Help! Parties are My Weakness!

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10/11/2008 12:28 PM   :  91 comments

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My social calendar is full this month with Halloween parties, a reunion and even a belated birthday soiree. While I'm excited to see my friends and catch up on what's going on in our increasingly busy lives, I'm also slightly dreading all those parties.
My weakness is house parties. I'm a fidgety person and an anxious social drinker/eater, so when I'm standing in front of a bowl of snacks (like my friend Holly's irresistible roasted pecans with sugar and rosemary), I nosh nervously. I also tend to drink faster than I should, whether it's wine, seltzer or punch. It's not that I want to overimbibe. I just need something to do with my hands.

I've got some good strategies in place: Drink club soda or water, fill my plate with veggies, etc, but I'm always looking for more.

When you're at a cocktail party or other social gathering where the food and drink are free flowing and seemingly never-ending, how do you resist? Please, share your tips!


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  • 91
    I think it's very important to eat plenty before you get there. That should keep you from eating a lot of foods you shouldn't. You could always stash away some healthy snacks - 3/2/2010   1:25:56 AM
  • 90
    Thanks for the suggestions! I've got a reunion coming up later this month!!! - 10/5/2009   11:22:05 AM
  • 89
    Chewing gum works for me most times. Also, if it is your hands that need to be busy, put something in your pocket that you can play with periodically. Or if you don't have a pocket, how about a inexpensive bracelet with a long chain at the end or a trinket on it that you can fiddle with even on your wrist. No one will notice the nervous habit and you may not eat as much. - 10/4/2009   8:53:56 PM
  • 88
    I would take a large gallon container and a mug of crystal lite or something similar. You don't need the extra calories from drinks. If your must munch or nibble, take with you cut up veggie platter. Be sure there is enough for when you get nervous. Pretzels are also a lo-cal alternative to chips, but be sure to have it pre-measured so you don't over-knosh! Go with chicken instead of beef if they have it, and remove the skin. Everything else can be had in moderation. Of course, if you want to imbibe, try limiting it to one or two drinks. Those calories add up quickly! Best of all Good Luck. - 6/25/2009   1:12:28 PM
  • PURPLELOBOS
    87
    I keep a drink in my hands at all times. Not necessarily alcolic drink but soda or juice - 6/25/2009   9:42:19 AM
  • KGROFF3
    86
    I try to drink a low calorie drink and only eat the healthy snacks. I often bring a healthy snack so that I know I will have something to eat while at the party. I always allow myself something that is forbidden though. I just make sure that I keep the portion small and that the item is the one thing that will satisfy my craving. I also try to stay away from the snacks when possible. So socializing away from the snack table is always a plus. - 6/25/2009   4:42:01 AM
  • KHALIA2
    85
    Dance a lot! If you're dancing, you're not eating. When I get there, I'm looking for the veggie and cheese tray. I don't drink alcohol so, I may have a soda, juice, or water. - 6/24/2009   2:36:00 PM
  • 84
    When going to a party I always have a nutritious snack before I leave home. when i arrive, I scope out the food and plan in my head what I can eat and how much.I have a glass of water in between drinks (wine only) and only get half the usual amount of wine in my glass. I plan exactly how much i can have calorie wise and then i have one plate mid way through the party and that is all. Works very well. My friends know that I am watching what I eat for my health and are very supportive. - 6/24/2009   8:43:10 AM
  • LUV_BEIN_MOM2
    83
    Honestly, it's a weakness here too! Everyone else's tips are more helpful to me than mine would be to someone else!! - 11/30/2008   4:56:13 PM
  • 82
