The Lesson of a Late Bloomer

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By: , SparkPeople Blogger
10/22/2008 6:30 PM   :  139 comments

I was a late bloomer to the whole concept of athleticism. I loathed gym class back in junior high so much that in high school I took up band just so that I could use the fall football marching season as a PE credit. Silly as it sounds, the whole thought of donning gym attire and attempting to do what never came natural to me was terrifying. However, looking back after 30 years or so, I wonder why I hated doing what I have come to adore these days--being active.

When I was 67 pounds heavier, walking was beginning to become a chore, and tying my shoes was even tougher. There I was: age 43, with hypertension and heart disease in full bloom, feeling as though I were much older. Not only did I feel older, I looked older AND acted older, too.

On February 9, 2005, I jumped on my elliptical at home and logged in 10 minutes worth of activity. I can honestly say those were the longest 10 minutes of my life. I literally felt as though my heart was going to jump out of my chest, while my lungs burned with every breath as I slowly watched each second tick away. I did this not once, not twice, but three times a day. It was truly the only way I could accumulate the 30 minutes a day worth of activity.

I continued each week until I could log a little longer time each session. By the end of May I was able to do 30 minutes at one time. But then the dreaded plateau hit, the first of many. So I decided to up my time to 45 minutes, then to an hour.

November 2005. Nine months into my journey, I decided to join a gym. I can’t tell you how nervous I was walking up the stairs to the gym floor. I felt as though I had a sign around my neck that read, “Newbie on board. Has no clue what she is doing.” But the funny thing is, no one said a thing. Many people smiled and made eye contact, but no one remarked to me that I was too old or too fat to be there.

As the weeks and months progressed, I made lots of new friends and not one person has ever told me that I could NOT do anything. In fact I was probably my biggest obstacle when it came to trying a new activity.

When I took up running in March 2006, I was determined to become a runner. As many of my running mates have learned, when I was in 6th grade many, many years ago, I was unable to complete the Presidential Fitness Run portion that would allow me to get the much coveted Presidential Fitness patch. It wasn’t that I didn’t get the patch that hurt so much but having the PE teacher tell me that I would NEVER be a runner. She probably had no clue at the time how stinging her quick comment was to an influential 12-year-old , but it was, and it stayed with me for a very long time. Each and every race that I run to this day allows me to prove that I AM A RUNNER.

While I never knew what happened to the PE teacher, the words stuck with me for well over 33 years until I crossed my first finish line--and then I knew I WAS A RUNNER! No matter how many years pass, believe that you can knock down the roadblocks that others put in your way of reaching your goals.

And PLEASE be careful what you say to your kids...while the intentions may be well-meaning, children may not understand the context in which they were intended and this may have a lasting impression on them.

Did you have anyone say something hurtful to you that has kept you from meeting your goal(s)? Has anyone made a comment to your child that has had a lasting impression, if so what did you do to help your child through the obstacle? Do you believe people intentionally say things in a hurtful manner thinking that this will inspire you to change?


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  • 139
    I have a sister who was always very thin, just had a different body type than I did. So even though I was not heavy as a kid, I always looked bigger compared to my sister. My brothers would call me fat, my mother called me the 'bigger daughter' and that image stayed in my head. I later as an adult became very big, which doesn't surprise me, as I always felt huge as a kid. Looking back at photo's, I was not fat as a child and it makes me sad to think that I internalized those thoughts. Words do stick with you if said at an impressionable age. - 1/21/2013   2:58:39 AM
  • 138
    Words that wound indeed!

    Good for you though!

