Has the Technology Wave Gone Too Far?
Last week I wrote a blog about working balance into my life for 2011. This was not a hasty goal but one I have been reflecting on for many months now. It seems as though the more gadgets I get, everything from my iPhone, to my iTouch, to my iPad, to my laptop, to my GPS, even my Garmin Forerunner for running, the more I am tethered to a source of technology. And in doing so the more isolated I have become. Instead of picking up the phone, I can send a text or email which isn't always met with the response I expect as the written word doesn't always carry the intonation I had intended, but it is convenient.
A few weeks ago my husband and I were having a nice dinner at a family style restaurant when we saw a family of five sitting at a table. I assume it was Mom, Dad and their three kids. The Mom was sitting quietly looking around sipping on her tea, while the Dad spent his time looking at his cell phone, and all the kids were texting or playing games on their cell phones. What I didn't see was a family conversing and experiencing a meal as a family, well at least not the way I envision families spending a meal together.
The technology jab didn't stop there. Last month when I was running the Las Vegas Rock N Roll Half-Marathon/Marathon, I was running by a young lady whom I believed was trying to talk to me. In my silly way I tried to ask her what she was saying, but I never got a response. I kept talking louder and still no response, and that was when I realized she wasn't talking to me, she was talking on her cell phone in the middle of a race.
Even friends who work in offices have told me that it is far easier to send an email or an instant message to their co-workers than it is to get up from their desk to converse about an issue. Once again keeping that isolation going.
I grew up in the pre-cable world of television--in fact our first television was a small black and white, set that sat on a stand that took up less than four feet of space. And get this, for many years we only had one set for the entire family. According to a 2006 study the average household has more televisions than there are family members and the Howards are right with them. For the two of us we have three TVs.
When I was in high school I remember when the Sony Walkman was gadget of the day for those wanting to listen to music in private. They were so big that you had to carry them or wear them on your waistband. Now I have an iPod Nano that is the size of a large postage stamp that allows me to not only to listen to all my favorite tunes, but I can get radio as well.
And let's not begin to talk about our first computer my husband and I owned way back in 1983. That year we became the proud owners of the IBM PC, Jr. Smart phones today can do a million more things than the Jr, but it was just the beginning of things to come in the world of technology. Today we now own two desk-tops, two laptops, an iPad, and one notebook for two of us!
In a few months I will be turning 50 and maybe there is a need for me to look back on my life with a little nostalgia. Times when TV was less important than going outside and playing with your friends. When going to the swimming pool and riding our bikes were activities that we had no clue at the time were actually keeping us healthy and fit, but we considered fun. When we were required to be home for dinner as a family and share our day's happenings. When getting a phone in your room as a teenage meant you were developing true independence, or so you thought.
Don't get me wrong, I am all for technology, after all it allows me to work out of my home and converse via the written word with hundreds of people around the world every day. I love being able to go for a run and listen to my favorite tunes without carrying an extra pound or two of equipment with me. I love knowing that I have a way to get in contact with my husband or the police if something were to happen on my runs. I love knowing that my daughter can contact me anytime she needs something. There is a sense of peace knowing that I am not cut off from the world regardless of whether I am on a run or in the grocery store. But I do wonder how all this technology has changed the way we converse and interact with the world around us.
This is why I have decided that I must set a goal to limit my time on the computer and phone. I am joining a Pilates and strength training class just so that I can have daily interaction with people. I hope to get a group of friends to run/walk with me on Saturday or Sunday mornings. I even plan on doing some volunteer work for my local run club and other charities so that I have that people interaction. After all, isn't that what life is all about-- being and interacting with others. Gadgets can't give love, hugs and affirmations, but people can and do. And for that reason, I am going to use this time to break free of Tweeting, and limit my time Facebooking so if you do not get a response, I am not ignoring you, I am just out living my life.
Do you feel tethered to technology? What are some steps you have taken to break free?
A few weeks ago my husband and I were having a nice dinner at a family style restaurant when we saw a family of five sitting at a table. I assume it was Mom, Dad and their three kids. The Mom was sitting quietly looking around sipping on her tea, while the Dad spent his time looking at his cell phone, and all the kids were texting or playing games on their cell phones. What I didn't see was a family conversing and experiencing a meal as a family, well at least not the way I envision families spending a meal together.
The technology jab didn't stop there. Last month when I was running the Las Vegas Rock N Roll Half-Marathon/Marathon, I was running by a young lady whom I believed was trying to talk to me. In my silly way I tried to ask her what she was saying, but I never got a response. I kept talking louder and still no response, and that was when I realized she wasn't talking to me, she was talking on her cell phone in the middle of a race.
Even friends who work in offices have told me that it is far easier to send an email or an instant message to their co-workers than it is to get up from their desk to converse about an issue. Once again keeping that isolation going.
