How to Stay Encouraged When in Chronic Pain
For those of you who believe there is nothing you can do when you have chronic pain, take it from me: there is hope.
I weighed 460 pounds and with all of my chronic medical issues and disability, I managed to baby step my way through my thus far of journey of 6 years. I’ve lost almost 200 pounds to date.
Lately I feel like I can do nothing. I have some extra medical issues getting in my way and need a few surgeries. Part of me, the old me, wants to give up in a chocolate oblivion and couch-sitting frenzy. I got up to 460 pounds the last time I caved in and decided that not trying was better than failure. At that point, I gave away my own rights to run, work, play, and walk on the beach. I literally handed over my freedom with full consent with each bite and every minute I sat sedentary. It seemed easier and freeing at the moment. I mean, what else could I do?
Well, let me tell you! I discovered that baby stepping is powerful. Something is not nothing. Even if you walk around the house with difficulty, you do it in preparation for your next steps in life. The real problem is that we have grown up in an “All or nothing/ No pain, no gain” world. What about those of us who do have pain and are prone to gaining weight? Push yourself without pushing yourself down. See a medical profession first and ask them what you CAN do. They can tell you how not to exacerbate your particular issues. Then, armed with knowledge, go gently into your journey.
Support can be very hard to come by for those of us with chronic pain or disabilities. Still, it can be done-- just see my Spark Page! I’ve lost almost 200 pounds despite my conditions. Forget those who call you lazy and give you advice like the artichoke and water pill diet. There is no fast track. There is simply the journey, and I have found it to be one of the most introspective and joyous times of my life. You can educate yourself through SparkPeople and make a real lifestyle change. Read, try different foods and activities and ignore the haters.
Never hold yourself up to Barbie girl working out next to you, on the TV, or in magazines. You are unique. Go at your own pace and challenge yourself against your own accomplishments. NEVER forget to reward yourself with some non-food item. Things that I like to reward myself with are clothes, jewelry, and manicure/pedicures. Someday, a massage sounds good.
Find what motivates you. Fill your life with supportive people, even if they are just your online Sparkfriends. My Sparkfriends mean the world to me. They keep me going when I feel down. Lately I’ve been struggling because I need surgery and I feel like a rolly polly bug. It frustrates me terribly, the fatigue, pain, and just general lethargy. If it were not for all of you, I would feel so lost. I read things people write to me and smile. I feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for keeping me going.
Find your calling. For me, as soon as I lost 100 pounds, I knew I was supposed to get the message out that nobody need lie in their bed their whole lives, as I did. I was merely living, not existing. Once I found my calling, I wanted to pay forward everything SparkPeople and my journey had taught me. I found myself pushing harder to be ABLE to do that.
Another great tip is to redefine yourself. I used to be a 460-pound, fat, disabled woman. Now, I’m me. I’m more positive, spontaneous, and determined. Yes, I’m still disabled and overweight, but I feel mentally different.
When I started trying to get in exercise, I had in-home physical therapy. Then I did light housework with many breaks, using a sweeper to steady me. Then I started using an arm cycle. That seems to be my most standard piece of workout equipment along with my wheeled walker, “Freedom.”
Don’t give up. Talk to you medical professional about what is right for you. They may refer you to other doctors and there may be a few hoops to jump through, but you are worth it. Do whatever you can to enable yourself, one tiny step at a time. If your medical professional is too aggressive toward you because of your weight, find a new one. If your medical professional does anything less than sincerely care, that is not the right one for you. We hire them. We can fire them.
So the good news is: YES! You can get fit, lose weight and have a better life, even if you feel like you can’t do anything. I will be fighting the good fight with you!
How do you stay encouraged?
I weighed 460 pounds and with all of my chronic medical issues and disability, I managed to baby step my way through my thus far of journey of 6 years. I’ve lost almost 200 pounds to date.
Lately I feel like I can do nothing. I have some extra medical issues getting in my way and need a few surgeries. Part of me, the old me, wants to give up in a chocolate oblivion and couch-sitting frenzy. I got up to 460 pounds the last time I caved in and decided that not trying was better than failure. At that point, I gave away my own rights to run, work, play, and walk on the beach. I literally handed over my freedom with full consent with each bite and every minute I sat sedentary. It seemed easier and freeing at the moment. I mean, what else could I do?
