Hot Celebrity Moms: Motivating or Discouraging?

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By: , SparkPeople Blogger
8/22/2008 11:00 AM   :  159 comments

Flip open the pages of your favorite celebrity magazine and chances are you'll find an article about how the newest celebrity mom lost her baby weight—very soon after giving birth, no less. Frustrating? Yes. Discouraging? Maybe. A recent BabyCenter.com poll asked moms what kind of impact “these tiny and toned celebrity moms” had on them. Thirty-one percent of moms felt angry about the “extra pressure on regular moms to look that way” and 24 percent simply felt depressed.

These aren’t just pictures of moms at the grocery store in jeans and sweatshirts either.

Denise Richards posed for Playboy, 5 months after the birth of her first daughter. Heidi Klum strutted down the catwalk in the Victoria’s Secret fashion show, just 8 weeks after having her son.

It’s hard to look at those pictures and not compare yourself to them or wonder why you’re still struggling to fit into your pre-pregnancy clothes 6 months after your little one arrived.

While part of me congratulates these women for getting back into shape quickly (which is hard work no matter who you are) and showing that a new mom can still be sexy, a bigger part of me wonders what kind of message this is really sending, and what kind of standard we’re expecting moms to live up to.

Consider that many of these women have nannies, personal trainers, personal chefs, and more. Again, I understand that it takes discipline to eat healthy and exercise regularly. But when you’re a new mom who’s sleep deprived and struggling to develop a new routine (trust me, I’ve been there!), the last thing you should be worrying about is how quickly you can get back into your string bikini. Here’s an interesting fact: Researchers at Harvard looked at 940 women and found that moms who slept five hours or less per day when their babies were 6 months old were three times as likely to carry extra weight six months later than moms who slept seven hours a day.

Rapid weight loss and/or extreme exercise are discouraged right after birth, especially if you’re breastfeeding. The healthy way to lose the weight is through a balanced diet and regular exercise, and to do it slowly. This increases the chances that you’ll keep the weight off and you’re less likely to have to deal with problems like sagging skin or a decreased milk supply (if you’re breastfeeding).

What do you think? Do these stories and images inspire you to work harder, or do they discourage you from feeling like you’ll ever live up to such a high standard?

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  • 159
    I find them very motivating. I expect it to take me longer because I won't have a nanny, or a chef, or a personal trainer and after 8 weeks, I'll have to go back to work, while they can just work out and eat well. So, it will take me longer, but it is possible. I sure wouldn't find it motivating if they just let themselves go after having a baby. - 2/21/2012   1:09:53 PM
  • 158
    Actresses', musicians' and models' careers are largely built around their image, which includes their size/fitness/beauty. Why should that really affect the self-esteem of moms whose careers DON'T depend on their size/fitness/beauty???

    If the stories are entertaining, read and enjoy. If they motivate you to move a little more than you did yesterday, keeping your doctor's recommendations in mind, go ahead!!

    Honestly, when I had just had my daughter, all I really cared about was sleep. Eventually I got back to exercising and lifting weights, but it wasn't on the top of my to-do list for a very long time. And I have NO REGRETS. Those early months were such a gift, and I would have hated to miss a moment obsessing about my weight or newly jiggly tummy. - 8/15/2011   3:09:49 PM
  • REDSHOES2011
    157
    People have bashed Madonna for years.. She strength trains, runs and does yoga.. Camera's have clicked her working out behind the scenes without makeup and fancy clothing..
    If I could do half of what she does, I think her haters should step down.. She is doing what every one hates.. The lifestyle change work..
    She shows me this journey is possible and keep looking good as we get older takes work.. - 6/10/2011   11:58:33 PM
  • 156
    Of course they get into shape right away, this is their livlihood. I don't let what they look like get to me, cuz well, I am not them, and my income doesn't depend on how I look. In order to stay in the spotlight in a positive light, they have to do all they can to look their best.
    Would I go through some of the drasitic things they do? Heck no.. - 5/4/2011   11:59:04 AM
  • 155
    PLEASE. You DO know that these women have tummy tucks, vaginal reconstructions, and liposuction at the same time they give birth, right? It's true.Out pops the baby, and in go the plastic surgeons. And yes, they do have trainers, nannies, chefs, etc for additional assistance. - 4/24/2011   4:41:42 AM
  • 154
    A lot of celebrity mom's have a lot of help around the house, whereas non-celebrity mom's often do it alone. There is a big difference. That said, most celebrities (not all!) eat healthy, exercise, because it is their job. It is expected of them to get back into tip top shape right away. Unrealistic? Yes. But I don't think we should necessarily blame them, it is the media who has caused such a big deal out of looks.