    WOO HOO to a fellow runners! - 1/7/2013   2:38:44 PM
  • 137
    This is one excellent blog post. I love exercising and moving and working up a sweat and challenging my cardiovascular system. As a kid, I hated this but I realize what I hated was gym class. Riding my bike around at home was fun but gym class was torture. Both of my husbands parents are PE teachers and talking to them, I realized that when I was a kid I was shafted in the physical education department. No encouragement whatsoever, just "you suck because you can't hit a baseball." No wonder American kids hate gym class and doing any physical activity in school. - 3/31/2012   1:09:25 PM
  • SKIPPERCHARLIE
    136
    Of all the posts that I have read on this site, this one has an incredible amount of heartfelt responses. Which means, hurtful and unthinking comments are a universal theme in our societies. How has our "civilized" culture, turned so nasty? Moreover, how is it that we allow other's thoughts of ourselves to manipulate our view of oneself and neglect our own ability to discern for ourselves? Peer pressure has taken a significant turn for the worse with the invention of mass media, twitter, blogging, advertising...

    Yet, in all of this, there are pockets of excellence, kindness, trueism and grace... Devout yourself to one small act of kindness a day, or a smile for a stranger, this small act, can change a person's day, can cause that individual to feel better about themselves, and to pass that kindness along to another.

    Merry Christmas everyone!!! - 12/26/2011   1:03:37 PM
  • 135
    Coming from a VERY negative family growing up, this blog really touched home with me. Thank you for sharing and for reminding all of us that what we say to someone is far reaching. - 5/9/2011   1:50:28 AM
  • BABYSTEPS2011
    134
    Oh the words that wound ... I remember when I was in 7th grade and we had moved out of state - my mom was registering me for the new school and the guidance counselor asked if I'd be playing any sports - I remember she said to him in kind of a hushed undertone "oh she's not athletically inclined". I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt me with those words, but they have stuck with me to this day and every time I had a gym class or tried something new at the gym, those words would beat in my head like a heartbeat - 1/2/2011   9:50:25 PM
  • FLYWAIT
    133
    I was lucky with teachers they were always encourging of the few girls interested in sports activity back in the pre Title IX day (in my state no school was allowed to have girls competitive teams). The boys track coach allowed us to practice with the team, other teachers helped us organize "play days" which became intramural teams. Many of my peers however were very discouraging of any activity that involved sweat. - 12/23/2010   8:53:40 AM
  • NINJA_SMOO
    132
    During elementary school, I fell rollerblading one weekend at the park. That following Monday one of the moms said 'I saw you fall on the weekend! You need some practice' or some such disparaging comment. I was so embarrassed! It was a long time before I got back on any kind of skates. - 12/9/2010   10:38:16 AM
  • 131
    NEVER saddle kids with "predictions" - these have a dangerous way of often becoming self-fulfilling prophesies.

    I'm thinking now of the story of Wilma Rudolph, the Olympic Gold Medalist runner, who was handicapped as a child and told by doctors she "would never walk" - at least her family had faith in her potential and expected she could possibly walk some day; look how far she went!

    Children have a HUGE potential for achievement that we cannot really predict, and no skeptical adult should cause them to limit themselves.

    Congratulations on now being A RUNNER! - 10/10/2010   5:26:11 AM
  • MRSRLCOLLINS
    130
    I am not athletic and hate sports. I hated gym in school and was made fun of all the time. My father was abusive and said many hurtful things too. Weight has not been a major issue for me but other things have. I am inspired by your story. As an adult that wants to have a healthier life for my little angel Jacob and husband, I am trying to have a healthier diet and active lifestyle.
    Thanks for story. - 7/10/2009   6:32:47 PM
  • 129
    I, too, shunned exercise as much as possible for most of my life thus far. Thanks for the inspiration and telling me that it's never too late to become a fit person or even a runner. Right now, I can't imagine calling myself a real "runner" someday, but you give me hope. - 6/21/2009   6:14:31 AM
  • 128
    Oh you have no idea! When I was in 3rd grade, my teacher didn't like me because I was from a "welfare-family". She regularly gave me low grades, even when I knew my answers were correct, and also encouraged the other students to make fun of me. It completely destroyed my childhood, as I became totally withdrawn and developed Social Anxiety Disorder and Paranoia so severe that I couldn't even walk, talk, or eat in front of non-immediate family. I turned to food for comfort and my weight spiraled out of control. I hated everything about myself and thought often of suicide.

