How to the Weather Life's Storms

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9/23/2011 12:00 PM   :  103 comments   :  15,222 Views

 
Tea and sympathy, not cake and apathy.
 
Have you ever had one of those days, weeks, or years, when everything that can go wrong does?  I’m going through that storm now.  I’ve recently lost two pets, a cat and a bunny; a close friend passed on as well. I’ve had hives for three going on four weeks, prednisone shots and pills, both cars of our cars broke down at once… and the list goes on. 
 
In the old days, I would say “To heck with it! I DESERVE to eat whatever I want!”  While, I still do indulge upon occasion, I plan for it and do sometimes go over.  I’ve found that in the middle of so many uncontrollable things in life, the one thing I CAN control is my program to get healthier.  It’s mine!  Nobody is going to mess with it.
 
Yes, I DESERVE to be healthier.  Let’s face it. In a whirlwind, you need something to hang onto, and SparkPeople is that for me.  I’m not talking about a website.  I’m talking about you there, reading this.  I’m talking about the community we have. We care for each other. I’m also talking about our common goal of getting in better shape by exercise and eating healthier. 
 
We all have bad days, but we are bound together by a common cause and a common goal.  We want to be healthier.  We want to believe. 
 
Well, believe, because dreams are coming true all around us.  It isn’t because of any grand will power of somebody finding a magic cure either.  It is simply making one good choice at a time. 
 
Think about it this way. Imagine a piece of paper with two columns: One for calories eaten and the other for calories you could have eaten--but didn't.  You’ll see you do make some good choices.  Try making more each day.  Then try the same thing with exercise.  Columns of "could have sat and…"  versus "did this."  It doesn’t matter how long you do move, just do something more each day.
 
It’s hard to go on when your life's in the midst of a storm.  Find the calm in the center of the storm.  My calm that I hang onto is my spirituality and my wellness program.  Here are a few things that I choose from to do to get centered:
 
  • I pray.
  • I turn on upbeat music to make me happier.
  • I open the windows to let the sun in.
  • I call a friend to go to the gym so that I WILL go.
  • I call a friend to walk with me so that I WILL go.  (I HATE being alone)
  • I log on to SparkPeople and blog.
  • I make a list of things I need to do to resolve a problem.
  • I deal with one of my problems head on and get it resolved.
  • I stay on SparkPeople and drink low calorie beverages if I’m munchy from being nervous.
  • I make time for myself, no matter what. 
 
What do you do to weather life’s storms and stay with your healthy lifestyle?