    - 4/22/2011   6:54:39 PM
  • MSRICH10835
    153
    ETHELMERZ I must agree we should stop buying those magazines!!! Real moms usually don't have a chef, nanny, and personal trainer to come to their homes and whip them into pre-pregnancy shape... Also that's what these ladies are paid for and hired for they are just doing their job...Nevertheless its still discouraging and depressing I just had my daughter (2 months ago) I am enjoying this moment not beating myself in the head to lose weight!! - 4/22/2011   11:24:07 AM
  • 152
    I look at these women as unrealistic. In the real world show me a new mom with tons of time on her hands who did it without a personal trainer, chef, nanny, housekeeper, gardner and errand runner. Plus you have to be able to get a good 7 to 8 hours of sleep in a night. We in the real world shouldn't even try to live up to those standards. - 3/7/2011   3:53:35 PM
  • 151
    It's important to keep in mind that alot of celebrity moms were in great shape before they had their babies and they continued to be healthy during their pregnancies. Also, one can say that it is part of their job to get back to their pre-pregnancy weight. A non-celebrity mom should not compare herself to a celebrity. - 3/5/2011   5:37:05 PM
  • MASHALAZ
    150
    Sure it's sort makes me jealous to see their fit bodies, but I don't feel pressure or motivation--I just see it as part of their job--they get paid for how they look, and since they have the money, of course they are going to use whatever means it takes--personal trainer, cook, etc. They have a certain image to maintain, and goodness knows the press will pounce all over them if they are photographed with any extra weight or flabbiness. It's got to be a lot of pressure. - 2/25/2011   9:38:33 AM
  • 149
    everything i read that has any connection to LALA land and celebrity of any types, i take it with a grain of salt. if there is anything i have learned it is that we are on the 'regular planet called earth' with all of its realities, and they ARE NOT!! no one really lives their lifestyles, and all they do is contrived to make them more money and get them more fame. - 2/10/2011   6:18:28 PM
  • ACHUYNH1
    148
    This article helps a lot! Thank you! I've always wondered about how it's possible for celebs to do that. Glad I'm not a celeb....that's a lot of pressure on yourself and your child. - 8/5/2010   1:19:32 PM
  • ETHELMERZ
    147
    Why do celebs think they are such a big deal having babies anyway? Let's start a new fad, not buying any of these magazines in the first place, shall we?? - 5/17/2010   10:14:19 PM
  • 146
    Not only no, but HELL no, they don't inspire me--and neither do people like Oprah, who can afford a top-of-the-line trainer and cook, eat anything she pleases (because she can *afford* to) and spend her life in the gym. Real women have real lives--real worries--real financial hardships (such as, oh, being out of work for 4 months, and going from 6 figures to $20K/year unemployment). Many studies have shown that losing weight is expensive--whether you pay a trainer/cook, do Nurtisystem or one of the other "we'll feed you" programs--or pay for leaner meats and fish and better-quality foods at the supermarket. I don't own an airbrush. I don't tape or pin or otherwise manipulate my wardrobe so that it always fits perfectly. And I can't afford a photographer who knows just how to pose me in the perfect lighting to bring out my best.