    A trick I've learned is if you are a drinker, drink one alcoholic drink, then a glass of water. It cuts back on the empty calories of drinking and fills you up so the hors d'ouevres plate is little less tempting. Stay WELL AWAY in distance from the table, distance in this case, definitely helps the heart grown fonder and FITTER! - 10/16/2008   4:31:03 PM
  • DAXGRAF
    81
    I have the same issue. I always try to find a healthy snack and keep it in my reach so that I am altleast snacking kind of healthy. I also don't fill my cup up so that I don't drink as fast. Good luck and hope this helps - 10/15/2008   9:04:47 PM
  • WARMITUPCRISS
    80
    I like beer, a lot. So the only way I can be sure not to over do it is to volunteer to be designated driver. Once every month or so I allow myself to have some fun, but otherwise keep it under control. If its a food party I eat dinner before going, then decide on the one thing I REALLY want, and have it. After that I just stay away from the "food table." - 10/15/2008   11:35:19 AM
  • 79
    If I know I'm going to a party, I watch calories earlier in the day then I try to eat something before I go so I'm not so hungry. Once I get there, I try to avoid eating at all for the first hour or so. Once I start I can't seem to stop. - 10/14/2008   3:58:58 PM
  • 78
    I read a tip that said you can have one "naughty" item only after eating 5 healthy items (veggies, fruit, etc). That way you limit yourself and tend to be full by the time you hit round 2 or 3 of your "bad" items. - 10/14/2008   3:11:07 PM
  • 77
    Eat slower. Protion control, drink alot of water or something carbonated like seltzer water. It will fill up your tummy so you are less likely to binge. If there are fruits and veggies eat that first. - 10/14/2008   2:41:45 PM
  • QNANGLFSH
    76
    I like the 'take 3 bites -- slowly' idea. Maybe even only take the amount that would equal 3 bites....Guess I could go wrong there if I tried to take 3 bites of everything on the buffet :-p - 10/14/2008   1:27:26 PM
  • 75
    I just went to a party this weekend and took my healthy alternatives with me. I still indulged a little but I could because I was full of my healthy items. I volunteered to be designated driver so I did not drink. Got to do it all over again for Halloween. - 10/14/2008   10:09:13 AM
  • KINTML2U
    74
    It is a weakness of mine no doubt. It's been months since I've been to the gym and when I walked in yesterday they asked me what day I want to schedule my body comp on...my straight answer with no thought was Monday. If I know I'm going to hold myself accountable for my eating, I'm not going to over do it as much (most parties/gatherings are on weekends)...I've proved this to myself in the past, now it's time to get back on track and roll on! - 10/14/2008   7:44:52 AM
  • PLCLEMO
    73
    I make sure I've eaten enough "good for me" food before I go, that way the other junk food is not appealing. Also, drinking plenty of water fills you up. - 10/14/2008   6:43:56 AM
  • 72
    I always throw an apple in my purse or bag to take with me. As silly as it sounds, I know that I'll have a snack as soon as I leave. Most of the time, though, I do not end up eating it! It's a mind game that works for me. - 10/13/2008   11:07:37 PM
  • KIMIASBPX1
    71
    know your weeknesses. i find i can't stop munching when it comes to bread items and chips. For me those items by themselves i can never get my fill so i try to keep clear fo them. Alot of the parties we get invited to are full od chips salsa tortillas and carne asada. i find that if i east the meat and maybe some veggies i know when i'm full and don't continue eating and eating. Another thing i do is bring a large container of suger free ice tea so i am not tempted to drink alcohol or sugary drinks - 10/13/2008   10:30:31 PM
  • 70
    I'm in this situation every weekend, when my friends and I gather for "potluck." I make sure that what I bring is virtually "free food" - a huge raw veggie platter or something like that. (Once I made those pinwheels that someone posted in the recipe section. Served with salsa to dip in, they were a big hit.) Then, after I get my small allotments of the stuff everyone else has brought, I can pretty much nibble to my heart's content on raw carrots and celery. Same on drinks. I usually walk in with some bottled water, and keep refilling it from the fridge.

