Change Your Actions, Change Your Attitude

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4/27/2012 10:00 AM   :  83 comments   :  17,781 Views

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I went shopping for some new yoga pants the other day. When I go shopping, I go with my old 460-pound Beth mentality, trying on sizes larger than I need. The other day in the dressing room, a clerk brought me a 3x and a 4x, so which should I try first? I looked at myself in the mirror and asked if I believed in myself enough to try the smaller ones on first. That's how I came to buy my first 3x pants in over 20 years (I used to wear a 7/8x).
 
Having learned from that experience, I've been trying on 2x clothing and buying it.  3X clothing still fits, depending on the cut.  I was brazen enough to order clothes in a size 2x from a catalog and they FIT!!!  The moral of the story is to believe in yourself and always give yourself the credit you deserve. 

When I originally set my goal, I was so scared that I wouldn't even be able to lose 50 pounds and maintain it. Now I've lost 200 and my goal of 250 seems only like a resting point before bigger and better things. It's still a little scary, but I'm up for the task. That would be 260 pounds lost total. When I get there, that might seem like a resting point.
 
All of the small victories I've had like this have spurred me on further.  If you'd asked me at 460 pounds if I could have lost 20 pounds, I would have shamefully said ''No.'' Well, I was right at that point.  I couldn't.  It isn't easy to psych yourself up when all you've dealt with is failure. 
 
But now, I have a different perspective. I'm making a statement with my actions. Every day, I am retraining my mind with my behavior.

To turn your attitude around, you need to complete successful actions.  What can you do this week?  No, not forever, just this week.  Give yourself a chance to succeed at something for a week.  Can you add more fruits and vegetables this week, drink more water the next week, do 10 minutes of exercise the third week, and then practice all three on week four?

If you try just a week at a time, you will change into a water-drinking, veggie-eating, exercising person by the end of the month. YAY YOU!  Now you decide on your next actions to retrain your brain to become the person that you want to see in the mirror.

It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight.  What would your ''ideal self'' do in various situations? I think of this ALL of the time.  My ideal self does eat treats, but not every day. She splits meals, orders small, never cleans up left overs  by treating her body like a garbage disposal, and she finds way to move, despite her disabilities. 

Yes, I've lost 200 pounds, but that leaves me at 259, which is still very obese. But I choose not to think of myself that way.  I think of myself now as having an ''inner fat voice.''  That's the voice that tells me things like ''Order large'' and ''Skipping workouts won't hurt this week.''  I say ''Shhhh!  You're my fat girl voice!'' I'm DONE being the fat girl.  Check out the Done Being the Fat Girl SparkTeam if you feel the same way.

Other good teams to change your attitude, where it really starts, are the Chair Exercise SparkTeam, the Progress not Perfection SparkTeam, and last but not least, a team I hold dearly: the Losing Weight and Disabled SparkTeam.
 
There are many more attitude-changing teams on SparkPeople.  Look around and see what is out there to help you meet your specific needs.  Remember, it's never too late in the game and nothing is hopeless.

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  • 33
    Beth, you never cease to inspire me..I love your approach. I describe it as "baby steps" but I haven't perfected it..but with your inspiration, I just might!! - 4/28/2012   6:35:05 AM
  • 32
    I love your comment about not losing weight to become the person you want to be, but becoming the person you want to be to lose weight. That will add that one to my vision collage and will be a great inspiration each day. Thanks for sharing your journey. Congrats on your success! - 4/27/2012   10:54:56 PM
  • 31
    I like what you said about "giving ourselves a chance to succeed at something for a week", many times I get so anxious to change and try to change it all at once. It is times like that I become so overwhelmed and give up. I believe, at that time, that I am a total failure. Thanks for reminding me that show and easy wins the race. I know that it takes time to change behaviors and attitudes that we have taken a lifetime to build. - 4/27/2012   6:05:04 PM
  • TREASUREGURL
    30
    You "guys" are so wonderful. This is soooo inspirational and motivational! Thanks for sharing and keep up the good work. Together, we can help each other to stay on track and reach our goals. I am so pumped! - 4/27/2012   4:57:41 PM
  • 29
    I just wrote a similar post on my blog page. It is the mental aspect of this that will shoot me down more than anything.

    Thanks for your post. You are an inspiration. - 4/27/2012   4:04:15 PM
  • 28
    I just wrote a similar post on my blog page. It is the mental aspect of this that will shoot me down more than anything.

    Thanks for your post. You are an inspiration. - 4/27/2012   4:03:59 PM
  • 27
    I just wrote a similar post on my blog page. It is the mental aspect of this that will shoot me down more than anything.

    Thanks for your post. You are an inspiration. - 4/27/2012   3:58:33 PM
  • 26
    Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! I really needed this today. - 4/27/2012   2:15:58 PM
  • BLUEMANXCAT
    25
    ditto to everything posted here! i really needed a bit of motivation today, and this did it for me! :) - 4/27/2012   1:46:15 PM
  • YZARAGO11
    24
    One day I will be encouraging others like you have done for me. Way to go! - 4/27/2012   1:45:32 PM
  • MWHIGGINS
    23
    Better copyright this line quick! "It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight." I so love that. Thank you for sharing with us. - 4/27/2012   1:44:19 PM
  • ANGELAJEAN2
    22
    Thank you so much for this!!! What a champion you are :) - 4/27/2012   1:26:51 PM
  • ACICEDA
    21
    Nice blog. I have had a challenging couple of weeks and put on the weight I had lost at the restart of my program. What finally broke the mold was I got back on the treadmill to run. Now I had run at a 9min/mile pace on the 20th for 1.5 miles. This was going 10min/mile pace which is my endurance race as I am starting my training. I couldn't stand it. I could only get a mile done and then I walked for about 50 more minutes listening to some good tunes. So, in short...that small success (even if it was only a mile and I wanted between 2 - 3) has helped restart and remotivate me.