    I'm tired of Hollyweird and Madness Avenue dictating what I should look like, what I should think, and what my ethics (or lack of them) should be. There are more real human beings in the real world than there are modeling agencies and models--so why do we let them tell us what "beautiful" is? I see lots of beautiful women here--no airbrushing, no perfection, just good hearts and good souls and the willingness not only to be the best they can be, but to help others do it, too.

    Let me know when one of these starlets makes her trainer or her cook available to you. - 5/17/2010   5:23:33 PM
  • 145
    As a mommy of 3, when I see these magazines, it makes me worry a little. Women need to spend the first few weeks after they have a baby allowing their body to heal and bonding with their new baby. - 5/17/2010   1:58:47 AM
  • 144
    Absolutely not! She doesn't have a normal life like Joe Public. Celebriteis live a life of privilege you and I will never know. To hold them up as role models is unrealistic...as are some of the photos you see of them. but that is another subject all together! Be true to yourself. It's your life and you have to live it. - 5/16/2010   11:04:59 PM
  • 143
    i can never expect a normal woman to live up to these standards but the reality is that many normal women DO get back their bodies (i know a few) and that it IS doable! maybe not in 6 weeks or 6 months but you can do it, all it takes is some dilligence - 5/16/2010   9:39:42 PM
  • SNIKWILLS
    142
    I wasn't a 5'3 actress that weighed 103 lbs before my child, and I'm not morphing into one after...and the chick on the cover is famous for trying to find her soulmate on a "reality show"....Puleeze!! My standards are slightly higher than that! my waistline and weight may also be higher, but I'm not looking to the flavor -of-the-month on TV to be my "role model" until I see something more than just being one of 100 bikini babes in a hot tub making out with the same guy on TV, and being crushed that it wasn't "true love"!! lol seriously!? We need to aim a little higher people!!! - 5/16/2010   9:32:18 AM
  • 141
    not discouraging at all. These women were all in extremely good shape before pregnancy. If you take good care of yourself during pregnancy your weight gain should be 25-40 lbs, most of all comes off naturally, especially when you feed your baby naturally. I'm sure these ladies all went back to working out as soon as their Doc gave the go-ahead. There's no reason why someone couldn't get back into their pre-pregnancy condition relatively soon. Not sure why people want to believe that pregnancy ruins one's body! - 5/15/2010   2:13:44 PM
  • 140
    No, it isn't discouraging. I nursed my first four children, and lost 50# in 3 months, because I wanted to be thin again. These women just take care of their bodies. I'm sure they watch and don't gain over 20# while pregnant, so that makes it easier to get back in shape. - 3/9/2010   7:53:38 PM
  • 139
    Um - let us not forget photoshop. Most of the photoshop "artists" who work on magazine cover are actually men (this is not personal, BTW). I think that looking closely at some of these pictures reveals oddities that are really impossible. The best example I can think of is the famous photoshopped picture of Faith Hill awhile ago... or (and this has nothing to do with new moms) the startling differences between the images of Oprah Winfrey or Paula Deen on their respective magazine covers as opposed to how they look in real life, which is a lot more normal. I feel sorry for new moms, and even sorrier for young girls. Photoshopping even happens in the movies now. Ugh! - 2/23/2010   12:12:12 PM
  • 138
    It was always encouraging to me to know that it was possible to drop the baby weight completely, and I did so after each baby, although I was never solid muscle like an athlete. I knew that would take hours of training and I was not willing to put in the work. More importantly, I was comfortable with my body as it was, I was nursing, and I was healthy. - 2/23/2010   5:04:21 AM
