I Found the Secret to a Happy, Successful Life
By SparkPeople member Michelle Stone (OUTOFCONTROL)
Legendary golfer Walter Hagen once said:
"Don't hurry, don't worry, you're only here for a short visit, so be sure to smell the flowers along the way."
I don’t know much about golf, but this is how I try to live my life, too. I gave up worrying toward the end of high school. I used to make myself sick with stress and worry over my grades, then in my senior year I realized that in the grand scheme of things it really didn’t matter. From then on, I put everything I did in proper perspective. I even managed to get through law school and still have a life.
Later on, when it came to losing weight, my perfectionist tendencies surfaced again. When I joined SparkPeople I told myself that I would not let perfectionism get in the way. I would track my food and exercise the best I could, but if I didn’t track all the time it was OK. Instead of trying to lose weight quickly, I set my goals for only half a pound a week. It took me almost a year to lose 25 pounds, but it went by quickly. There were days I consumed so many calories that the Healthy Lifestyle Tracker couldn’t compute it, but I didn’t regard those times as failures, just detours. I was still going to get where I was going, maybe just not as quickly.
My friends and family often wonder how I manage to go through life so calmly. The answer is that I take responsibility for the things within my control and let go of the things that are beyond my control. Making a decision and putting it into action can change things, but worrying doesn’t accomplish anything, it only wastes precious time. You can spend your time getting stressed out and worrying about things that may never even happen at all and playing the "what if" game, or you can use enjoy the time you have right now because every moment is a gift.
I feel like even the setbacks I have experienced along the way turned out to be blessings in disguise. In December 2007 I accomplished a goal that went way beyond my wildest dreams--I finished a marathon. But in the months after that, I sustained an injury training for a half marathon, and this injury has taught me important lessons.
At first I felt lost without running. I had come to identify myself as a runner and I was able to easily maintain my weight loss. This may sound unbelievable to those who know me now, but the old me, the one who was overweight and hated exercise, thought that being injured would be great because I would have an excuse to exercise. But SparkPeople unleashed my inner athlete, and this time nothing would keep me down.
At first I really struggled and tried everything I could to heal the injury and get back to running. But as the year wore on, I began to let go. I redefined myself, not as a runner, but as an athlete. I took up weight lifting and got back into swimming. And then the inevitable--I bought a bicycle. I’ve been told that eventually all runners end up on a bike. Where running had always been a challenge to me, cycling felt natural from the beginning. And best of all, it doesn’t hurt!
I’m still working on rehabilitating my injury, but even if I never run again I’ll be OK. If this never happened to me, I probably would not have taken enough time out from running to try all these other wonderful activities.
This progression has also led me to give up the scale. My success is now weighed by how good I feel and all the fabulous things my body can do, injured or not.

I am 37 and feel better than ever! As an attorney I sit at my desk all day, so I make sure to get my activity in early in the day. I'm at the gym by 5:30 am and then bike to work several days a week. Although I played sports growing up, I never considered myself athletic. I am what John "the Penguin" Bingham calls an adult-onset athlete. I plan on doing a 2.7 mile swim across Donner Lake in August and my first 100 mile bike ride in October. Thanks to SparkPeople I realize that even our smallest actions rarely go unnoticed, so I never say never anymore!
Could you apply this same outlook to your life? Do you spend much time worrying?
Do you have an inspirational story you think we should include on the dailySpark? Do you have any funny stories about weight loss? Send them to editor@dailyspark.com. Include the subject line: From the Mouths of Members
Legendary golfer Walter Hagen once said:
"Don't hurry, don't worry, you're only here for a short visit, so be sure to smell the flowers along the way."
I don’t know much about golf, but this is how I try to live my life, too. I gave up worrying toward the end of high school. I used to make myself sick with stress and worry over my grades, then in my senior year I realized that in the grand scheme of things it really didn’t matter. From then on, I put everything I did in proper perspective. I even managed to get through law school and still have a life.
Later on, when it came to losing weight, my perfectionist tendencies surfaced again. When I joined SparkPeople I told myself that I would not let perfectionism get in the way. I would track my food and exercise the best I could, but if I didn’t track all the time it was OK. Instead of trying to lose weight quickly, I set my goals for only half a pound a week. It took me almost a year to lose 25 pounds, but it went by quickly. There were days I consumed so many calories that the Healthy Lifestyle Tracker couldn’t compute it, but I didn’t regard those times as failures, just detours. I was still going to get where I was going, maybe just not as quickly.