    Thankfully, I am almost normal now. I'm not necessarily outgoing, but I certainly don't abstain from most activities for fear or ridicule. The more I do, the more self-confidence I develop.

    I'm glad you brought up the point of being careful what you say to kids. Their emotions are still developing, and they can take even the smallest comment to heart. - 6/6/2009   3:13:29 PM
  • 127
    I'm guessing everyone has a story about someone in life that has told us that "we can't" or "we never will" be able to something. I think the most important thing to focus on is the fact that "we can" and "we will" ~ there is so much gratification, not to mention inspiration, in actions as opposed to words.

    I have never been so inspired by anything as I am by Sparkpeople and the endless supply of "absolutely awesome" individuals that achieve their dreams daily!! - 5/20/2009   2:54:44 PM
  • 126
    I had a similar thing happen. ANYONE who is a role model for kids needs to be more careful. Especially those involved in their everyday lives. I think constructive criticism might be alright, but the words used have to be encouraging!!!! It's great that you have finally overcome this and see yourself for all that you are. Thanks for sharing your story! - 5/5/2009   12:02:02 PM
  • 125
    Argh! The horrible memories! The years of healing it took to be able to walk into a fitness center without an anxiety attack! I'm so happy to know now that fitness if for EVERYONE! - 4/14/2009   1:21:54 PM
  • 124
    I can totally relate! I was overweight my whole life (in a family of skinny people) and has athsma so my parents wouldn't let me exercise. My mom did the best she could with what she knew, but hurtful comments came almost daily (I think she tried to shame me into losing weight...the problem was I was 6, 7, 8 years old, I didn't know how!). I remember asking to do ballet when I was about 7 and being told I would look ridiculous wearing ballet clothes so I couldn't do it. There were songs made up and names taunted (when I was in college my brother and his friends use to stick hay on my car and moo as I walked by:) It wasn't until the past 5 years or so that I realized this wasn't how most people grew up...to me it was normal. Now I weigh the lowest I have ever weighed since I was 11 years old (30 pounds less than when I was 15...yep I looked it up:) I completed a half marathon in January and am signed up to complete a full marathon in May. I have read, learned, eaten, sweated, lifted and run and I daily try to get better so that I can leave the past behind and make the future as fit and healthy as possible:) I am a late bloomer...but better late than never!! - 4/14/2009   12:21:14 PM
  • 123
    Awesome story! Thanks for sharing your journey with the rest of us. It is great that you found some people who were supportive of your efforts towards a healthy life. Congratulations on how far you've come. - 4/14/2009   11:27:01 AM
  • 122
    My sister told me, "you never change." And I resolved myself to make a difference in my life. Right then I made a decision to not let her bullying affect me. - 4/14/2009   9:29:26 AM
  • 121
    This reminds me of something my husband says ....
    "The one thing you never outgrow, is your childhood"
    So many issues we deal with are related to careless or thoughtless things that have been said, done, or ignored(not done) when we were children. A lot of my personal body image is directly related to things said by family....not that I'm trying to lay blame, just that it's taken a lot of years to understand some things about myself. Understanding often doesn't make it any easier to avoid the negative thinking, but it does give a chance to stop and say "WAIT....I'm NOT that KID!" - 4/5/2009   11:12:06 AM
  • 120
    I can definitely relate. While no one from school said anything to me, the comments I got from my mother while growing have left me with some definite psychological as well as weight issues. Even as I'm losing weight now, my friends keep telling me "You don't even look fat" but the scale is what tells the truth. Now I'm losing this weight for me and no one else. My mom will always have her issues with my weight but I let her know how her comments affect me now. Most times she just tries to avoid the subject which is fine with me. It's amazing what you live with growing up. - 3/16/2009   12:54:02 PM
  • 119
    Did you have anyone say something hurtful to you that has kept you from meeting your goal(s)?
    I don't remember anyone saying to me, that I could not do something/anything. I have been the biggest obstacle in my life.
    Has anyone made a comment to your child that has had a lasting impression, if so what did you do to help your child through the obstacle?
    I have had friend of my daughter's mother call her fat. I never knew about it until they were an adult. She looks back and says funny so-so daughter is fluffy(hmm).
    Do you believe people intentionally say things in a hurtful manner thinking that this will inspire you to change? Some certainly do. Possibly because that is all they know, and think will work. But adults that have not been treated that way , are less prone to project that behaviour.
    - 3/15/2009   11:18:06 PM
  • 118
    Great blog entry. Seriously. I'm young but I could still relate - when I first did my treadmill, 30 minutes was way too long - was taking a small break every five minutes. I've been a member for 3 weeks and now I'm finally up to 15 minutes at a time, a break to drink a glass of water and then my other 15 minutes. I'm hoping I soon get to do all 30 minutes in one go and then can start adding time. Your story is an inspiration. - 3/15/2009   9:49:31 PM
  • 117
    I didn't even know I needed to hear a story like this, but now that I've read it, I am so grateful! Thank you! When I was younger, I always said I hated exercise. I think what I really hated was the competition that came with most sports. Also, I quit my only non-competitive sport (gymnastics) when I was about 10 because I thought I was too fat (a feeling I can thank many comments from my parents for). Now that I'm pretty "athletic", I've been regretting not getting more into sports when I was younger, but this blog makes me see that I should just be happy with my accomplishments and with where I am now. I can be a late bloomer and still be a legitimate athlete! - 3/15/2009   9:34:59 PM
  • 116
    Sometimes it is not even the words. I am the oldest of three sisters. I do not consider myself an athlete, but I will say I am athletic. How can this be when I am a personal trainer and a triathlete? My dad spent years years wishing I had been a softball player. He toured the country with my sister. She was on two touring teams, plus her high school softball team. She was a GREAT pitcher. My middle sister was a great player, as well. She played both shortstop, and catcher. There are tons of girls softball photos. They were on teams from 6yrs on up until the end of high school. I unfortunately chose to be a swimmer. There was no money for a private team for me. My father did not make it to a SINGLE swim meet. My sport just didn't matter. I came close to quitting so many times. The sad thing is I graduated in 1983 and it still hurts. I have figured out that he is the voice of fear and doubt. Just in the last month, I realized I don't have to listen to the negative voice. I can let all the other people who have faith in me drown it out. I can dare to have faith in myself!!! - 3/15/2009   7:41:34 PM
  • 115
    Nancy, you're not just a runner, you're the most awesome running coach for the 13.1 and Runner Girls United teams! I appreciate all of the information, advice, and encouragement on your posts. You've taken "runner" to the next level! - 3/15/2009   7:03:34 PM
  • 114
    The Youth Choir Director was very frustrated because I 'could not' sing.
    In his opinion my efforts, while meaningful, were distracting.