I grew up in the pre-cable world of television--in fact our first television was a small black and white, set that sat on a stand that took up less than four feet of space. And get this, for many years we only had one set for the entire family. According to a 2006 study the average household has more televisions than there are family members and the Howards are right with them. For the two of us we have three TVs.
When I was in high school I remember when the Sony Walkman was gadget of the day for those wanting to listen to music in private. They were so big that you had to carry them or wear them on your waistband. Now I have an iPod Nano that is the size of a large postage stamp that allows me to not only to listen to all my favorite tunes, but I can get radio as well.
And let's not begin to talk about our first computer my husband and I owned way back in 1983. That year we became the proud owners of the IBM PC, Jr. Smart phones today can do a million more things than the Jr, but it was just the beginning of things to come in the world of technology. Today we now own two desk-tops, two laptops, an iPad, and one notebook for two of us!
In a few months I will be turning 50 and maybe there is a need for me to look back on my life with a little nostalgia. Times when TV was less important than going outside and playing with your friends. When going to the swimming pool and riding our bikes were activities that we had no clue at the time were actually keeping us healthy and fit, but we considered fun. When we were required to be home for dinner as a family and share our day's happenings. When getting a phone in your room as a teenage meant you were developing true independence, or so you thought.
Don't get me wrong, I am all for technology, after all it allows me to work out of my home and converse via the written word with hundreds of people around the world every day. I love being able to go for a run and listen to my favorite tunes without carrying an extra pound or two of equipment with me. I love knowing that I have a way to get in contact with my husband or the police if something were to happen on my runs. I love knowing that my daughter can contact me anytime she needs something. There is a sense of peace knowing that I am not cut off from the world regardless of whether I am on a run or in the grocery store. But I do wonder how all this technology has changed the way we converse and interact with the world around us.
This is why I have decided that I must set a goal to limit my time on the computer and phone. I am joining a Pilates and strength training class just so that I can have daily interaction with people. I hope to get a group of friends to run/walk with me on Saturday or Sunday mornings. I even plan on doing some volunteer work for my local run club and other charities so that I have that people interaction. After all, isn't that what life is all about-- being and interacting with others. Gadgets can't give love, hugs and affirmations, but people can and do. And for that reason, I am going to use this time to break free of Tweeting, and limit my time Facebooking so if you do not get a response, I am not ignoring you, I am just out living my life.
Do you feel tethered to technology? What are some steps you have taken to break free?
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http://www.advicebreakingup.org - 1/27/2011 1:43:39 AM
There has to be a balance in real life and your Virtual world. - 1/13/2011 2:27:02 PM
I really think there should be rules put in place not only for children but adults. Here in our State and the bordering one have laws against cell phone use while driving but many people ignore it and there are many close calls. I hate coming upon someone with an ear bud or cell phone stuck to their ear. Many time their voices are too loud, sharing with everyone their personal conversation as well as acting like they have precedents over the aisles etc., as they are in a hurry etc.
My cell, for emergencies, stays shut off and few have the number for it and it will stay that way. There needs to be more curtesy and manners used when any device is in use. - 1/11/2011 4:21:50 PM
I envision health care becoming more and more about accountability and the ATTAINMENT of health (with the aid and support of others like here on SP) and not just disease prevention and treatment. Thanks to technology, people are more knowledgeable and participatory in health decisions. It’s a wonderful thing.
- 1/11/2011 2:29:57 PM
The pvr allows us to choose the programming and manage our tv time and viewing in appropriate ways.We watch together.
The wii allows us to play together particularly in the winter but we play board games as well, like Trouble and Dominos and Goblet jr.
The dsixl: The dsi is the XL=extra large screen, because Mommy and Daddy both wear bifocals and sometimes we need to read the directions!Now if they could only make the buttons a bit larger that would be great.
I think you can manage the technology and create a balance but you need to have that awareness in order to do so. - 1/11/2011 9:45:42 AM
I quit f/b cold turkey as something my husband still can't believe. I was so addicted. - 1/10/2011 9:17:12 PM
Technology has its "place", but we also need to know where, when and how to "place" it!
Thanks for such a wonderful blog. - 1/10/2011 8:15:20 PM
I use my cell phone only when absolutely necessary and especially value it for car emergencies, to let someone know I'll be late, and such. I don't play computer games or hang out in chat rooms or on social sites. I use my computer for work, for research, and for emailing a select group of family and friends. And I'm happy to have such a resource.
