pounds so far) and "what did you do?" in that awed voice that your friend probably used... everyone seems to expect that I've learned some magic trick. It's invariably followed by "did you use some program?" I always say simply "I ate less and exercised more." I mean, at the core, it really is as simple, and as difficult, as that, which is what I'm trying to say when I tell them that. Of course, if they seem further interested I do always rave about SparkPeople... but I've learned to temper it. In nearly 2 years at this, I've learned that a friend's enthusiasm about MY weight loss does not always translate directly to their enthusiasm about losing weight themselves. Everyone has to be ready, has to come to that place on their own. - 7/10/2009   9:48:54 AM
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    Even people at my YMCA have asked me what diet I'm on! - 7/10/2009   9:48:27 AM
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    Sometimes I will ask, "How did I get SO fat?" One bite at a time. It did not happen overnight. I have trouble convincing myself that the weight will have to come off the same way--in little increments. - 7/10/2009   9:43:25 AM
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    I believe there is a magic portion. That portion is our attitude about our true desires. Believing is achieving. Of course, with belief there comes action...however, the truth is, if you don't take that first step (literally, and figuratively) nothing will happen. My magic pill is my power that I control my body..not the fast food joint down the street. - 7/10/2009   9:28:43 AM

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