How Good Manners Can Help You Slim Down
Mind your manners, your mother reminded you at the dinner table each night. She was concerned about etiquette, but her affinity for proper decorum also created healthy habits. Good manners can help you make a good impression if you're ever invited to a state dinner, but they'll also help you with your weight-loss efforts.
Here's how:
Eat at the table.
Past generations ate dinner as a family at a table every night, and, it should be noted, they were also remarkably thinner and more active.
Many of us use our dining room table as a dumping ground for keys, coats and clutter (mea culpa) or restrict it to special occasions. Clear the junk, pull out real plates, and have a seat with your family. With no outside distractions, you can focus on eating and spending time with loved ones.
Eating in front of the TV has been linked to weight gain and mindless eating. Commit to eating at a proper table and you might find that you're more cognizant of what's going in your mouth at mealtime.
Read on for nine more tips on that help with weight loss--and one modicum of etiquette that healthy eaters should forget.
Make polite conversation.
Your favorite people are surrounding you, and you have their attention. There is no television, no iPod, no cell phone. Just you, them and food. Put down your fork and talk to your dinner companions. Make eye contact. The table is a great place to catch up.
By taking some time between bites and enjoying a leisurely meal, you allow yourself adequate time to digest.
Sit up straight.
Proper posture matters when you're eating. Maintaining good posture and sitting in a chair helps your body digest food properly. Your digestive system works better when you're in an upright position.
Resist the urge to do as (ancient) Romans. They gorged on food and binged drank wine, all the while lounging around on any horizontal surface they could find. Lying down or lounging might feel more comfortable, but your body prefers to be sitting up.
Use a knife and fork.
Whether you choose American style (alternating the fork between hands) or Continental style (fork in left and knife in right hand throughout the meal), use both your knife and your fork. Using both utensils requires a bit more effort with each bite. You'll also control the size of the bites you take and likely increase the number of bites, therefore giving your body more time to realize that it's full. It's hard to eat with a knife and a fork when you're not at a table, reinforcing another good eating habit.
Resist the urge to eat with a spoon to expedite your meal. Even with rice, small pasta, mashed potatoes, etc., use a fork to control the size of your bites. Leave spoons for soup, yogurt and the occasional bowl of ice cream.
Cut only one bite at a time.
Though it might seem easier to cut your entire steak or plate of pasta at the beginning of the meal, don't. By breaking up that large hunk of meat or slice of lasagna into bite-size pieces, it's harder to judge how much you've eaten, especially if you've been served gargantuan portions at a restaurant. Never take a bite that is larger than your mouth. If you have to cram in a bite of food, it's too big. The rule applies to salad, too. If you pick up a forkful of greens that are too big for your mouth, use your knife to fold or cut them. (Follow the lead of the French, who always fold, never cut lettuce.)
Put your fork down between bites.
Most meals are about more than eating and drinking. They're about spending time with friends and family, catching up on their lives and enjoying the experience and environment as much as the food and drinks. Never resting your fork means you're eating too fast, depriving your brain of the time it needs to receive the message from your stomach that you're no longer hungry.
Keep a full water glass at the table.
Drinking water between bites helps aid digestion and is another way to stall your stomach so your brain can catch up. A small sip of water between bites is a great way to get in some of your eight cups a day.
Swallow food, then drink.
If you have to wash down food with an immediate gulp of a beverage, you're eating too fast. You're also diluting the flavor of your food. Stick with small sips between bites. Just as eating too quickly can cause indigestion, so can drinking too much too fast.
Don't talk with your mouth full.
Conversation is important, but wait until you have swallowed your food to start talking. It's better to create silence while you chew and swallow than to give a garbled answer because you're talking around a mouthful of chicken. Eating while carrying on a conversation makes it easier to wind up overindulging.
Close your mouth when you chew.
When you chew with your mouth open, you swallow air, which can lead to flatulence and indigestion. Spare your dining companions the "see-food" and save yourself the tummy troubles later.
Don't clean your plate.