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  • THINSUPERGIRL
    103
    I loved your article. I had one of these days last week. and I do the exact same thing of thinking 'to heck with it, i deserve. what if i die tomorrow!" lol. its things like this that I always end up breaking up calorie counting. I am 23. and weight has never been an issue all my life so this whole fat thing is so new to me it depresses me.gained this weight over the last 2 years and now im getting married in january. i want to be perfect in my wedding dress - weightloss is a such a stress for me sometime cause i used to love so much and cooking is my therapy. i dont do that therapy anymore so is causing more stress. pray that i reach my goal cause its a once in a lifetime thing for me. and wish me luck! - 10/28/2011   1:51:43 AM
  • 102
    Beth, you've said it all. - 10/17/2011   3:38:01 PM
  • JENDAWG211
    101
    Your blog has inspired me to examine my life and the storms, most of which I have created myself, I am currently experiencing as well. I have to thank you so much for sharing your life story and your advice, which I truly take to heart and will use to turn my life around. You rock! - 10/13/2011   12:37:12 PM
  • 100
    I still weather my storms by indulging sometimes-ice cream being one of my favorites. But I find as I get older that those comforts are fleeting. In a few minutes my troubles are back. If I can remember that, and hang out on here for awhile, stay as active as my beat up body will allow, I believe I will do great, as I hope you will. Thank you for sharing. - 10/4/2011   11:09:45 PM
  • 99
    Thank you for giving me some new suggestions on how to handle life's roller coaster. Stress is my biggest hurdle. It is very probably why I have diabetes according to my doctors. It is all part of other health problems, so I am really trying to deal with it and today your blog has given me more tools-thanks - 9/29/2011   9:24:42 AM
  • NERDFURY
    98
    Great entry. I can say that I'm on one of those spirals heading down. Good advice thank you. - 9/29/2011   9:08:40 AM
  • 97
    Thank you for your blog. It really put things in perspective for where I am right now. - 9/28/2011   11:44:27 PM
  • BAMAJAM
    96
    Thanks, Beth Donovan!! This piece you have written is filled with great advice. I love it! -- Pray, Happy Music, Support from Friends!-- List all the positives- and great things can be achieved... This is why I love SPARKPeople and ALL the inspiration right HERE with each of YOU! Blessings to ALL with my grateful heart! Thank you again, Beth, for a truly wonderful "lesson" on reaching goals. - 9/28/2011   3:36:48 PM
  • 95
    Yes, thanks for sharing. I hope things get better for you and the things you listed to work, I use a lot of those. Have a wonderful day, things will get better. - 9/28/2011   12:05:04 PM
  • MADRIAS
    94
    Great blog. A nice read this morning - 9/28/2011   9:50:19 AM
  • 93
    Thanks, Beth. This blog is a keeper! Lots of good thoughts, and I'm going to have to save this one.
    Julie - 9/28/2011   12:25:01 AM
  • 92
    Alot of good thoughts and ideas here. I like the idea of in the midst of a storm where you cannot control anything, the one thing you can control is your wellness. Well thought out and written post. Thank you for sharing. - 9/27/2011   5:48:46 AM
  • 91
    nice artricle...sorry about your losses....I too do pray. I also take time for myself. In a storm it's important to do that. We need the gas to keek going. it takes so much energy to get through a storm that we need the gas to keep on going. In a storm we can have a negative attitude so I keep my best bud Dennis around as he's a positive attitude and that's what I need. - 9/26/2011   11:49:54 PM
  • LJEINVT
    90
    Thanks for your inspiration! - 9/26/2011   11:29:52 PM
  • 89
    Hello Beth, wonderfull blog. I enjoyed very much. I really like your title: tea and sympathy not cake and apathy! Sounds really well. - 9/26/2011   8:10:36 PM
  • 88
    Beth~
    Your side-by-side column idea for what we do/don't eat sounds wonderful. It's too easy to focus on what we do wrong, but everyday I'll bet we all do something right. You've given me some great thoughts to digest (without calories!), and I hope my sympathy for your troubles and losses will help you along, even a bit. Thanks!! - 9/26/2011   3:52:27 PM
  • 87
    Thank you, again. My life isn't a whirlwind; I had more control when it was. However, not having a lot to do gives me more time to think about those things I want but cannot have. Thank you for your list and imagining those two column; I can use that. - 9/26/2011   1:08:29 PM
  • 86
    Thank-you so much for this blog. Sometimes i just need a reminder of all the things to be thankful for. Within the last 2 yrs my husband and lost our jobs which led to filing bankruptcy and the loss of our home. We had to leave to state to find other work. Sometimes i feel so alone here but thankful we now have a roof over our heads and a fresh start! - 9/26/2011   12:47:08 PM
  • 85
    Thanks so much for this article. More often than anything it's my emotions that cause me to go off track. I loved reading this! Its so true and so inspiring!!! - 9/26/2011   11:59:27 AM
  • CHICKENGRRL
    84
    Right on! Thanks for sharing and so sorry for your loss. - 9/26/2011   11:48:13 AM
  • 83
    Right on as usual, Beth! I love reading your blogs. Thank you! - 9/26/2011   11:10:38 AM
  • 82
    Thanks for sharing your blog, it was very helpful. I am sorry for your loss. - 9/26/2011   5:54:52 AM
  • 81
    THANKS! I FEEL HONORED YOU ARE PART OF THIS GREAT COMMUNITY CALLED SPARKPEOPLE AND AM SO GLAD I AM A PART OF IT, TOO! I HOPE THINGS WILL SOON LOOK UP, BUT I KNOW THEY WILL!
    MARY - 9/26/2011   1:19:32 AM
  • 80
    I"m so happy I found your blog. When things get down I do say, "I"m going to eat what I want as life is short". But in reading your blog I realize that I HAVE to find a new mindset if I truly want to get to my goal. Thanks - 9/25/2011   11:30:02 PM
  • 79
    Great blog and one I needed to read at this time.
    Thank You. - 9/25/2011   10:43:59 PM
  • 78
    I'm very sorry for your losses, and challenges you are facing. It must be very painful, but It sounds like you have a healthy way of dealing with this stress. Thank you for a great blog and such helpful ideas. I pray your storm passes soon and with time your pain will lessen. - 9/25/2011   10:08:02 PM
  • 77
    Wonderful blog!!!! You have stated it wonderfully!!!! - 9/25/2011   8:56:31 PM
  • 76
    Hey Girlfriend, Once again, you have shared with us some of life's ups & downs.... You are such an inspiration, & an awesome chic!!! Thx for sharing!!!
    - 9/25/2011   7:27:26 PM
  • 75
    I have a lot of stress in my life at the moment too. I've been managing it by commuting to work on my bicycle for the last 4 months. It helps a lot. - 9/25/2011   6:46:32 PM
  • 74
    I so appreciate your blog, thank you for sharing. - 9/25/2011   6:32:11 PM
  • 73
    Thank you for your blog this has been what I have followed from the start but some how I have lost my way, with things constantly going wrong I have not felt like doing any exercise for a few months now, I have ate the wright stuff but haven't been doing any exercise I am glad to have read this because this is exactly what I needed to help me with what is important to me and that is my health. - 9/25/2011   6:10:19 PM
  • JULIA1154
    72
    I'm so sorry to read of your recent losses, Beth. Each individually would be very hard - together they are SO painful.