    Forty years have passed since then and I still sing everywhere. LOL
    I chuckle to think how many people would have missed my joyful sounds if the Director hadn't said anything.

    Now by most standards I can't even carry a tune but that hasn't stopped me!!

    Congratulations on your successes... - 3/15/2009   4:26:23 PM
  • 113
    Back when I was in middle school, a teacher (!) told me that writers are born, not made. In other words, I wasn't born a writer, and could not be taught. It's curious that someone who taught for a living basically believed that people could not be taught. My education was full of such contradictions, but I survived, and I have been proving those teachers wrong ever since. - 3/15/2009   12:04:12 AM
  • JOSLINDA
    112
    This story touched me deeply, as I am forever telling my grand children that "Can't" is a bad word.. As I read your story, I realized that I was the PE teacher for myself... Always telling myself that I will "never' be thin, or I "can't" stick to a diets, and even I "can't" drink water. As I am pushing forward with my journey, I am going to remind myself that "Can't" is a bad word... and I "can" do it all and have it all. Thank you so very much for sharing. ~ Joslinda/Tx - 3/6/2009   9:51:23 PM
  • 111
    What horrible, thoughtless things people sometimes say to children.
    Congratulations for proving that gym teacher wrong & for becoming a RUNNER!!!
    Sue/TX - 1/20/2009   5:16:51 AM
  • 110
    My mother used to bless me with opinions such as 'You got the brains, your sisters got brains AND beauty', and 'You'd be best be nice to your sisters, as you're going to be taking their scraps (left over men)'. It took me fifteen years to get over that, and realise I'm just as worthy of a great man as they are, and I'm pleased to say, I've got a great man all of my own. - 1/19/2009   7:33:40 PM
  • 109
    I can relate so much to this story.....I felt the same my whole life...and had different means of being hurt surrounding it....but yes, I am a late bloomer too...and here I am after another LAPSE trying to get back on the ball with my exercising.....sheesh.