Was the "Clean Plate Club" de rigueur at your house? Enforcing clean plates forces us to eat a specific amount, regardless of whether we're still hungry. When we focus on whether the plate is empty rather than whether our stomachs are full, we lose touch with the sensations of hunger and satiety. Worried about wasting food? Serve smaller portions and save leftovers for omelets or stir-fries the next day.
Are you guilty of any of these dining faux pas? We don't always eat at the table, but I use a knife and fork for almost everything--even pizza! (I don't like greasy fingers when I eat.)
Here's how:
Eat at the table.
Past generations ate dinner as a family at a table every night, and, it should be noted, they were also remarkably thinner and more active.
Many of us use our dining room table as a dumping ground for keys, coats and clutter (mea culpa) or restrict it to special occasions. Clear the junk, pull out real plates, and have a seat with your family. With no outside distractions, you can focus on eating and spending time with loved ones.
Eating in front of the TV has been linked to weight gain and mindless eating. Commit to eating at a proper table and you might find that you're more cognizant of what's going in your mouth at mealtime.
Read on for nine more tips on that help with weight loss--and one modicum of etiquette that healthy eaters should forget.
Make polite conversation.
Your favorite people are surrounding you, and you have their attention. There is no television, no iPod, no cell phone. Just you, them and food. Put down your fork and talk to your dinner companions. Make eye contact. The table is a great place to catch up.
By taking some time between bites and enjoying a leisurely meal, you allow yourself adequate time to digest.
Sit up straight.
Proper posture matters when you're eating. Maintaining good posture and sitting in a chair helps your body digest food properly. Your digestive system works better when you're in an upright position.
Resist the urge to do as (ancient) Romans. They gorged on food and binged drank wine, all the while lounging around on any horizontal surface they could find. Lying down or lounging might feel more comfortable, but your body prefers to be sitting up.
Use a knife and fork.
Whether you choose American style (alternating the fork between hands) or Continental style (fork in left and knife in right hand throughout the meal), use both your knife and your fork. Using both utensils requires a bit more effort with each bite. You'll also control the size of the bites you take and likely increase the number of bites, therefore giving your body more time to realize that it's full. It's hard to eat with a knife and a fork when you're not at a table, reinforcing another good eating habit.
Resist the urge to eat with a spoon to expedite your meal. Even with rice, small pasta, mashed potatoes, etc., use a fork to control the size of your bites. Leave spoons for soup, yogurt and the occasional bowl of ice cream.
Cut only one bite at a time.
Though it might seem easier to cut your entire steak or plate of pasta at the beginning of the meal, don't. By breaking up that large hunk of meat or slice of lasagna into bite-size pieces, it's harder to judge how much you've eaten, especially if you've been served gargantuan portions at a restaurant. Never take a bite that is larger than your mouth. If you have to cram in a bite of food, it's too big. The rule applies to salad, too. If you pick up a forkful of greens that are too big for your mouth, use your knife to fold or cut them. (Follow the lead of the French, who always fold, never cut lettuce.)
Put your fork down between bites.
Most meals are about more than eating and drinking. They're about spending time with friends and family, catching up on their lives and enjoying the experience and environment as much as the food and drinks. Never resting your fork means you're eating too fast, depriving your brain of the time it needs to receive the message from your stomach that you're no longer hungry.
Keep a full water glass at the table.
Drinking water between bites helps aid digestion and is another way to stall your stomach so your brain can catch up. A small sip of water between bites is a great way to get in some of your eight cups a day.
Swallow food, then drink.
If you have to wash down food with an immediate gulp of a beverage, you're eating too fast. You're also diluting the flavor of your food. Stick with small sips between bites. Just as eating too quickly can cause indigestion, so can drinking too much too fast.
Don't talk with your mouth full.
Conversation is important, but wait until you have swallowed your food to start talking. It's better to create silence while you chew and swallow than to give a garbled answer because you're talking around a mouthful of chicken. Eating while carrying on a conversation makes it easier to wind up overindulging.
Close your mouth when you chew.