    Good for you on your success and enjoy. - 4/27/2012   1:23:05 PM
  • 20
    You have such a way with words. Thanks for this blog. It means a lot to me that you speak from the heart.

    And CONGRATS!! - 4/27/2012   1:07:21 PM
  • 19
    == It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight. ==

    This is SO important and such the epitome of what a lifestyle change is about. If we're forcing ourselves to eat a certain way, forcing ourselves to work out a certain way, but always inside have the idea that this isn't us, that we're just doing it to "get skinny", we aren't making sustainable changes. - 4/27/2012   12:57:03 PM
  • BONHUT1992
    18
    You are awesome! And what a motivating blog. I like how you didn't and don't try to do everything all at once. I like your "one week at a time" way of doing things. That is something I will probably put to use as I start my new "journey". Thank you for being so inspiring. - 4/27/2012   12:56:49 PM
  • 17
    Kudos to you for your insight and wisdom. You are so right. Losing the weight is not a "magic wand" that changes one's life. Changing one's life will produce the weight loss (it's like the icing on the cake). You have the right attitude to take you all the way to your goal and enjoy the trip as you go.

    - 4/27/2012   12:56:32 PM
  • 16
    Beth, you are so eloquent in expressing so clearly what this journey is about:
    "It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight." and "To turn your attitude around, you need to complete successful actions."
    I've been trying to get back into the habit of tracking and exercising. I had a streak of a few weeks, but recently I've been sick (asthma) on top of work being crazy busy. So rather than make myself crazy because I didn't get a chance to log in or track the conference food I've been fueling myself with, I had already decided that *today* I will make healthy choices and track. Rather than try to go back and remember and try to make history perfect, I'll use the time I have today to perfect this moment. Which will set the stage for the next moment. Thank you so much for inspiring all of us, especially me. :) - 4/27/2012   12:41:02 PM
  • 15
    I loved the part about the being the "vegetable-eating, water-drinking," exercising person, and the part about becoming the person you want to be to lose weight, and not visa-versa. This was really a great blog. Keep on Sparking! - 4/27/2012   12:22:51 PM
  • 14
    Good for you! What an inspiration. I love your line, "It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight." That can be applied to so many things in addition to weight loss - to any of those nasty little habits that require attitude changes.
    Thank you so much for sharing. I wish you well in your continued journey. I just know you'll reach your desired destination~ - 4/27/2012   12:04:59 PM
  • BALBAINS
    13
    Way to go! I know its not easy to lose your weight what you did it, congrats for getting close to your goal. I am getting their to with the help of SP have a faith in you and keep going. Thanks for the blog today, I guess I need this today - 4/27/2012   11:57:37 AM
  • RRCHRISTIANO
    12
    Just what I needed to hear! This IS doable! One week at a time! Hooray for you! Keep up the good work and I hope I find my inner strength to do the same! You are an inspiration :) - 4/27/2012   11:51:39 AM
  • 11
    Beth, this is a very inspiring article! I love it! Your healthy lifestyle is the most important thing and one day at a time is how we can get there! Changing one part at a time and putting it together after practicing each a week is perfect! Love your ideas and attitude! You are one of my longest time Sparkfriends and I value you and all you are sharing with us. ;) - 4/27/2012   11:49:57 AM
  • 10
    I guess it's time for one of my quotes again:

    "Watch your thoughts, for they become words.Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. What we think, we become. " M.Thatcher - 4/27/2012   11:46:37 AM
  • 9
    WOW, just what I needed to read - Attitude Adjustment 101! I need to print this out:) - 4/27/2012   11:30:53 AM
  • 8
    Your continuing progress and inspiration are so thrilling. - 4/27/2012   11:09:07 AM
  • 7
    I really like this: "It isn't about losing weight to become the person you want to be; it's becoming the person you want to be to lose weight." and I may have to put this on my sparkpage... Thanks for sharing! - 4/27/2012   10:48:36 AM
  • 6
    I really needed to read this today. Thank you for sharing. - 4/27/2012   10:48:03 AM
  • 5
    I bought size 16 pants last night for the first time in...well, a long long time. I actually talked to a sales person for help in finding the right fit, because all I knew was my old pants were way too loose now. I used to wear size 18-20 depending on the cut. She eyeballed me, pulled 15s and 16s off the shelf, and after all the regular pants were too long, encouraged me to try the petites. Yes, I'm 5'7", but I have a long torso. Apparantly I need petites pants to fit properly in the leg. After so many years, it was lovely to have personal sales attention and finding clothes that fit. The only trouble is...I'm hoping in another 3 months I'll have to go pants shopping again because these ones are too loose. :) - 4/27/2012   10:46:39 AM
  • TAILSPIN14
    4
    Thanks for sharing. You helped me put some of my recent over expectations that I didn't meet back into persepective. - 4/27/2012   10:36:16 AM
  • 3
    Congrats on your weight loss! I know its not an easy task. You go girl! - 4/27/2012   10:29:39 AM
  • 2
    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It's much appreciated. You have done wonderful things for yourself and making your life over for the better.

    Also, thank you for reminding me that I do not have to change my life in giant leaps but in small steps so that I will stick to it and not give up again. - 4/27/2012   10:26:17 AM
  • 1
    Way to go! YAY YOU! "No, not forever, just this week..." That line was like the silver bullet to me! You're an inspiration. You're doing the journey and celebrating along the way, so PROUD of you! - 4/27/2012   10:25:30 AM

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