Cell phone use especially scares me. I've almost been hit so many times by cars making left turns without the right away as the drivers busily talked on their phones--even though using a cell while driving is illegal in my state. Then there are the pedestrians who walk along jabbering away as they step into the intersection against the light. Fortunately I inherited fast reflexes from my father. - 1/10/2011 7:44:16 PM
I totally agree with you. I see it in the classroom - my children (students) are becoming more and more socially "retarded" pardon the political incorrectness, but they are uncomfortable talking to other people but they text like crazy - and what really gets me is the one who is for all intensive purposes illiterate. He is MR - IQ is low enough for that label, but he said he texts his friends - I'd just love to "read" one. But they can't "speak" comfortably with one another. And - you know if you want to break-up with someone - just text them it's over! The technology is great - as I sit here "listening" to Pandora on my cell phone - but limits need to be set.
I'm happy for the social interactions available on places like FB - but still as my status said yesterday when I spent the entire day by myself - Isolation is highly over-rated! I need my daily quotient of hugs - but that happens less and less these days. - 1/10/2011 4:10:19 PM
- 1/10/2011 10:43:57 AM
I was born in 1976, and I actually miss the days of no cell phones and internet sometimes. Miraculously we survived for so long without them! I'm not saying technology is all bad, but it's a totally different world now, and it's especially hard trying to raise kids and keeping them out of trouble. They have access to so much more (good and bad) that we ever did. - 1/10/2011 10:34:30 AM
I feel that the use of cell phones (blackberries, iphones, etc) has taken a society that was already getting rude and inpatient and turned it into one that expects instant gratification not matter what.
I have a cell phone - I only use it for calling someone. Texting is blocked by my provider at my request and I don't have access to the internet from it. It is just a phone and it does not even take pictures. I like it that way. I will need to replace it sometime and I know I will be bombarded with all the latest and greatest that I don't want. I have seen on another post - technology does not own me. I use it as a tool as much as I want but I can get by without it.
One of the biggest concerns we should have is the kids today - they are so focused on the the "phone" they are not paying attention to what is happening around them. How many times do you see a teenager walking down the sidewalk looking only at the gadget in their hands - that is their world They won't see the creep looking for a target to snatch and molest them. I know it is not happening to every one of them, but is happening often enough. Not being aware of your surroundings makes you more vulnerable to the "bad guys" looking for a target. I don't want to sound paranoid, but it is happening every day out there.
Gadget lovers - Look Up, Look around, Pay attention. You are allowing yourself to be a target otherwise.
And I won't get into the to poor grammar, punctuation, spelling, etc. that all this technology has created.......Does today's generation know how to write by hand?
- 1/10/2011 10:15:49 AM
No Facebook for me, no IM on personal; computers, and the cell phones are used when they are needed. Nobody needs to know what color socks I'm wearing, or what I'm having for lunch, what color the signal light is, etc.
Took my son, a true music buff, to see Bob Dylan recently. Tickets were expensive. A young woman/girl in front of us, with her parents, spent the entire concert texting.. What a waste.
- 1/10/2011 9:46:21 AM
I only have about 30 Facebook friends, and most of them are family. I deactivated my account because I was tired of it. It took more than a month before anyone noticed because I use it mainly to share pictures with my family. This year my husband and I are getting out there in the world, living life, and forming face to face connections. (Though we may use Facebook to RSVP to events.) - 1/10/2011 9:17:32 AM
Kids nowadays have become so much dull because of the evergrowing technology. I went to a birthday party of a kid one day and I was shocked to find out that I was more excited about birthday games than the kids were. They just have a different view to entertainment now. It's more about sitting infront of the computer or just engrossed with your mobile. - 1/10/2011 8:27:17 AM
To me, a friend is someone who has reached out to you when the chips are down, with hugs and help, and who can also accept them in return. Cyber goodies may make many smile, but when one is grieving the loss of an aging parent or scared about an upcoming medical procedure, the online comments are nice, but the real hugs and the offer of a meal or a ride or just an ear are priceless.
I'm glad I have spark, and a portable audio reading device which allows me to listen to books while doing tedious chors or riding the recumbent bike, but the time with people is what has made me who I am.
We had a rule when the kids were growing up that no TV show would ever interfere with family time. If a kid wouldn't play with a friend or refused to go to dinner with us, the TV was off limits for a time. We still never watch TV while at the table. In fact, we dumped cable, and haven't looked bac! - 1/10/2011 1:50:57 AM
If you look in old newspapers, you can see the same anti-technology viewpoints when telephones first became widely available. Even books and the printed word were at one point seen as taking away from face to face communication and "real life". Technology is not the problem--it's just a tool. A cell phone and a hammer can both be misused, but there's nothing inherently wrong about either.
(I have to say, I also find it pretty amusing when arguments about the value of technology occur online. Does that seem ironic to anyone else?) - 1/10/2011 1:20:14 AM
- 1/9/2011 11:49:03 PM
Sometimes I wish though I wouldn't have one.... - 1/9/2011 11:46:04 PM
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