Well, let me tell you! I discovered that baby stepping is powerful. Something is not nothing. Even if you walk around the house with difficulty, you do it in preparation for your next steps in life. The real problem is that we have grown up in an “All or nothing/ No pain, no gain” world. What about those of us who do have pain and are prone to gaining weight? Push yourself without pushing yourself down. See a medical profession first and ask them what you CAN do. They can tell you how not to exacerbate your particular issues. Then, armed with knowledge, go gently into your journey.
Support can be very hard to come by for those of us with chronic pain or disabilities. Still, it can be done-- just see my Spark Page! I’ve lost almost 200 pounds despite my conditions. Forget those who call you lazy and give you advice like the artichoke and water pill diet. There is no fast track. There is simply the journey, and I have found it to be one of the most introspective and joyous times of my life. You can educate yourself through SparkPeople and make a real lifestyle change. Read, try different foods and activities and ignore the haters.
Never hold yourself up to Barbie girl working out next to you, on the TV, or in magazines. You are unique. Go at your own pace and challenge yourself against your own accomplishments. NEVER forget to reward yourself with some non-food item. Things that I like to reward myself with are clothes, jewelry, and manicure/pedicures. Someday, a massage sounds good.
Find what motivates you. Fill your life with supportive people, even if they are just your online Sparkfriends. My Sparkfriends mean the world to me. They keep me going when I feel down. Lately I’ve been struggling because I need surgery and I feel like a rolly polly bug. It frustrates me terribly, the fatigue, pain, and just general lethargy. If it were not for all of you, I would feel so lost. I read things people write to me and smile. I feel better. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for keeping me going.
Find your calling. For me, as soon as I lost 100 pounds, I knew I was supposed to get the message out that nobody need lie in their bed their whole lives, as I did. I was merely living, not existing. Once I found my calling, I wanted to pay forward everything SparkPeople and my journey had taught me. I found myself pushing harder to be ABLE to do that.
Another great tip is to redefine yourself. I used to be a 460-pound, fat, disabled woman. Now, I’m me. I’m more positive, spontaneous, and determined. Yes, I’m still disabled and overweight, but I feel mentally different.
When I started trying to get in exercise, I had in-home physical therapy. Then I did light housework with many breaks, using a sweeper to steady me. Then I started using an arm cycle. That seems to be my most standard piece of workout equipment along with my wheeled walker, “Freedom.”
Don’t give up. Talk to you medical professional about what is right for you. They may refer you to other doctors and there may be a few hoops to jump through, but you are worth it. Do whatever you can to enable yourself, one tiny step at a time. If your medical professional is too aggressive toward you because of your weight, find a new one. If your medical professional does anything less than sincerely care, that is not the right one for you. We hire them. We can fire them.
So the good news is: YES! You can get fit, lose weight and have a better life, even if you feel like you can’t do anything. I will be fighting the good fight with you!
How do you stay encouraged?
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Thanks everyone - 4/2/2012 7:13:44 PM
Thanks for the encouragement. - 4/2/2012 6:12:22 PM
"Baby stepping is powerful."
"Redefine yourself."
Thanks for this! - 4/2/2012 4:31:48 PM
I've had bad back pain for the past month and my exercise regime has gone out the window. Thanks for giving me the motivation to not give up!
- 4/2/2012 5:19:45 AM
Thanks for sharing!!! :) - 4/1/2012 10:40:13 PM
Best wishes for continued success and good luck with your operation.
Carol - 4/1/2012 3:11:22 PM
You are awesome and thanks so much for sharing! Now just look at how many spark friends you have, huh? ................ We are all with you and know you will make it~Keep writing ok? ............ Best to you! Jan - 3/31/2012 11:18:32 PM
- 3/31/2012 10:18:09 PM
Chronic pain I can identify with. With the obesity, back pain and knees with no cartilage , I could not get around. I could not push a vacuum to clean my house. I had to use a walker to get from one room to another. I had to sit for everything I did.
Exercise, what exercise.??? It was just a chore to get up out of bed.