My friends and family often wonder how I manage to go through life so calmly. The answer is that I take responsibility for the things within my control and let go of the things that are beyond my control. Making a decision and putting it into action can change things, but worrying doesn’t accomplish anything, it only wastes precious time. You can spend your time getting stressed out and worrying about things that may never even happen at all and playing the "what if" game, or you can use enjoy the time you have right now because every moment is a gift.
I feel like even the setbacks I have experienced along the way turned out to be blessings in disguise. In December 2007 I accomplished a goal that went way beyond my wildest dreams--I finished a marathon. But in the months after that, I sustained an injury training for a half marathon, and this injury has taught me important lessons.
At first I felt lost without running. I had come to identify myself as a runner and I was able to easily maintain my weight loss. This may sound unbelievable to those who know me now, but the old me, the one who was overweight and hated exercise, thought that being injured would be great because I would have an excuse to exercise. But SparkPeople unleashed my inner athlete, and this time nothing would keep me down.
At first I really struggled and tried everything I could to heal the injury and get back to running. But as the year wore on, I began to let go. I redefined myself, not as a runner, but as an athlete. I took up weight lifting and got back into swimming. And then the inevitable--I bought a bicycle. I’ve been told that eventually all runners end up on a bike. Where running had always been a challenge to me, cycling felt natural from the beginning. And best of all, it doesn’t hurt!
I’m still working on rehabilitating my injury, but even if I never run again I’ll be OK. If this never happened to me, I probably would not have taken enough time out from running to try all these other wonderful activities.
This progression has also led me to give up the scale. My success is now weighed by how good I feel and all the fabulous things my body can do, injured or not.

I am 37 and feel better than ever! As an attorney I sit at my desk all day, so I make sure to get my activity in early in the day. I'm at the gym by 5:30 am and then bike to work several days a week. Although I played sports growing up, I never considered myself athletic. I am what John "the Penguin" Bingham calls an adult-onset athlete. I plan on doing a 2.7 mile swim across Donner Lake in August and my first 100 mile bike ride in October. Thanks to SparkPeople I realize that even our smallest actions rarely go unnoticed, so I never say never anymore!
Could you apply this same outlook to your life? Do you spend much time worrying?
Do you have an inspirational story you think we should include on the dailySpark? Do you have any funny stories about weight loss? Send them to editor@dailyspark.com. Include the subject line: From the Mouths of Members
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Comments
I have tried over and over to give up the worrying over my weight. I don't even own a scale because it is so hard for me to get the pounds off. Then I worry and feel defeated. On the other hand, my clothes are really fitting better these days. So thank you for sharing. I have even gone down a size.
- 8/6/2009 9:43:13 AM
Bravo on finding the secret and sharing it. - 8/5/2009 6:44:23 PM
And how wonderful to see what your mum wrote! - 8/5/2009 4:54:04 PM
me to try. - 8/5/2009 12:34:17 PM
Sunny - 8/5/2009 11:40:55 AM
Spark has unleashed my inner athlete as well - I grew up athletic but kinda left it behind at around 18 thinking it was kids stuff. Now, I realize that it's just in my personality to be competitive and goal oriented so races are the perfect way to keep me motivated without it always being about the scale. - 8/5/2009 11:19:54 AM
I am also in the process of replacing running with other exercises that keep me as motivated, and to my surprise, I'm finding that group exercise weight training and Pilates classes can be addictive too. I resisted them for the longest time, because I don't naturally like to do those kinds of things. But thinking back, I didn't know I would like running until I did it, either. - 8/5/2009 10:28:18 AM
I too stressed over various things. So much so, that I lost control of myself, things around me, my family. Then I lost my job.
Since this time I've taken the time to work on myself and enjoy the time with my family. Setting little goals that I've been able to be successful at.
You've taken a great approach to things and have not let your injury deter you and found another avenue to be active and competitive at the same time.
Best of luck in your upcoming events. - 8/5/2009 10:03:54 AM
I am also encouraged by what she said about taking it slow and not putting unhealthy or unrealistic goals onto my weight loss journey. I realize that being healthy is more important than wearing a certain size or fitting into some image that society tells me I need to fit into. My only goal is to be the BEST that I can be and like Tony Horton says "Forget the Rest!" - 8/5/2009 9:13:46 AM
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