    I know where you are coming from, I felt so much better then, when I was doing this....and I needed to read this today to remind myself why I need to start back up. - 1/19/2009   1:49:25 PM
  • 108
    “Did you have anyone say something hurtful to you that has kept you from meeting your goal(s)?”

    Yes of course. During school years it was all day, every day, year in, and year out. It was so constant and extensive, from both children and adults, that it became a form of torture. It was the kind of thing experienced and recounted by so many that I’m loath to even try to begin a recounting. It was the kind of thing that crushes whole lives… Let alone things so fragile as goals and dreams... It’s the accumulation of countless thoughtless and malicious acts that lead not only to the tragedy and horror of child and teen suicide, to violence and even mass homicide, but untold scores of lives stifled and only partially lived.

    “Has anyone made a comment to your child that has had a lasting impression, if so what did you do to help your child through the obstacle?”

    I have no children. Children of my own are no longer a possibility. It’s just one of the things lost in my stifled and half-lived youth.

    “Do you believe people intentionally say things in a hurtful manner thinking that this will inspire you to change?”

    I believe people intentionally say things in a hurtful manner to gratify some selfish need of their own. Some of them use ‘tough love’ as an excuse for their behavior, true. But it is a lie. They do it because it in some way gives them pleasure to think they have the power to inflict pain on others.
    - 1/10/2009   12:04:11 AM
  • 107
    I just crossed my first finish line! at 58 years old...it was time !!!!! - 1/5/2009   9:14:46 AM
  • 4KITTIES1
    106
    A LIFE OF NO LIMITS-LOVE IT!!! - 1/4/2009   11:43:09 PM
  • MRSPHANTOM
    105
    This is a lesson I wish my dad would learn. He often told us we couldn't do something or something about ourselves (Like telling me I need to lose weight). He says he's doing it to be helpful, but it just hurts. - 1/1/2009   8:59:01 PM
  • 104
    You ARE a Runner! You go Girl! Sorry that you had a mean PE teacher, she was a discredit to her profession! What a terrible thing to say to an impressionable young person. I'm glad that you were able to overcome the negative vibe! You are an inspiration to us all! Thanks for sharing! - 12/29/2008   4:43:45 PM
  • 103
    what u say - leaves an imprint on heart
    its not only kids but even to grown ups
    please when talking to someone about anything, dont pass personal remarks - it really huts and stays for decades and decades
    Great job nancy!!!!!!!!!!!! - 12/28/2008   4:25:35 PM
  • 102
    I had the same experience, and only in the past few years have I found a love for being active. I never would have tried if it were not for my husband telling me I could do anything I wanted, and that I was being an athlete. I still struggle sometimes with feeling like I am back in school, and don't belong out with the "fit" active kids. I still have work to do weight and fitness wise, but who doesn't.

    I had the same problem with PE teachers, I was asthmatic, and back then that meant no running. They said that I was just heavy (aka fat) and should try harder. That feeling that it was a personal shortcoming always stuck with me. I hope that teachers are more understanding now, especially with all the pressure girls are under to be thin. - 12/28/2008   7:04:50 AM
  • 101
    Oh, Gawd, I hated PE! It was all about the stupid Presidential fitness award, and competitive sports, and I was a very tiny weenie-weight person who could never keep up. Only in high school, finally, did I get to try fun things like Jazzercise, swimming, and archery.