    Even if it were not an "everyone bring a plate" kind of thing, I'm sure that your hostess wouldn't mind if you volunteered to bring raw veggies. Especially if she knows you're trying to watch the ol' calorie intake. :-) - 10/13/2008   4:50:55 PM
  • 69
    I try to eat a healthy small meal before I go to holiday parties, I usually have an english muffin with tsp of peanut butter, a banana, plus a couple glasses of water just before I go. At the party I try to eat the veggie and fruit plate stuff, and so drink more water. Fortunatly for me I am not an addictive eater and most of my family and friends always have good chocies. I do like fudge and sugar cookies so I do have some, but I know I will be logging my food so somehow SP has kept me sticking with moderation. I find a couple good friends and merely sit and chat with them rather then cruise the food tables. - 10/13/2008   3:26:16 PM
  • 68
    I try to choose more healthy stuff and less not healthy stuff. After I'm done, I get rid of my plate so I can't get more. - 10/13/2008   12:36:38 PM
  • ANATICULA
    67
    Sounds like your problem is one similar to mine. It's not that you're hungry, it's just that you have to have something to DO. For me I have a few things I do, I have a 'worry' ring (the outer band spins around the inside one) this works well except people notice that you're fidgeting all the time, :P My other solution is to find people I know and chat with them so that I'm comfortable and don't feel out of place looking for something to do. If I'm going to a party where I don't know anyone I try to think of a few safe topics ahead of time so that I have something to talk about with people. Stuff like a book I read or a movie that I've seen. Even if they haven't read/seen it, it open the conversation and I find myself more comfortable and less inclined to snack. :) - 10/13/2008   11:21:39 AM
  • DEVILPUP
    66
    I find if I eat or drink something with a moderate amount of either fiber or protein that is healthy before, that I eat less later on. Good luck. - 10/13/2008   10:48:59 AM
  • PETITE62
    65
    I will be going to a Halloween Party, also. I am bringing a water and a healthy entree as it will be right after work. - 10/13/2008   10:31:42 AM
  • STEPFANIER
    64
    Thanks for all the useful tips, readers! - 10/13/2008   8:26:23 AM
  • 63
    This is a hard subject for me. Once I've had a treat, for me it's sugar, I almost can't stop myself. I truly understand how a drug addict feels. I find if I go into the party thinking of what I will or will not eat I stay more in control. understand how a - 10/13/2008   6:09:29 AM
  • 62
    If it is just a party with snacks and not a dinner gathering I alwasy make sure I eat a healthy meal before I go. I may give myself a few motivational talks while I am there if I seem to be leaning toward over indulgence. I'm not always successful, but I am learning NOT to beat myself up about it. - 10/13/2008   12:08:30 AM
  • 61
    I eat a small healthy snack before so that I'm not hungry. Then I walk around with a glass of a healthy beverage and concentrate on the people around me, not the food. I have much more fun that way!