  • 137
    I'm about 10 years away from having a child, but to be honest these magazines reallllly scare me. If I were to have a baby now, the additional weight would make me dangerously overweight, plus losing it afterwards to get into the kind of shape this "new moms!" are in would something done in years and years, not weeks. It is a good example for me, though, to care enough to get in shape before my pregnancies, so that after I can work toward a reachable goal. - 2/23/2010   1:41:25 AM
  • 136
    Well like most magazines geared towards women, the covers and articles within are merely designed to make you feel fat, old, etc.. so you'll buy all the anti-wrinkle creams and weightloss crap sold within the pages. They're not stupid, magazines, they know they need all those advertisers that promise to make women prettier/thinner to stay in business. What boggles my mind is how many women still buy them and go through the mags' clever psychological model of "feel bad about your appearance compared to our models, then go buy the products in our magazine". - 1/2/2010   4:39:09 AM
  • 135
    I admire them but I've never felt presurred. I actually kind of feel sorry for them. I think they do it because of the pressure. Normal people like myself can take our time, celebrities probably have the pressure of being photographed with the extra weight, plus they probably get paid good money for the pix after the weight loss. I guess if that was all our cases, getting paid, some of us would definitely do the same thing. - 9/11/2009   7:01:17 PM
  • MANDYKAO
    134
    I look at celebs for inspiration that if one chooses to, one can return to pre-pregnancy shape - I just won't take drastic measures to get there. - 8/19/2009   8:55:08 AM
  • 133
    For me it's that old "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" theory. I don't find ladies with 6-packs attrive at all. Most models and some actresses are starving them selves and gaging their food back up.Nice visual there. I much prefere the glow of confidence a person carries. A recent mom is quit lovely even carring that little extra weight. Some body sizes just don't look right when you can tell their struggling with a image rather than being themselves...Chef Jim - 6/30/2009   9:46:19 AM
  • 132
    It doesn't really effect me too much. (Okay, I admit I get a little envious sometimes) I'm sure if I had the money and resources I'd be able to get a body like that too, but I don't. I don't have anybody to take care of my kids for me, just myself. I don't have the money to hire a personal trainer or dietitian. I don't have the time to spend 3 hours or so in a gym working my butt off. I'm also not being paid to stay 'pretty' for the public to salivate over. They are just doing what they have to do to maintain their paychecks, and they can afford to do so. I just hate when guys look at those pictures, and then that of their wives, or just 'regular' women in general and don't understand why we aren't all a size 2 right after we give birth to a child. Then you just have to slap them upside the head and move on. - 6/29/2009   8:16:08 AM
  • PINKPUNKPIRATE
    131
    Its not discouraging when you consider celebreties are paid to look a particular way. If my career and livlihood depended on my looks and marketability I would be able to invest in the tools necessary to maintain my business. Its like purchasing a new computer or investing in a company car...you invest in what keeps your business/career soluable. I don't rely on my physical appearance to make a living and therefore can take my time in returning to my pre-baby weight. If I had a gig on a runway 8 weeks from now to strut in my knickers and make oodles of cash, you better believe I'd be working out my booty a heck of a lot more! - 6/28/2009   9:47:16 PM
  • 130
    i don't think that celeb moms are any more unrealistic for the general population than celebs who aren't moms.