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful - and strong - spirit with all of us, as well as your insightful approaches.
    - 9/25/2011   4:11:08 PM
  • 71
    I love your idea for columns of what you did eat and more importantly what you didn't eat. The same for exercise. Hubby and I make pro & con lists when facing big decisions like the change of a job or making a large purchase but I never thought of a list like this. Thanks for the terrific idea. Right now I really want to eat a cookie but I'd rather put that cookie on the "didn't eat" side of my new log!

    Thanks ans have a great week! - 9/25/2011   2:18:05 PM
  • 70
    Great Blog - 9/25/2011   2:04:16 PM
  • 69
    You are truly a motivation! thank-you for sharing yourself! - 9/25/2011   12:55:36 PM
  • 68
    I love the
    "Tea and sympathy,
    not cake and apathy. "

    What helps me weather the storm is to list what I am grateful for. When my Mom passed away... it gave me great peace and led me to fond memories having her in my life.
    When my son was ill... I was grateful we had a diagnosis.
    Being grateful takes away a lot of the hurt.

    The other thing is having a schedule. Exercise classes, having a menu all this helps me weather storms. - 9/25/2011   12:22:09 PM
  • KARENSU2
    67
    Thank you for sharing this. Your honest, insightful, and well-written blogs always help so many people, including me. I have learned that when the clouds gather and things go wrong, if I eat the wrong things to make myself feel better, I always end up feeling worse! Part of my sadness at such times comes from feeling that I can't control what's happening around me, and, as you pointed out, the one thing I can control is my health plan. So by sticking with it, I immediately feel better. Thank you! Keep up the great work -- things will get better! - 9/25/2011   10:45:22 AM
  • 66
    Thanks for sharing... hope things start to turn around.

    God will never give you more than you can handle, so He must think you are capable! I sometimes had to "remind" God that I have had enough already! LOL What won't break you WILL make you stronger. Hang in..... - 9/25/2011   10:31:24 AM
  • 65
    Great blog. I need to be reminded constantly to appreciate the good things in my life and to find beauty and joy in small pleasures. I keep a list of Things I Love, and just reading it from time to time makes me aware that the world is a beautiful place. On another note, I had terrible hives - and I mean terrible - for almost three years. Did allergy tests, saw several doctors... Then due to an unrelated condition, I had to go off of dairy completely for a couple of weeks to take a medication that required no lactose in the system to work. No dairy = no hives! It was like a miracle. I do eat dairy now. After years of trial and error, I have learned just how much my body will tolerate, so I eat a little, but not a lot. It's worth a try, right? - 9/25/2011   10:21:12 AM
  • 64
    I say my challenges are my blessing because they are making me stronger by the day. I'm so proud of you for sharing. Keep going one day at a time. I'm going to try the list idea. Thanks. - 9/25/2011   9:44:28 AM
  • 63
    THank you for sharing. - 9/25/2011   9:06:44 AM
  • JGRAY76
    62
    Well said! Just the motivation I needed. As a Financial Advisor my stress level goes up and down with the markets. With today's markets it's easy to turn to chocolate and comfort food. I am going to make it a point of putting on my walking shoes and getting outside instead of reaching for calories. Thanks! - 9/25/2011   7:46:01 AM
  • 61
    Excellent advice! I am sorry for your losses. That stinks. You are such a leader in making those healthy choices! I've had a few stress-filled days lately. I am following your plan! Thanks! - 9/25/2011   7:32:20 AM
  • 60
    Your can do spirit is contagious. I had a bad week and feeling down so thank you for the reminder that I can too. - 9/25/2011   1:52:31 AM
  • 59
    Sorry I am trying to read this at 10:46 at night after struggling with a misbehaving washing machine all afternoon and an angry wife (I guess I have too much English bulldog spirit and something else cheapness from my Mum's side to hire some flunky for $80 an hour to turn wrenches -hey its a learning experience) needless to day I am exhausted and frustrated but I think I finally found the trouble. Too bad I didn't check the drive belt earlier (the real source of the stinky smell - I over looked it ) - 9/25/2011   12:53:07 AM
  • 58
    Thanks for sharing. We choose our attitudes and we control our choices. No one else. That is kind of a radical message for me. So thank you so much. :) - 9/25/2011   12:36:53 AM
  • AMBER461
    57
    Thanks for sharing! This is a very good blog. Keep on keeping on. - 9/24/2011   10:58:13 PM
  • NEWJANN2DAY
    56
    I really found this inspiring. We all go through our ups and downs, but giving into the temptations don't get us anywhere. I'm glad she turns to the community in SP. Good Luck to you, hope things get better. - 9/24/2011   10:43:45 PM
  • 55
    Thank you for shring your experience. According my experience, I think go to sleep is a good way to cure my mood. Sometimes I'll walk around not for shopping just to study somethng new. - 9/24/2011   10:26:56 PM
  • 54
    What more can I say than what has already been said? You are an inspiration and I love your attitude! - 9/24/2011   10:08:01 PM

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