    Beth G - 10/12/2008   11:54:11 PM
  • 60
    I know what you mean! I have this weekend coming up this month, its all about food, food and more food! I'll have to go to the gym after that for a month! Oy. - 10/12/2008   11:46:04 PM
  • 59
    I drink a lot of water - all the time. - 10/12/2008   10:27:09 PM
  • JAZZERCISEGENIE
    58
    Good news I do not go to many parties. Eat healthy as poccible or just drink water - 10/12/2008   8:48:20 PM
  • 57
    Good topic, make sure you give yourself a "good talking to" before or on the way to the party. Don't go hungry but make sure if you do indulge in something you MUST have, limit yourself and make up with healthier choices. We can not deprive ourselves or we will return to our unhealthy way. Enjoy yourself and keep your hands busy with a tall water with lime or lemon. - 10/12/2008   6:22:23 PM
  • 56
    I'm vegan so I just tell myself that things that look fattening have cheese or milk in them. It usually works. Going home this Christmas might be hard because my family is too accommodating! They will make sure they have plenty of vegan goodies for me, but I will also bring things I know the calories on! - 10/12/2008   6:20:57 PM
  • 55
    Try chewing gum. That helps me keep food out of my mouth! - 10/12/2008   6:16:04 PM
  • 54
    I also drink water at parties. I usually add a slice of lime or lemon so that the hostess does not have to worry about getting me something to drink. I also graze at the vegetable tray. I made a decision not too long ago - either I go to parties to eat or to socialize. If I go to eat, I plan ahead and reduce my calories during the day. If I go to socialize, then I don't have to eat - just drink water and nibble on some veggies. - 10/12/2008   4:42:52 PM
  • 53
    Try an apple before you go They have a lot of fiber and keep you going. - 10/12/2008   3:59:44 PM
  • 52
    It might look silly to some, but I carry a bottle of water everywhere I go. When it's finished I'll just refill it or get a glass full to hold. I've drunk a lot of water at parties! - 10/12/2008   3:07:44 PM
  • 51
    i went to a dinner party last night. i ate before i went to the party i also drank a lot of water. i stayed away from the drinks by drinking water and pigged out on the veggies and i watched the dip also. i was so proud of myself i prepared myself before i went. - 10/12/2008   2:42:38 PM
  • BUTTERFLYFIEND
    50
    I went to a sorority function last night at a resturant that had NO healthy choices. I stayed strong by not ordering food at all...opting to get a diet drink and socialize. Surprisingly, it was not as difficult as I feared. I was able to avoid trouble AND really catch up with all of my sorors! - 10/12/2008   1:10:07 PM
  • GYMRAT08
    49
    What a great thread! Here in Canada it is already Thanksgiving weekend and I will be attending my second Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow. You can see why I'm worried. These events tend to start around 2 or 3 pm and go on forever. I try to keep in mind that the operative 4 letter word is LIFE not DIET. I choose the best of the worst to eat but still can't help being disappointed at the 2# gain on the scale the next morning. - 10/12/2008   1:08:35 PM
  • 48
    Try eating a small, healthy snack or meal before you go to the parties. Also, drink lots of water! - 10/12/2008   12:57:24 PM
  • 47
    Water is my salvation. Also making sure that I ate enough protien before I leave. Protien leaves me feeling satisfied. A few almonds in my pocket gives me something to snack on without blowing the whole day. - 10/12/2008   12:41:58 PM
  • 46
    For me, I've already learned to use "mind control". I have great self control at social gatherings involving food. I remind myself of the excess sugar, fat, sodium and calories involved, think of how hard I've worked to get where I am now and instead of eating I chit chat for a few minutes and then leave. It's worked this summer at church socials, wedding receptions and cookouts. I'm sure I'll be fine during winter holiday gatherings. If you can't use self control, avoid the situation all together and stay home. - 10/12/2008   12:19:10 PM
  • BEACHTREKKER
    45
    There's a lot of awesome suggestions here. One thing that I do is to survey all the food before eating anything. I try not to eat things that I can have anytime and instead look for things that are a seasonal thing or associated with the specific holiday. If I've banked calories and am planning to have dessert, I eat only 3 bites - slowly. Bottom line is after 3 or so bites, we don't really taste anything anymore, we're just eating it because it feels good or because it's on the plate. - 10/12/2008   11:54:20 AM
  • 44
    Everyone has givin' alot of great advice.
    I'm always thankful for the fruit and veggie platters - 10/12/2008   11:51:01 AM
  • 43
    I am going to a church potluck today...the ultimate in diet temptation! - 10/12/2008   11:19:08 AM
  • 42
    Everyone here has given such great advice already! One of my tips to not snacking is chewing gum. At work I am surrounded my un-healthy snacks, when I am chewing gum I can't eat them. Also, if you feel you need to drink a lot, allow yourself to drink your beverage of choice, but limit yourself to just one glass and then drink some water. That way you don't feel as if you are cheating yourself, but you are still being healthy! - 10/12/2008   10:53:21 AM

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