    these women get paid to stay looking good, and like you mention, they have personal chefs, trainers, etc.

    I think it's unrealistic for the everyday woman to expect to look how the celebs look, moms or not. SOME people CAN and do make this happen,... but i do feel that if i didn't have 2 jobs, and was totally rich and could spend 8 hours a day in a gym with a personal trainer, i'd look the same as the celebs... it's unrealistic for most of us. - 6/28/2009   5:15:56 PM
  • SEXYSIZE_12
    129
    It doesn't discourage me, because I know some people have great genetics where they can just snap back quickly and others have to work harder and longer regardless to having all the help in the world. And in the case of the cover photos remember a lot of photo shop and some real such as Heidi, the proof is in her walking down the run way. Keep up the great work and don't compare yourself to celebrities or even everyday people, everyone is different and unique and what works for me or them or anyone may not work for you. :o) - 6/18/2009   1:29:14 PM
  • 128
    What I find ridiculous is the amount of time these women spend to look skinny, mini, and bikini clad well past what is tasteful and age appropriate. It amazes and saddens me to watch these women spend so much time on their looks, when they could be making a difference in charities and helping others. It is a self-centered and selfish way to live. Who cares that they can still get in a bikini. The rest of us are getting on with living. - 5/20/2009   11:43:59 PM
  • 127
    well these women are paid for their body and have personal trainers and cooks to help them lose weight. They also have nannies for their kids while they spend 3 hours a day at the gym. - 5/19/2009   7:23:14 PM
  • 126
    I'm sure these celeb moms have ALOT of help in their quest. But for a NORMAL mom - I think these articles are not realistic. To those of us, I say, take care of yourself by eating right and exercise right (follow doctor's guidelines) and don't forget some time for yourself (a short walk would do wonders). You should use this time to bond with your baby, afterall ---believe me---they grow SOOOO fast. - 5/6/2009   10:52:54 AM
  • 125
    they don't discourage me. it's jus unrealistic for the rest of us "regular folks" to dedicate all of our days to weight training with professionals when we still have jobs and babies to take care of.
    i would say they're neutral but they do show it's possible. - 5/3/2009   10:33:10 PM
  • 124
    The celeb mom's are SO discouraging because the ones they profile are always the ones that 'bounce' back and are tiny little people. Often they are the ones that can and do afford to spend 4-5 hours a day at the gym with a personal trainer while their baby stays with a nanny. In the real world we cannot neccessarily that way so it makes it difficult to realize all the assistance they have/ get as compared to the normal person. As well, I dont know too many people that only eat 3 strawberries for breakfast, 1/2 a bannana for snack, 1 boiled egg for lunch, a smoothie for snack and a chicken salad for dinner (which I read one star did as her meals). - 5/2/2009   7:27:36 PM
  • 123
    I find them a tad discouraging. All of these women have personal trainers, nannies, etc...and that just isn't the way it is in the real world. Also, I have nothing against going back to work after having a baby (if a woman can than more power to her), but to be shown on the "runway" only 8 weeks after giving birth is really sad...who is spending time with their child? - 5/2/2009   6:53:20 PM
  • 122
    I try to look at it in a good way as motivation...I know it makes the rest of us depressed at times but celebrities get picked on when they're not thin. Look at Jessica simpson she "gained some weight" and they were all over her. I think she still looked good but people expect them to look perfect. I personally dont think all they do is workout. Some MAY workout but the majority get tummy tucks and lipo. I'm not even sure if it's possible to lose SO MUCH weight as qiuck as they do being HEALTHY. - 5/1/2009   3:43:27 PM
  • WINDYRIVER
    121
    They talk about the weight lost and such, but fail to metion the support staff they use and cost for the weight loss. - 4/28/2009   4:59:27 PM
  • NOMORESPARE
    120
    I was encouraged for about 5 seconds. Then reality set back in that I have 2 children in school and a 9 month old, a full time job and no nanny...hahaha. It's impossible for someone who has my schedule and who is as involved with her children as I am to keep to the workouts and diets these women do. From the 90 minutes of cardio with a trainer on top of all of the strength training (I read that in the Christina Aguilera article) to the pre-portioned meals, etc I can't do it. Not to mention the cost. - 4/28/2009   4:28:49 PM
  • CUMQUAT1
    119
    its a shame that the media & its followers focus on the weight loss/toned body following a delivery rather than showing us the more nuturing/supportive things "celebrities" do with their babies. as in so many domains, our priorities seemed screwed up. i don't love my mom because she lost her - 4/28/2009   4:19:57 PM
  • 118
    I think it is discouraging and disgusting. People whould worry about being healthy and spending time with their kids instead of worrying about their favorite pair of jeans fitting agian. - 4/28/2009   2:16:09 PM
  • 117
    I think its discouraging and unhealthy. Someone very close to me --less than 1 month before her youngest was born-- said she was going to work her butt off to get the weight off as soon as her child was born because of the celebrity moms in the news. Her attitude was, if they can do it, so can I. I tried to talk her out of it telling her that celebrity moms that fall prey to that are not thinking clearly-- they needed to focus on being healthy, not trying to lose weight as soon as the baby comes out. Thankfully, by the time her child was born, she'd decided to do the same she'd done with her others-- wait until the baby was at least 6 months before she really got into working out. I'm happy to say she did wait and the baby weight is now gone (the youngest is 1 y/o).