When I asked my doctor for help in getting an electric chair to get around and out of the house.( I didn't have the strength to manage a wheel chair. ) The doctor told me I would die in a few years if I didn't get some of the weight off. So no chair and instead I started on a weight loss program under doctors supervision. I lost weight, because I want to live. I was not living before , just existing, taking up space.
I still have pain in different parts of my body. But I am working on that. Had knees replaced, getting ready for hand surgery. In the mean time I will exercise what I can, monitor my weight and eat healthy. Rely on my Spark friends to inspire me, encourage me. For together there are so many of us all striving for a better life.
There is strength in numbers. That's why Spark is such an important part of my life.
When ever I think of my ailments and hurts. I read about someone who is struggling with more issues than me. I then think how far I have come, and I know there are better days ahead. You just have to be positive and believe in yourself. - 3/31/2012 8:55:13 PM
- 3/31/2012 5:35:31 PM
~Kim in NV - 3/31/2012 2:51:33 PM
By 2009, my pain was unbearable. I could no longer walk. And doctors told me my life would never get any better. But I was blessed to find Professor Brian A. Rothbart, a surgeon that spent 40 years looking for a cause and a cure for chronic muscle and joint pain. I recently finished his therapy program, which did not involve drugs or surgery, and for the first time in 3 decades I have NO chronic pain. None. Professor Rothbart recently published a letter I wrote to him about my therapy here:
curingchronicpain.com/a-patient-
describes-how-rothbart-propriocepti
ve-therapy-ended-her-chronic-pain
One of the important things I learned form Professor Rothbart is that being overweight does NOT cause pain or arthritis. He restated this to me throughout my therapy and wrote an article about it here. curingchronicpain.com/does-excess-w
eight-cause-chronic-pain
(You may need to copy that address and paste in into your browser.)
Now that I am out of pain, I no longer crave foods like cookies and cake. I have no urge to overeat. And I'm losing weight without thinking about it or working toward it. I've lost 16 pounds in the last month and a half. But I'm still over 200 pounds, on a very small frame. So if being overweight causes pain and arthritis, why am I pain free? Why don't I have arthritis? I'll tell you why. Because my pain was caused by an abnormal foot structure which put me into a bad posture. When Professor Rothbart corrected my posture, the pain went away. Gone!
For everyone here struggling with chronic pain and weight gain, my advice is this--don't settle for a doctor that blames you for your pain and other health problems. Change doctors, and change again, until you find one that is willing to dig deep and find the actual source of your chronic pain and cure it. DEMAND this! If your doctor isn't referring you to appropriate specialists, including physical therapists that can help you work out an exercise program you can actually do, then speak up! Tell your doctor what you want and expect. If you still don't get help, change doctors and change again until you find one that is actually committed to healing.
You must rise above pain and fatigue and find the strength to be your own advocate for better health care. And each one of you can do it! After all, you have already shown a tremendous amount of personal strength and courage simply by getting up each morning and living though another day of pain. So without a doubt you have what you need to confront your doctors and demand a higher level of care than just being blamed or drugged. - 3/31/2012 2:06:13 PM
From the rest of the comments it's easy to see how inspiring your story is for others in the same boat. You are absolutely right that baby steps are the way to go. Did you know that even the MAYO clinic now recommends ten minutes here and there throughout your day instead of attempting to do a 30 minute (or more) exercise program! There is much that we can do for a few minutes here and there which absolutely DOES count. I often recommend things like marching in place while brushing your teeth, one extra walk around the kitchen table, etc. And for all of those suffering from Chronic Pain there is a new book out by Dr. Mark Hyman with lots of good information on food triggers for pain and allergies, etc. It's called "The Blood Sugar Solution." If you can get to your local library, check out this book. You may find more simple, easy solutions to help relieve your chronic pain.
I am also proud of you Beth! - 3/31/2012 1:34:28 PM
I suffer from osteo arthiritis and am in pain throughout the day but am taking a combo of MSM and GC and that seems to help relieve the pain.I wake up in serious pain but as the day goes on I feel a little stronger but am not currently exercising,don't have a friendly and supportive Dr.so have to do this on my own.Really enjoy reading the comments,they are inspiring.Good luck to all of you out there and keep on doing what is best for you, CLin Oregon - 3/31/2012 1:00:14 PM
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