    I did four years in marching band, and always maintained that it should count for PE credit. I gained 10 pounds my first year of college, just becausse I wasn't out there marching my butt off every morning. - 12/13/2008   1:25:46 PM
  • 100
    Let's all do this: go find a pre-teen girl (whether you know her very well or not) and tell her that what others think of her is not that important! Tell her to follow her heart. Tell her that she can be whatever she wants to be, even though she may have to work hard at it and sacrifice sometimes. Let's not have another generation of girls growing into women filled with pain and regrets. - 12/1/2008   10:16:27 PM
  • ANNIEMARIE6
    99
    You reminded me of how much I really hated school. Back in the late 50's school was a lot different than it is now. I was raise by my grand parents. I never knew my fathre and my mother wasn't around much. So as far back as I can remember I was all ways fat. So nobody wanted to be friends with the fat girl, plus I wans't very pretty. So I was really an out cast growing up.I too hated gym with a passion. I was all ways to fat to run, I couldn't do most of the execises any ways. Then nobody wanted me on there team because I was to feeeat. Can you imagine being 9 years old having one friend, the kids would ask my friend to play but never me. I hated my myself back then, and my grandparents didin't understand why I was so unhappy. I think better of myself today, because this week my husband and I will celebrate our 43 anniversary.My husband has made me realize that it doesn't matter what people think about us. As long as we love each other nothing else matters. I also have had a girlfriend for 42 years, and she has all ways been there for me in the thick and thin prblems in our lives. Today we are both 61 years old and we still enjoyor lunching dates. - 11/22/2008   2:51:53 PM
  • 98
    wow, thank you for sharing - 11/15/2008   12:25:29 AM
  • AQUAMOM2
    97
    I also was never athletic, I HATED team sports and gym almost as much. I have always been self-conscience and unsure of myself. I was also very aware of how the “popular” crowd looked at me. Skinny, buck toothed and off in space. These insecurities didn’t manifest until the end of elementary school. However I do distinctly remember loving to run. It wasn’t so much something someone said that discouraged me, but the things that weren’t said. I don’t remember anyone encouraging me to do better or to strive for the things that make me happy. I didn’t continue to run (much to my current regret). I think it may be b/c of those things that were not said that stayed with me all of these years. It’s almost as bad to be left to your own devices, encouragement is just as important! Despite the past, I will run again! I was almost into week 2 of the couch to 5k when knee pain made it too painful to continue. I spent a few weeks strengthening my legs. I ran last night for the time since then, I had no knee pain. I will run again! - 10/29/2008   1:35:38 PM
  • FIERYGODDESS
    96
    I loved being outdoors and active when I was a kid. I rode my bike, took tennis lessons, went swimming, hiking, and all sorts of other things so long as I didn't have to compete against anybody but myself. The self esteem issues started early on, passed down by my mother who was overweight. I didn't think I was good enough to compete at anything athletic, so I never really tried. I remember being called the fat kid when I was 150 pounds at a height of 5' 6" by classmates, an outcast because I let them make me feel that way. I'd never ran in my life (except to chase after someone to playfully punch them) until about 8 months ago. I just recently took a physical fitness test for a job competing against others, finishing 2nd on the 1 1/2 mile run. Now that I've proven to myself what I can do, it only makes me want to push that much harder. I enjoy being in shape and although I haven't stepped up into playing on any teams yet, it's something that I think about now without cringing and may do in the future. - 10/29/2008   1:29:28 PM
  • 95
    Yowza! These posts brought up a host of unpleasant memories. I was a late bloomer in everything. I wasn't an athlete because I could not see distance and developed no hand-eye coordination. Loved books and could read for hours. Was a shy, fat kid with merciless brothers and my Mom had me on "diets" before I was 10. I discovered my athlete through golf - the ball sits there and I hit it as opposed to a ball coming at me. I'm better at things where you compete with yourself and hated team sports.
    Yes, people can say unkind things and I remember every one of them. But now I'm replacing those thoughts with the ones I hear from my trainer, the ones I get in Salsa classes. I'm trying to incorporate how others see me now (tall and slender) as opposed to how I see myself (tall fat geeky/snart kid with red hair and freckles and orthopedic shoes, braces and glasses - a lot to overcome)
    Now I'm going to learn how to run. Wish me luck. - 10/29/2008   10:34:59 AM
  • LANNE337
    94
    To the gal whose boyfriend said she was too fat to kickbox -- YOU CAN DO IT -- there are some awesome kickboxing DVDs available. This is a great thread. I can relate all too well. Thanks for your honesty gang. - 10/29/2008   9:33:30 AM
  • 93
    When I was in high school, I played all the sports. That fact is the only thing that makes me different in this story. If you asked me when I was 18, I'd say I was not a runner. My knees were sacrificed for everything. I was a catcher who took many softballs in the kneecaps. I slid into home plate. I slid into the bleachers to save a ball in basketball and volleyball. When I graduated, I played 2 semesters of college volleyball and then quit college. I started work and for about 10 years, didn't do anything physical and my clothes just got bigger and bigger. I joined a gym, tired of being fat and refusing to buy bigger sizes. I busted my butt working out and lost 50 pounds my first year and decided I wanted to become a trainer. I taught a group training class for a year and had my class do a 5k run for another client of mine who was head of the committee running the race. That was my first run/walk. Now, 5 years later, my goal is to qualify for the Boston Marathon. I will be running my 3rd marathon in Disney in January. I have run enough 1/2 marathons to cover 2 walls of my dining room with pictures, certificates, and medals. No, I have never come in first place, not even in my age group. But I run, and I am a runner. I may never win a trophy or a prize, but I win everytime I cross the finish line. I win twice as much when I see my once over weight clients cross the finish line. Jay Foonberg, a 72 year old runner, once said "When I do the best I can with what I have, then I have won my race." You also can't finish what you don't start. - 10/29/2008   9:06:31 AM
  • 92
    I always preferred books or music to doing anything athIetic. I played ill during gym class... especially in junior high. I was usually the last kid picked. I would write notes to get out of class and sign my mom's name. That almost lasted a whole school year until I got caught.