    If I ever get pregnant, as a runner, I intend on running for as long as I can before the baby is born and picking back up as soon as possible after the baby is born. I'm a runner, it will upset me mentally not to run. I'm going to have to waddle-jog or something late into the pregnancy. lol I'm just joking. :-) - 4/24/2009   11:17:33 PM
  • 116
    Discouraging! Even if I did lose so much weight that I was as thin as celebrity moms- I still have my stretch marks and scars and cellulite because I don't have money for surgery or special creams to fix these things like they do. - 4/24/2009   2:45:09 PM
  • 115
    Every time I see an article or magazine that shows these women, I have to say " Sure, if I had a personal trainer, chef and nanny to watch my new baby so I can get fit then I could look like that too!" Not to mention the make up artist, hairstylist, and air brusher of course! It is the truth and I am sorry but I don't feel like giving any sympathy to them. When they have to live a day in my life and get themselves looking like that so quickly then we'll talk sympathy for their struggles. At the same time, I wouldn't change anything about my life. I love my kids and the weight/stretch marks are worth it to have them in my life! Of course that doesn't stop me from cursing at my flab and marks every day, but it is still worth it! - 4/20/2009   2:34:47 PM
  • 114
    FOR US PEOPLE WHO DON'T HAVE NANNIE'S IT'S SO HARD. THAT'S WHY CELEBRITY MOM'S CAN DO IT. - 4/4/2009   8:11:57 PM
  • 113
    Annoyed, discouraged, irritated. It took several years after my twins (my second and third babies) were born to lose all the weight I'd put on with both pregnancies, plus Weight Watchers membership.

    On the other hand I had the opportunity to breastfeed my babies and bond with them at home in peace, which at the time was more important to me than my appearance. Everything in its season. - 4/3/2009   7:04:32 AM
  • 112
    DISCOURAGING! we know its not "the real world" but our minds want to believe it... and seein is believing right? UGH... yea, im not big on celebrities and their (under)weights. - 3/31/2009   8:41:26 AM
  • 111
    I am currently seven weeks out from having my fourth baby in five years and it has really beaten me up. I do have to say that my body is absolutely refusing to let the weight off irregardless of my best efforts. I have stretch marks and a stomache that looks pregnant no matter how far out from having the baby I get and the only thing that has come close to helping was ballet. I am not a dancer, but I took ballet and it was AMAZING in how well it helped.
    As for the celebrities, I have a hard time not pushing myself when I see them getting away with it. I have to say it is great for them, but hard on the day to day moms out there having to compare themselves to magazine covers. - 3/30/2009   10:19:48 PM
  • 110
    I was one of these women for my first two babies. However, for baby #3, NOT SO MUCH. I completely agree with the reference to getting enough sleep. When you're body is not rested, you are mentally, physically, and emotially drained. Not to mention, you have a larger family, previous commitments, and life in general.

    These stories keep me motivated. However, I keep them in perspective. These women have access to certain luxuries that the average mom does not. With that said, every mom could and should, find the time to make herself a priority. If that means getting up earlier in the day, while everyone's sleeping...then do that. Or perhaps it means working out later in the evening, after the hubby comes home, or when the kids are asleep.

    This 3rd baby has made me release some of my perfection complex. I do plan on achieving my pre-pregnancy goal weight. However, with my new life, I have come to the conclusion, it will take longer than it previously did, due to my different set of circumstances. And that's okay. Thus, I will not hold myself to the standard of Heidi Klum, in terms of strutting my bare mid-drift week postpartum....but I WILL get to my body goals.

    So to answer the question, these celebs help fuel inspiration and motivation, as opposed to feeding any unrealistic goals. - 3/11/2009   4:40:37 PM

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