When you chew with your mouth open, you swallow air, which can lead to flatulence and indigestion. Spare your dining companions the "see-food" and save yourself the tummy troubles later.
Don't clean your plate.
Was the "Clean Plate Club" de rigueur at your house? Enforcing clean plates forces us to eat a specific amount, regardless of whether we're still hungry. When we focus on whether the plate is empty rather than whether our stomachs are full, we lose touch with the sensations of hunger and satiety. Worried about wasting food? Serve smaller portions and save leftovers for omelets or stir-fries the next day.
Are you guilty of any of these dining faux pas? We don't always eat at the table, but I use a knife and fork for almost everything--even pizza! (I don't like greasy fingers when I eat.)
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Comments
Thanks for sharing! As both a mathematically minded person and an enthusiastic SparkPeople member, I cannot help but wonder if there is a correlation between the cited link found between eating in front of the TV and weight gain (and mindless eating) and that of eating in front of the computer and similar results (i.e. weight gain and mindless eating)??? I am quite confident that I am not the only “Sparker” out there who enjoys snack or eats a meal while perusing the pages of SparkPeople.com.
- 2/19/2009 1:02:16 AM
HOWEVER, I always leave the restaurant feeling completely satiated! Despite healthy choices and no extras, I often don't even finish my meal. Now I understand, it must be the wonderful conversation we share that makes this eating experience so different than my usual! - 1/20/2009 9:36:48 PM
My husband grew up in a family where if you didn't eat everything you dished up, you didn't get dinner the next night. So he is now able to eat very large portions in one sitting. He is working on it, but is feeling some hunger pains because he doesn't eat many vegetables to help fill the plate. - 1/18/2009 3:37:07 PM
As for sneezing into the crook of an elbow, that is not possible for some older people who do not have shoulder flexibility and can't get that elbow to their mouth. So handwashing or antiseptic wipes are advisable! - 1/17/2009 11:02:05 AM
Now I have to "force" myself into getting smaller portions into my plate. - 1/16/2009 4:37:14 PM
I am learning to chew my food slowly, counting, and I do put my fork down, but not after every bite. I am so used to eating with a spoon; the idea to eat with a fork is great. I still feel uncomfortable eating out in formal settings. Wondering who is watching my eating habits. I also have to watch the not eating at the table habit. My young adult children both work most nights and we do not get to eat together often.
This blog was very informative. Thanks for more like it! - 1/16/2009 3:36:03 PM
I hate when people chew gum and have to pop it all the time and chew with their mouth open. They look like Cows chewing their cud.
And when they sneeze they do it in their hand and never go wash. If you have to sneeze do it where your elbow bends. There are a lot of manners we need to review again.
Also a good one is to chew your food 15 times and enjoy what you are eating
So this article was great do more on manners
- 1/16/2009 8:56:26 AM
Everything is so rushed anymore though, and seems only to be getting worse as I try to cram more and more into my day.
Truth is, I’d prefer not to eat at the table much of the time but I do eat less usually whenever I do. It’s obviously much easier to maintain mindfulness when your not clacking away at a computer or watching the tube.
This is a good reminder… and I need to use every trick I can to remember to slow the pace and keep the focus on a healthy lifestyle.
I have terrible posture at the table and at the computer. How to gain good poster at 43 I don’t know. I slump and lean and wriggle all over the place trying to stay comfortable. I just don’t pay enough attention to it on the whole I guess, of course losing weight will help when it comes to it.
- 1/16/2009 12:48:24 AM
(yes, both are still as over-weight to this day and are both still binge-eaters!) - 1/16/2009 12:11:35 AM
newspaper or books or magazines
nobody is interacting with each other
and while eating ur attention is on the reading so mindless eating
but NO MORE READING WHILE EATING - 1/15/2009 2:52:57 PM
Shiela - 1/15/2009 1:14:48 PM
My family is certainly guilty of not eating at the table unless it's a special occasion. This is something that needs to change in my house. - 1/15/2009 1:11:14 PM
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