    Now in my late 40's I find I enjoy doing athletic stuff. Walking, the Wii. I'm thinking of going to LA Boxing next spring. I like the boxing and Tae-Bo type of stuff. I've slowly found my inner Misty May Treanor.

    Great blog! Thanks! - 10/28/2008   3:18:45 PM
  • FEELINGVITAL2
    91
    It was clothes for me -- not having much of a waist as a child (or now). I remember shopping with my mother. I'd put on a pretty shirtwaist dress (this was in the 50's) and turn to my mother to see how it looked. I could see from her face that it wasn't good and she'd hustle me out of one dress into the next. I hated shopping and she clearly found shopping for me a trial.

    It's interesting to me now that I focussed on her face, not the mirror. She was a very loving woman, but this was an area where she let me down in self esteem, although she did impart a sense of style and knowledge of quality. Now I often take my husband with me. Like most men he doesn't enjoy shopping, but can go straight to an outfit that looks good on me. Great quality in a man!

    As soon as I finish here, I decided to go to Coldwater Creek's sale, which I have been putting off, not being sure just why. Thanks for the self-knowledge. - 10/27/2008   12:54:33 PM
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    I too had someone say something in passing that was very hurtful and I remember to this day. My sister got us little girls a t-shirt that said "future fox" on the front. The PE teacher said to another teacher "Don't they mean future dog", of course they were laughing. I was crushed and never wore that shirt again. I remember my sister asking why I haven't worn the shirt and I always blew her off with some excuse.
    I know what that jerk said was not true but if affects me still today, as I know I don't look like a model, but it is hard not to hear that recording in your head over and over. - 10/27/2008   10:08:39 AM

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